Picture this: you’re about to turn 48 and your wife is throwing you a small, adult-only birthday party. You’re excited to let loose with your closest friends, but then you find out an uninvited guest wants to bring her 5-year-old son along. Suddenly, your night of fun is in jeopardy. This is exactly what happened to one woman who had to make a tough decision: should she let the child attend or put her foot down? Let’s dive into this wild tale!
The Uninvited Guest ♀️

Mary’s Bold Request

Wife’s Change of Heart

Drawing the Line ✋

Protecting the Party Vibe

Taking a Stand

Party or No Party?

Edit: Small Party Details

Update: Problem Solved? ️♀️

Wife Takes Charge

Lesson Learned

In the End, No Kids Allowed!
After much back-and-forth, our birthday girl decided she wasn’t willing to compromise her adult-only party vibes. She asked her wife to call Mary back and insist she find a sitter for her 5-year-old. Although her wife was initially upset, they eventually resolved the issue, and Mary couldn’t attend due to a lack of childcare. ♀️ A valuable lesson was learned: next time, be clear about the guest list and party expectations from the start! Now, let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
NTA. Bringing a child to an adult party is irresponsible. ♂️

NTA for not wanting uninvited guest to change party vibe

Adults-only party means no kids, 100% NTA for enforcing it!

NTA defends decision to not bring child to adult party

Blunt communication is key when setting boundaries with pushy guests.
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ESH for inviting Mary and not having the backbone to disinvite her. ♂️

Wife breaks agreement, insists on bringing child to adult party. NTA.

Parent insists on bringing kid to adult party, ruining everyone’s time. ESH

Commenter suggests simple solution to problem.

Uninvited child at adult party? NTA but Mary is TA
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Set boundaries with uninvited guests. NTA for enforcing rules.

NTA’s logical and on-point reasons for not bringing a 5-year-old to an adult party on
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Guests uncomfortable with kid at adult party. Wife’s fault? NTA.

NTA shuts down mom’s strange request at adult birthday party.

When a kid’s birthday party meets a swingers party

Mom insists on bringing child to adult party, commenters call her out

Mom invites herself and kid to adult party, chaos ensues.

Is COVID-19 not a concern where you are?

NTA. Invite who you want. Kids and parents can be annoying

Step up and make the tough call for the sake of everyone

No kids allowed! NTA shuts down entitled mom’s request

Parent sets boundaries for adult party, not the a****e.

Spouse prioritizes social comfort over partner’s birthday. NTA wins.
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Commenter asks for more info and offers advice on party.

Uninvited guests and a toddler at a stoned BBQ party

No kids at adult parties! NTA handled it well.

Commenter doubts social distancing at adult birthday party during pandemic ♀️

Commenter calls out spineless behavior and suggests taking responsibility.

NTA suggests confronting Mary, let’s see if it works out!
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Forcing kids into adult events is not fun for anyone

Commenter questions safety of adult birthday party during pandemic.

Supportive comment encourages reflection and offers birthday wishes.

15-year-old stuck at adult party, NTA for enforcing boundaries

Bringing a 5-year-old to an adult party? Not cool

Commenter calls out pushover wife for r**e behavior. NTA

No need for a 5-year-old at adult party during COVID

Spelling mistake sparks curiosity in comment section

OP’s wife disregards wishes, manipulates and guilts. NTA.

Taking responsibility and hurt feelings in this birthday party drama ♀️

No kids at an adult party? NTA has it right

Savage burn shuts down Mary’s inappropriate behavior at party

Spouse disobeys explicit wishes, blames you. NTA.

Setting boundaries with ‘Creepy Julie’ at adult parties. NTA

NTA, but maybe don’t hire a stripper to stick it to Mary

Take control of the situation and leave without argument.

No kids allowed! Commenter supports adult-only party

Savage response to entitled mom’s party invite faux pas

NTA comment defends having adult-only parties with fiery passion.

NTA. A 5-year-old at an adult party? Not cool

Uninvited guest brings kid to adult party, commenters side with her. NTA.
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No party for the kiddo, NTA suggests getting a sitter

Avoiding confrontation? NTA comment suggests wife’s behavior pattern.

No kids allowed! Commenter supports adult-only parties.

Commenter calls out OP for being the a**hole

Setting boundaries with family can be tough

Short and sweet: NTA tells mom to back off.

Uninvited 5-year-old at adult party? NTA, wife and kid TA

Spouse’s lack of follow-through leads to awkward situation. NTA.
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Clean-up duty: Wife’s mess, husband’s responsibility? NTA says comment.

Spineless spouse? NTA suggests calling out party mom

Polite NTA comment suggests standing up to Mary.

Spineless husband gets called out for not setting boundaries

Forced out for mom’s bday party? Tell us more!

Spouse won’t fix it? Be the one to say no!

Disinvite Mary and her son to avoid adult party chaos. NTA.

Setting boundaries for events is important. No kids means no kids.

Commenter believes the mom is not the a**hole.

No kids allowed! NTA for not inviting a 5-year-old.

Wife called out in NTA comment. Drama alert!

Setting boundaries: NTA stands firm, wife and friend need compromise.

Assertive advice to stand up for oneself and set boundaries.

Don’t let a child ruin an adult party. NTA

Spouse needs to learn to say no. NTA stands firm.

Let the birthday girl have her adult party, NTA

Last Updated on June 15, 2023 by Diply Social Team