Picture this: you’re a single dad of two young girls, and your ex has a new boyfriend who’s already moved in with them. One day, your ex asks you to put this new guy on your daughters’ school emergency contact list. What would you do? ♂️ That’s the dilemma facing our hero dad in this story. Let’s dive into the details and see if he’s making the right call…
The Situation: Single Dad and New Boyfriend
Enter Shaun, the New Boyfriend
The Request: Adding Shaun to Emergency List
Mom’s Argument: Shaun’s New Car
Mom’s Explanation: Work vs. Emergencies
Dad’s Response: No Way, José!
Dad’s Take: Delusional and Unsafe
Mom’s Reaction: Furious and Accusatory
The Aftermath: More Calls and Pressure
In-Laws Weigh In: Dad Faces Heat
Dad’s Dilemma: Protecting His Daughters or Being Petty? ♂️
Our single dad finds himself in a tough spot: his ex wants to add her new boyfriend, Shaun, to their daughters’ school emergency contact list, claiming she might not be available due to work. Dad’s not having it, arguing that Shaun’s only been around for 4 months and shouldn’t be trusted in an emergency. The situation escalates as mom accuses him of being jealous and uncooperative, and even their in-laws get involved. Now, dad is left wondering if he’s doing the right thing or just being petty. Let’s see what the internet has to say about this sticky situation…
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Protecting his daughters from mom’s 4-month relationship NTA
Trust your instincts and do a background check on him. ️♂️
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Father prioritizes child’s safety over new stepdad. NTA
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Ex’s new boyfriend not suitable as emergency contact, NTA.
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NTA for dad who won’t put daughter’s new stepdad on list
Concerned commenter questions if ex did background check on stepdad.
Ex accuses dad of what she’s guilty of, NTA
Father prioritizes daughter’s safety over daughter’s stepdad’s feelings
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NTA. Boyfriend of 4 months not a suitable emergency contact
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Four months too soon to trust stepdad on emergency list
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Emergency contact needs to be permanent. NTA for refusing.
Mom’s boyfriend not emergency contact, NTA according to comment.
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Prioritizing safety over peer pressure. Good call, NTA.
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Advice for OP to handle ex-wife without name-calling. NTA
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Trust must be earned, and he’s a nobody. NTA
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NTA, but alternative pick-up arrangement may be necessary
Trust is earned, not given. NTA for protecting your daughter
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Setting boundaries with new partner, but tact could improve
Mom’s needs before the kids? NTA wins.
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User advises caution and suggests doing background check on stepdad.
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Dad stands his ground against daughter’s questionable judgement
NTA, but offering solutions could have been a better approach
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Set boundaries with school to avoid stepdad’s involvement. #NTA
Dating for 4 months? No way. NTA wins this round!
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Parent refuses to put stepdad on emergency list. NTA . Supportive comment.
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