Cousin Blames Man for Ruining His Marriage : Whose Side Are You On?

Picture this: a happy family of three adults and two children living together harmoniously. One of the adults, Sally, is the platonic life partner of the wife and a dear friend to the husband. They’ve been living together for twenty years, and everything is just peachy . But then, enter the husband’s cousin Dave, who decides to open up his marriage with his wife Mary. When things don’t go as planned, Dave starts blaming the husband for his failed open relationship, claiming that their family setup made it look easy. Now, the husband is being pressured to apologize and help Dave fix his marriage. So, who’s really at fault here? Let’s dive into this rollercoaster of a story!

A Family Like No Other

The Unusual Setup

Introducing Sally, the Platonic Life Partner

Our Happy Household ‍ ‍ ‍

Platonic Love All Around

Team Parenting

Enter Cousin Dave and Wife Mary

Opening the Relationship… and the Drama

Dave’s Jealousy and Resentment

Blaming Me for Their Problems

Setting the Record Straight

Our Exclusive Commitments

No Outside Dating Here

Committed and Exclusive Relationships

Dave’s Delusions

Family Members Taking Sides

The Pressure to Apologize

Mary, the Real MVP

Family Friendships

Who’s the Insane One?

Misleading Cousin or Unreasonable Expectations?

In a unique family setup, the protagonist, his wife, and their platonic life partner Sally live happily together with their two children. However, when the protagonist’s cousin Dave opens up his marriage with his wife Mary and things go south, Dave starts pointing fingers. He blames the protagonist for making open relationships look easy and demands an apology. The protagonist is baffled, as their family is not in an open relationship at all, but rather a committed and exclusive one. Family members are taking sides, and the protagonist is left questioning who’s really at fault here. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…

NTA cousin learns hard lesson in underestimating partner’s attractiveness

Mind your own business and insist on privacy

Block the monkeys, have a bbq and invite Mary NTA

Adopt your cousin in law and their kids. Problem solved ‍♂️

Supportive comment on throuple and cousin’s lack of research.

NTA for not ruining cousin’s marriage. Clever twist on infidelity stories

NTA. Dave needs to take responsibility for his own marriage.

Defending polyamory and shutting down cousin’s homophobic accusations. NTA

Man’s attempt at open relationship backfires, blames wife for success.

NTA keeps Mary and cousin is an idiot

Defending a throuple and calling Dave an idiot. NTA.

Commenter warns against opening relationships and its consequences.

NTA! Dave assumed and messed up his own marriage. Not your problem

Sassy NTA comment: Swipe left on the fat old divorcee

Cousin Dave gets called out for ruining his marriage ‍♂️

Breaking the norms and finding true love ❤️, NTA for sure!

Insight into open relationships and gender dynamics with comedic flair

Sassy reply calling out the cousin’s lack of accountability

NTA stands up for themselves and calls out cousin’s mistake

NTA calls out entitled men and their tantrums

User defends wife and calls out man’s lack of accountability

Self-deprecating NTA comment about shallow cousin’s failed marriage.

NTA calls out cousin’s vanity; supports Mary and her kids

Polyamory vs Open relationships: NTA’s family works, cousin doesn’t understand

Lucky break for her, but he still doesn’t get it

Polygamy accusations unfounded, NTA.

NTA comment shuts down cousin’s blame game with humor

Open relationships aren’t for everyone, NTA for living your life

Respectful man accused of ruining marriage, but NTA.

Don’t let your cousin’s entitlement guilt-trip you. You’re NTA

Platonic girlfriend for 30 years? NTA wins family points!

A refreshing take on relationships and living arrangements ❤

NTA! Dave’s actions have consequences. Mary deserves better

Man shuts down cousin’s infidelity with a dose of reality

A man questions the idea of open relationships and polyamory.

Defending unconventional living arrangement and supporting cousin’s wife

NTA defends against unfair blame with a movie analogy

Man shares his experience of considering an open marriage, supports NTA.

Man suggests open marriage, gets jealous of wife’s happiness. NTA.

NTA commenter supports polyamorous relationship and explains QPP.

“Sally” brings joy, Dave should take responsibility for his issues

NTA but watch out for fake friends

NTA miscalculated, got envious of open relationship, now blaming others ‍♂️

NTA, your cousin is being insecure and blaming you

NTA for not being responsible for Dave’s relationship choices ‍♂️

Supportive comment, cheering on a non-malicious relationship

Open relationships aren’t for everyone, NTA for trying it out.

Unconventional living arrangement, happy for you. Cousin is desperate. NTA

Misunderstood signals lead to marriage ruin. NTA for sure

NTA. Live-in best friend twisted marriage, Mary deserves better

Invite Mary in, brother’s an asshat. Platonic love is valid

Supportive comment with a touch of humor. Keep living your best life!

Enthusiastic support for non-traditional household structure and equal partnership

Choosing in-laws over blood relatives? This NTA story says yes! ❤️

NTA defends against blame for cousin’s failed marriage

NTA. Envious commenter wants to borrow OP’s amazing friends for platonic house sharing

Supportive comment defending the person against blame in a sensitive matter

No evidence, no conclusion. NTA for sure!

Navigating polyamory isn’t for everyone. NTA for setting boundaries.

Defending against blame-shifting MIL and supporting Mary’s decision.

Mind your own business, Dave. NTA. Hope Mary’s happy

Counting success in non-monogamy? Let’s discuss.

Defending against cheating accusations, NTA. Cousin = Twat.

Cousin blames OP for marriage problems, but is he guilty?

Dave’s failed attempt at being a ladies’ man. NTA.

Family blaming OP for ruining cousin’s marriage is being unfair

AH cousin blames man for ruining marriage, sexualizing non-sexual relationship.

NTA. Savage yet truthful comment about a failed marriage

Insightful take on polyamory and open relationships

NTA. Send the post to family members to explain yourself

Don’t get involved. Ignore them and move on.

NTA finds karma ironic for cheating cousin

Cousin’s assumptions ruined his marriage, NTA for living arrangement

Don’t take responsibility for other people’s choices

Sassy comment, but no replies to spice it up ‍♂️

NTA defends platonic relationship and refutes blame for marriage failure.

NTA. Commenter suggests telling Mary and insulting cousin’s intelligence

User defends OP and calls out Dave’s assumptions.

A lighthearted response to a heavy comment

Redditors show support for OP amidst family drama

Creating a new family after a break-up. ❤

Supportive comment on non-family household with heartwarming response ❤️

Family drama at its finest. ‍♀️

Congrats on a healthy relationship! NTA, ignore the haters.