Imagine being in a relationship where your partner’s child is mute, and you’re faced with the decision to learn sign language to communicate with them. For one dad, his girlfriend’s refusal to learn sign language for his mute daughter Ruby has caused a major rift in their relationship. He believes she’s being selfish and lazy, while she thinks he’s being unreasonable. Is the dad’s expectation fair, or is he being overprotective? Let’s dive into the story.
Meet Ruby and Amanda

Introducing the Kids

Ruby’s Struggles

Mia’s Progress

Amanda’s Stance

Ruby’s Frustration

Dad’s Reaction

The Fight

Dad’s Expectations

Brother’s Opinion

Doubting Himself

Reasonable Expectation?

Dad vs. Girlfriend: The Sign Language Showdown
In a heated debate, a dad is at odds with his girlfriend Amanda over her refusal to learn sign language for his mute daughter Ruby. He believes Amanda is being selfish and lazy, while she thinks he’s being an a**hole and unfair. To make matters worse, the dad’s brother agrees with Amanda, saying that Ruby doesn’t ‘need’ sign language and that the dad is ‘coddling her’. Despite his anger, the dad still loves Amanda and wonders if he’s just being overprotective. Is his expectation reasonable, or is he going too far? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
NTA. Dealbreaker? Brother’s reaction made OP doubt, but surprising change.

NTA, communication is key. Don’t let others influence your decision

NAH: Dad wants girlfriend to learn sign language for daughter , but it’s a tough ask.

NAH: Learning sign language is a big commitment, 9 months in.

NTA. Dad defends daughter’s need for sign language, calls out AHs

NTA: Girlfriend’s refusal to learn sign language shows lack of commitment
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NAH. Dad wants girlfriend to learn sign language for mute daughter

Demanding effort in learning sign language for a mute child. ESH

Learning sign language takes work, but don’t resort to name-calling.

Engaging comment thread: NAH, communication barriers, and relationship advice

YTA for pressuring her to learn sign language too quickly

INFO – Were expectations clear? Is OP the right teacher for GF?

YTA for not giving her a good reason to learn

Amanda and Ruby both struggle with communication, but can find common ground ❤️

Introducing partners too soon? Better know their character first

YTA. Relationship doomed. Be considerate and stop being demanding.

Debate over learning ASL for mute daughter sparks parenting priorities

NAH – Learning sign language is a personal choice

“YTA. Not everyone can learn a new language quickly. “

NTA for expecting Amanda to learn sign language, but name-calling is wrong. ESH

Is it fair to expect equal effort from both parties?
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Learning a new language can be intimidating, offer alternatives

NTA calls learning sign language ‘bare minimum’, sparks debate
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YTA for criticizing delivery and suggesting alternative teaching methods

Learning sign language is a big commitment, but communication matters
