When it comes to paying for college, most parents are willing to go the extra mile to help their children succeed. But what happens when one child demands equal treatment, even if it means getting a second college degree? Meet this dad, who’s caught in the middle of a family feud after refusing to pay for his son’s second college degree. As the drama unfolds, we’ll see how far this father is willing to go to protect his family’s finances and his relationship with his son.
The Family and Education Background

Dad’s Ivy League Connection

Oldest Son’s Struggles

Sibling Rivalry Intensifies

Dad’s Financial Support

A Surprise Twist

Son’s Expectations

Dad’s Limitations

Accusations Fly ️

Son’s Quest for Equality ⚖️

Placing Blame

Dad’s Heartache

Family Takes Sides

Escalating Tensions

Power Struggles

Relationships at Risk ️

Dad’s Dilemma: Paying for More Degrees or Saving the Family?
Caught in a whirlwind of family drama, this dad is trying to navigate the tricky waters of paying for college degrees and maintaining family harmony. His oldest son, who already has a degree and a great job, is demanding that dad pay for another undergraduate degree from a prestigious college, just like his siblings. However, dad’s financial resources are stretched thin, and he’s worried about the impact on his family relationships. As the battle lines are drawn, the family is divided, with grandparents even offering to pay for tuition they can’t afford. Will this dad find a way to resolve the conflict and save his relationship with his son? Only time will tell.
Protecting parents from financial manipulation by entitled son

NTA. Don’t overextend yourself paying extra for him. He has a degree.

NTA. Parenting done right. Time for son to take responsibility.

NTA. Son wants Ivy League degree, but dad can’t pay. Son’s entitled attitude causes family tension.

Can OP’s son even apply for a second degree?

Commenter exposes flaws in dad’s reasoning with sass
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Generous dad refuses to pay for son’s second degree ♂️

Fairness in paying for college degrees debated.

Curious about son’s motive for second undergrad degree

Adult child wants second degree, NTA refuses to pay
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Equal payment for college is fair. Eldest son may feel jealous

Son being selfish and jealous, NTA. Discuss expenses and safeguard.

Son expects dad to favor him over youngest, NTA.

NTA being fair, oldest needs attitude overhaul

Parental responsibility ends with first degree. NTA
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Equal funds allocated for each child’s education. NTA

Parenting strategy differences questioned, power of attorney raised.

Son wants second degree, dad says no. Commenters side with dad

Father’s neglect caused son’s academic struggles. NTA for question, but…

Providing education is enough. NTA for not paying again.
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One degree is enough . Son needs to take responsibility. NTA.

NTA, but consider power of attorney or financial conversation

A son’s envy and emotional issues, but NAH for dad’s decision

Son wants second degree, dad says NTA, take responsibility.

Parent questioned on son’s education expenses. INFO requested for clarity.

Navigating family conflicts with love and boundaries

Commenter questions possibility of son’s second degree at Ivy League.

NTA. Parent shouldn’t have to pay for second degree.

Generous dad refuses to pay for son’s second degree

Self-sufficiency is key. Grateful for parents’ undergrad support. NTA

Setting limits on education funds, tough but reasonable decision.

NTA commenter advises OP to speak with parents and show son the cost of his initial tuition and siblings’ tuition. Replies express sympathy and concern for OP’s situation.

Dad cuts off son’s college funding. Commenters agree.

No sympathy for entitled son. Dad made the right call.

One degree per kid? NTA dad sparks debate

Commenter shares personal experience and advises dad to let son take responsibility.

NTA but parenting plays a role in shaping behavior

NTA, son wants a second degree for fairness, unreasonable. ♂️

Ungrateful son expects dad to pay for second degree

Self-made success story encourages son to take responsibility

Envious commenter praises OP for not funding entitled son’s education

NTA defends son’s right to pursue education despite dad’s refusal

Inclusive dad or entitled son? NAH suggests family talk

One ticket for education, no sympathy for second degree

Son wants second degree, but dad won’t pay ♂️
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Sibling envy leads to second degree, commenter calls it dumb ♂️

Eldest son needs counseling, not another degree.

Commenter criticizes son’s choice of second undergrad degree.

Commenter shares personal experience and advises against entitlement.

NTA dad: pay for grad degree, not second college degree

Honesty is the best policy Discuss finances openly with son

NTA. Congratulatory message and advice for father-son heart-to-heart

Parent acknowledges child’s past mistakes, suggests saving fund for university.

Curious about son’s education path and dad’s financial boundaries

Building a bond with your son can help him feel less different

Commenter questions validity of story and offers practical advice.

NTA commenter suggests tough love for entitled son

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Grateful or entitled? The debate over paying for education.
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State schools can be prestigious too! NTA for setting boundaries.

Encouraging response to NTA comment about son’s college degree
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Commenter calls son a selfish asswipe, no replies.
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Fair deal! Parents paid for undergrad, but not grad school
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Short and sweet: commenter thinks dad is NTA

Protect your parents and let him pay for his own degree

NTA. Suggest a compromise for a higher status with less cost

Suggests spreadsheet to show son he was treated equally.

One degree is enough , no value in second degree

Persuade parents with numbers? Tips for convincing them.

Parental responsibility vs. financial independence

Oldest son’s issues could worsen, NTA/NAH, needs discussion

NTA for not paying for son’s second degree.
