Imagine this: You’ve been together with your partner for four years, and every year, you’ve thrown a big birthday bash for him. But this year, things are different. You’ve just welcomed a little bundle of joy into your lives, and between caring for your newborn and returning to work, you’re exhausted. So, instead of a grand party, you cook his favorite meal and look forward to a quiet celebration. But then, he asks, ‘Is that it?’
A Change in Birthday Plans
New Mom Duties Take Priority
A Home-Cooked Birthday Dinner ️
An Unexpected Reaction
A Struggle for Appreciation
The Unopened Gift
A Baby’s Health Takes Precedence
Assumptions and Miscommunications ♀️
Sharing Chores and Childcare
A Heart-to-Heart Conversation
Apologies and Realizations
Different Birthday Preferences
Feeling Underappreciated
A Promise to Share Responsibilities
The Struggle to Ask for Help
A Birthday Bash Busted by Baby Duties: The Internet Weighs In
When a new mom decides to swap the usual grand birthday bash for her boyfriend with a quiet, home-cooked dinner, she didn’t expect the reaction she received. The boyfriend’s ‘Is that it?’ comment sparked a wave of emotions, leading to a heated exchange. With a baby recovering from meningitis, the mom felt overwhelmed and underappreciated. After a heart-to-heart talk, they agreed to share responsibilities more evenly. But the question remains – was she wrong for toning down the birthday celebration? Or was he wrong for not appreciating her effort? Let’s dive into the world’s reactions to this intriguing tale…
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“Hold up. You’ve had a baby this year and are back at work already…and he wants you to organise a birthday party for him? No. You do not need to do it even if you have done it preciously. You do not need to check in and ask if he wants a party even if you have done so previously. He could very easily speak with you and communicate his wants and see if it’s within your capabilities right now, otherwise organise the party himself. Babies can be hard work. I’ve heard plenty of stories of babies not sleeping properly at night, the primary care giver is usually exhausted and pregnancy/labour is a lot to heal from. NTA and congratulations on the baby.”
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NTA’s partner prioritizes birthday over sick baby. Absurd and selfish.
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“NTA. You’re doing all the heavy lifting while he acts childish.”
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Cooked his favorite meal but he still sulks? NTA!
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