Picture this: you’re planning your dream wedding, but your fiancé’s friends and family from across the globe expect you to foot the bill for their flights and accommodations. The twist? They’re loaded and can easily afford it themselves. This is the predicament one couple found themselves in, and they’re wondering if they’re in the wrong for refusing to pay. Let’s dive into their story.
Wedding Bells in 2022
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A European Affair
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Growing Up Poor
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Two Weddings?
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Cultural Expectations?
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House Deposit on the Line
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They Can Afford It
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Fiancé Agrees
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Two Weddings for a Reason
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Grateful for Advice
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Should They Pay or Not?
This couple is planning their dream wedding in Europe, but they’re facing a dilemma. Their fiancé’s wealthy friends and family from across the globe expect them to pay for their flights and accommodations, claiming it’s part of their culture. The couple has been saving up for a house deposit and doesn’t think they should be responsible for their guests’ expenses, especially since they’re planning a second wedding closer to their friends and family. With the fiancé in agreement, they’re wondering if they’re in the wrong for refusing to pay. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
Honest conversation about finances with fiancé. NTA
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Weddings are expensive, guests’ travel expenses should not be added.

Curious commenter questions cultural context for wedding etiquette.

Wedding guests should pay for their own flights. NTA.

Skipping wedding for $1k? NTA, rich friends suck.

NTA. Don’t wipe out savings to pay for capable friends’ travel. Pressure them to show they care enough to attend your wedding.

Bride and groom not paying for rich friends’ flights. NTA.

Guests should pay for their own shit . Weddings are expensive AF

Cultural differences can lead to unexpected profits

Culture dictates guests pay their way. NTA for enforcing it.

Wedding guests should pay for themselves. NTA

Wedding drama: Two weddings, guests attending both, who pays?

Polite response to entitled friends demanding free travel.

Creative solution to wedding guest expenses

Weddings bring out the worst in people. Hang in there!
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Stick to your decision, NTA. No need to go overboard.
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Politely declining rich friends’ flight request. NTA

A savage way to deal with entitled friends

Entitled friends demand free trip to wedding, NTA stands firm.

NTA suggests optional invites and Zoom call for those who can’t attend.

Weddings are expensive, destination weddings even more so. NTA.

Savage yet polite email suggestion to avoid wedding expenses.

Weddings can be stressful, maybe it’s better to skip them

NTA. Tradition dictates bride’s family pays for wedding expenses

No free rides! Commenter from SEA calls out peer pressure.

NTA. Adults can pay for their own flights. Save the money!

NTA. Rich friends want a free vacation, not your wedding.

Culture shouldn’t be used to justify outdated expectations.

Wedding day lasts a day, financial burden lasts forever. NTA

Breaking tradition: couple refuses to pay for friends’ flights

Bride’s family expected to pay for wedding, NTA for refusing.

Let them travel on their own dime #NTA

User questions fairness of expecting friends to pay for wedding travel

True friends fly halfway around the world at their own expense
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Couple refuses to pay for entitled guests’ flights. NTA.

NTA – No need to pay for rich friends’ flights

Wedding guests should pay for their own flights, NTA.

Culture clash? NTA says friends can pay for own flights

Warm and welcoming NTA comment with great hospitality tips

Skipping the tradition, not the friendship
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Wedding ceremonies in multiple regions are common, according to commenter.

Culture only relevant to get money from others. NTA.

NTA stands their ground on wedding expenses, suggests Zoom attendance.

Clever response to entitled friends.
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Cultural differences cause conflict over wedding expenses. NTA.

Breaking tradition for financial reasons, but can they compromise?

NTA. Future in-laws can pay for their own expenses.

Breaking cultural norms doesn’t make you an a**hole

Rich friends pay for own flights to wedding. NTA wins.

NTA- Entitlement vs culture in wedding expenses discussion
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Destination wedding drama: NTA guests pay their own way

Setting boundaries and prioritizing finances for own family.
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NTA. Great tips for accommodating guests without paying for flights.

Passive-aggressive response to entitled friends.

Destination wedding drama: NTA for not paying for guests’ flights

Be honest about your financial situation and don’t feel guilty.

NTA couple refuses to pay for friends’ flights to wedding

Destination wedding with tiered hotel options, open bar, celebs attended.

Cultural differences in wedding traditions, no free rides here

Culture clash: Bride and groom refuse to pay for friends’ flights

Wedding guests should not demand the couple’s financial ruin

Zoom wedding suggested as couple refuses to pay for flights

Navigating cultural differences in wedding planning can be tricky

NTA, but consider a second reception in their country
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NTA stands their ground on wedding expenses.

Wedding culture: pay for flights, get expensive gifts in return?

Bride and groom avoid paying for flights to their wedding

Pay for who you want to come, don’t expect freebies.

Sensible suggestion to avoid spending house money on one-day event

NTA, prioritize your beliefs over outdated traditions
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Bride and groom refuse to pay for entitled friends’ flights

NTA stands united against stingy rich friends

Fairness in wedding expenses debated. No replies yet.

User questions cultural obligation to pay for flights to wedding.
