Picture this: your 22-year-old son comes out as gay, and while it’s a shock to the family, everyone does their best to be supportive. Fast forward a few years, and he’s introduced you to a couple of boyfriends, no problem. But then, he brings home a new guy, and things get a little… tense. The new boyfriend’s obnoxious behavior leads to a poolside showdown, and now your son thinks his dad is being unfair. As a mom caught in the middle, what do you do? Let’s dive into this family drama and see what’s really going on.
Son’s Coming Out
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Father’s Struggle
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Son’s Awareness
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New Boyfriend Alert!
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Poolside Tension
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Husband’s Outburst
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♀️ Mother’s Perspective
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❓ Seeking Perspective
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Poolside Drama: Is It Really About Sexuality?
So, here’s the tea: our protagonist’s son brings home his new boyfriend, Jonathan, who’s not exactly winning any popularity contests. During a pool day, Jonathan takes it upon himself to apply sunscreen to the father’s back, claiming it’s all in good fun. But dad’s not laughing, and he kicks Jonathan out of the house. Later, the son calls his mom, upset and questioning if he can forgive his dad for the outburst. Mom tries to reason with him, saying that if her daughter’s boyfriend did the same thing, it would be just as inappropriate. She tells her son that not everything is about his sexuality, but he hangs up on her. Now, she’s left wondering if she’s in the wrong. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
Setting boundaries: NTA comment on gay boyfriend touching dad.

Setting boundaries with in-laws. NTA for standing up.

Support for dad’s reaction to inappropriate touch. NTA.
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Consent is key, even for applying sunscreen. NTA comment.
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A thoughtful response highlighting homophobia and gaslighting.
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ESH, but father’s extreme reaction hurtful to son and inappropriate.

Disrespecting boundaries and bigotry leads to assholery. ESH

ESH situation, but father needs to stop excusing his homophobia.
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NTA for protecting boundaries, but awkward situation for everyone involved.

NTA. Disliking someone based on something that “defines” them is wrong.

ESH – A prank gone wrong, but the husband overreacted. The mom escalated.
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Double standards based on sexual orientation is not okay

Protective dad defends husband, sets boundaries for son’s boyfriend.

Consent is key. Dad did the right thing. NTA

Homophobic dad gets called out for blaming son’s gayness. ️

Consent is key, regardless of gender. NTA explained well.
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Respect boundaries regardless of gender or orientation. NTA.
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Respecting boundaries is important. Talk to your son calmly.

Challenging homophobia and preserving family bonds
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Being gay doesn’t justify being r**e. NTA for dad.

Unresolved tension between father and son beyond inappropriate touch

Touching without consent is never a prank. NTA.

Consent is key, even with your child’s partner

Accusation of son’s boyfriend leads to family drama.

Homophobia causing family rift, therapy recommended. ESH. ️

NTA dad’s discomfort with son’s bf’s behavior causes rift.

Homophobia and inappropriate touching, everyone s***s here in situation

Is dad homophobic? Missing piece to the story

Gender double standards in consent. NTA for enforcing boundaries.

Boundaries crossed, father explodes – NTA in this scenario.

Homophobia may have influenced the dad’s reaction, but the guest was inappropriate

Respectful suggestion on dealing with son’s boundary-pushing boyfriend. NTA

Unwanted touch = NTA. No one likes inappropriate behavior.

Bluntly defending gay rights: Not the a**hole

Jonathan disrespected his boyfriend’s dad. NTA.

Consent is key. NTA for setting boundaries.
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Boyfriend’s inappropriate touch led to homophobic outburst. ESH

Ultra-liberal commentator criticizes son’s boyfriend for inappropriate behavior. ️

Touching without consent is never okay. NTA for feeling violated.

Boundaries are important, but how did it happen secretly?

Respect boundaries, NTA commenter says

Awkward family dynamics and a touchy situation with a twist!

Homophobic dad overreacts to harmless prank
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Father sets boundaries with son’s boyfriend. NTA

NTA calls out sunscreen incident as disregard of boundaries

NTA, but could have been worded better. Explain feelings calmly

Respectful exes set a great example. No inappropriate touches!

Explaining boundaries and double standards to son’s father. NTA.
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NTA comment defends son’s right to be gay, calls out toxic masculinity.
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Father overreacts to son’s boyfriend touching him inappropriately. NTA.

Setting boundaries isn’t homophobic, it’s important.

Understanding the root of the problem and seeking counseling

NTA for setting boundaries, but YTA for bringing up sexuality

Struggling to call out a gay relative’s bad behavior

Father defends his reaction to son’s boyfriend. NTA.

Boyfriend’s inappropriate touch causes explosion, NTA husband reacts strongly.

Parental support lacking for son’s sexuality – commenters agree.

Evaluating the situation, ESH. Jonathan provoked, dad overreacted, son’s valid.

Being accepting doesn’t excuse inappropriate touching. ESH.

Dad shuts down disrespectful son’s boyfriend. NTA!

Unbiased opinions can help teach son’s boyfriend boundaries. #NTA
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Respect your parents’ boundaries, regardless of sexuality. NTA.

Respecting personal boundaries regardless of sexuality.

User calls out OP’s homophobia, defends son’s boyfriend.

User calls out father’s homophobia and justifies son’s actions.

Debate on son’s sexuality overshadows inappropriate touching incident. ESH.

Probing for more information on husband’s possible bigotry

Homophobia called out in response to husband’s inappropriate reaction.

Last Updated on March 15, 2024 by Diply Social Team