Dad Puts Fiancée on Couch for Daughter’s Comfort

When it comes to family dynamics, things can get complicated, especially when you’re trying to balance the needs of a child with those of a partner. In this case, a 43-year-old dad found himself in a tricky situation during a hotel stay with his fiancée and his 16-year-old daughter. His daughter, who is on the autism spectrum and has anxiety from previous trauma, was uncomfortable sleeping on the pull-out couch in their hotel room. So, he asked his fiancée to sleep on the couch so his daughter could sleep in the bed with him. But was this the right move?

The Hotel Dilemma

Sleeping Arrangements

Daughter’s Request ️

Fiancée’s Reaction

The Aftermath

Fiancée’s Feelings

The Argument

Walking Away

Fiancée’s Perspective ️

A Hindsight Realization ‍♂️

The Balancing Act of Family Needs

In this emotionally charged situation, the dad tried to find a solution that would help his daughter feel comfortable while also respecting his fiancée’s needs. However, his fiancée felt disrespected and sidelined when she had to sleep on the pull-out couch. While the dad acknowledges that he should have considered getting two beds, he also emphasizes the importance of understanding his daughter’s unique needs. Let’s take a look at some of the top reactions to this situation…

User acknowledges fault, suggests two beds and praises fiancé

Listen to your fiancée and talk through her feelings

Booking a one bed hotel room with a pullout bed? YTA.

Fiancée kicked out of bed for daughter – YTA according to comments

Fiancée slept on pull out, dad called YTA for daughter’s comfort

Redditor calls out dad for kicking fiancée out of bed. YTA.

A critical comment on co-parenting and autism accommodations.

Autistic commenter suggests setting boundaries for comfort, YTA criticized.

Redditors criticize dad for coddling his 16-year-old daughter. YTA.

Book accommodation that accommodates your daughter, YTA for this.

Father prioritized daughter’s comfort, but upset fiancée. YTA.

Redditor calls out OP for dismissively shutting down fiancée’s feelings

Parenting advice gone wrong: YTA for letting your kid run things

Fiancée kicked out of bed for daughter, YTA according to comment.

Enabling or caring? A divisive debate on family dynamics.

Autistic commenter suggests compromise for dad and fiancée’s needs

Accommodating daughter with autism, but need to set boundaries. ESH.

OP is YTA for not considering daughter’s needs beforehand

Fiancée made to sleep on couch, YTA for disregarding her feelings

Daughter jealous of fiancée, YTA for giving her couch ️

Father criticized for prioritizing comfort over fiancée’s

User calls out dad for prioritizing daughter over fiancée

Parenting advice for a dad who prioritized his child’s comfort.

Prioritizing daughter’s comfort over wife’s, ESH for poor planning ‍♂️

User criticizes dad for not properly accommodating daughter’s needs

Parent disagrees with dad’s sleeping arrangements for daughter.

Dad puts daughter’s comfort first, fiancée complains afterwards. NTA

Autistic woman calls out dad’s overprotectiveness of daughter

Defending dad’s actions and calling out YTA judgments. NTA

Putting daughter’s comfort first, but fiancé is understandably upset

NTA for prioritizing daughter’s sensory needs over fiancée’s comfort

Compassion for daughter’s autism, but also for fiance’s feelings.

Fiancée kicked out of bed for daughter, told to ‘stay in line’

A commenter thinks OP is the a**hole for not setting boundaries with his fiancée and daughter beforehand

Father criticized for poor preparation and dismissive attitude towards fiancée.

Dad prioritizes daughter’s comfort, but fiancée’s feelings are valid too

Putting daughter’s comfort first in a difficult situation.

NTA for putting fiancée on couch, offered solutions, dismissed by her.

Parenting an autistic child requires balance between comfort and boundaries. ‍

Father puts daughter’s comfort first, but should’ve booked two beds. Soft YTA.

Daughter deserves autonomy and dad didn’t handle it well

Fiancé chose couch over separate room for traumatized child. NTA

Fiancé put on couch, daughter triggered. YTA for not preparing.

Accommodating daughter’s needs is good, but better planning needed. ESH

User calls out dad’s move, suggests alternative sleeping arrangements.

Parent gently calls out OP for not preplanning daughter’s comfort

Advice for future hotel bookings to avoid couch inconvenience

Putting daughter’s needs first is not being an a**hole

User calls out dad for not helping daughter develop coping mechanisms

NTA. You were a great parent to your autistic daughter

Fiancée offered alternative, small sacrifice for daughter’s comfort. NTA.

Setting boundaries with children is important, even with disabilities.

User calls out dad for prioritizing daughter over fiancée

Understanding daughter’s anxiety, OP not the a**hole in situation.

YTA for poor planning and blaming fiancé. Daughter’s needs ignored.

Sleeping arrangements spark debate over parenting and comfort levels

Fiancée needs to understand daughter comes first

Protective dad defends daughter’s comfort, shuts down creeps.

The importance of communication in special accommodations

Fiancée kicked out of bed for daughter’s comfort: YTA.

User disagrees with OP’s decision, finds Reddit comments unsettling.

Fiancé’s knowledge of daughter’s trauma questioned

Debate over appropriate accommodations for daughter with autism spectrum disorder.

Listen to your partner and avoid dismissive language.

Red flags raised in comment about dad’s behavior with daughter

Professional help needed for daughter’s anxiety, not sharing bed

Fiancée calls out dad for not getting 2 beds, AH territory

Daughter’s comfort or favoritism? YTA according to commenters ‍♀️

Autistic people can understand boundaries. Dad should have explained better.

Defending dad’s decision to prioritize autistic daughter’s comfort.

User calls out dad for not prioritizing fiancée’s feelings

Fiancée asked to sleep on couch for daughter, YTA.

Fiancée pushed out of bed due to daughter’s sensory issues. ESH.

User calls out dad for not helping daughter cope

User suggests therapy for daughter, advises better alternatives for dad’s actions.

Gender roles questioned in comment, no replies.

Poor planning and lack of empathy. YTA. ‍♂️

Putting daughter first, NTA. Fiancée should understand her needs.

Fiancée uncomfortable on couch for daughter’s comfort