Imagine having a gut feeling about your best friend’s husband, and then one day, he makes a pass at you. That’s precisely what happened to our 31-year-old protagonist. She had always felt something was off about her friend’s husband but never said anything. However, when he started sending flirty messages, she knew she had to tell her friend. But when she did, she was shocked by her friend’s reaction. Let’s dive into the story!
Longtime Best Friends

The Off Husband

Social Media Connections

The Unwanted Pass

Disgusted and Confronting

Backtracking and Begging

Saving the Evidence

Breaking the News

Unexpected Reaction

Blaming the Messenger

Defending Herself ️

Raising Concerns

Angry and Silent

Hoping for the Best

Friendship on the Line?
Our protagonist’s best friend got upset with *her* after revealing the husband’s flirty messages. Instead of being grateful, the friend accused her of leading him on. Now, the friendship hangs in the balance, with the friend giving her the silent treatment. Will their bond survive this betrayal? Let’s see what the internet thinks…
NTA. Friend in denial, OP did right thing, give space

NTA for telling friend about husband’s flirting, but friendship may end.

Commenters share personal experiences of similar situations and societal pressures.

BFF may have been in denial, but now she deserves truth

Friend’s husband has a history of flirting and gaslighting. NTA.

Supportive reply to OP’s situation with relatable personal experience. ❤️

Women share stories of being blamed for friends’ cheating partners ♀️

NTA, but friend’s reaction understandable. Don’t shame women.

Trying to help a friend, but she needs to see reality

Don’t blame the victim! NTA shuts down s**t-shaming comment.
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You go, NTA!

NTA. Friends often blame the messenger for cheating partners. ♀️ But speak up anyway to potentially save them from harm.

Being blamed for telling the truth? Happens all the time.
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Friendship in jeopardy as husband’s blame is misplaced.

Friend chose husband over BFF, red flag on his part

Friend’s husband’s infidelity puts strain on friendship. NTA.

Supportive comment on friend’s situation, hopeful for reconciliation

Betrayed but blamed: NTA comment gets real
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Commenter is clearly not the a**hole

NTA. Friend’s defensive reaction not about you, but their relationship.

Supportive comment gets straight to the point.

NTA, but be prepared for potential friendship fallout. ♀️

Honesty is the best policy, even if it’s uncomfortable

Doing the right thing can be tough

Telling your best friend her husband is flirting: a lose-lose ♀️ situation

NTA for telling truth, friend may regret not listening later ♀️

NTA! Short and sweet, you’re not the a**hole

Calling out a friend’s creepy husband, hoping for understanding

NTA did the right thing, friend in denial, AH husband.

You go, NTA!

Don’t blame the friend for the husband’s actions.

Ignoring the truth won’t make it disappear.

Defending against false accusations of leading on a friend’s husband

NTA, but friend may block you. Gaslighting husband may cheat again.

You go, NTA!

Best friend’s husband hits on friend, she’s not to blame

Wife’s friend’s husband hits on her, gets dropped by Krav Maga.

Don’t blame the victim! NTA for exposing cheating husband.

Blaming others for his lack of control. ♂️

Offer support, avoid anger, and wait for friend’s realization.

Being the messenger of infidelity is never easy

Being blamed for friend’s husband’s flirting? NTA, you’re a good friend

Helping a friend in need can come at a cost

Spicy theory!

Commenter blames men for ruining friendships, calls out double standards

Friend’s husband flirts, commenter advises pulling back from friendship.

Commenter is not the a**hole, but what happened?

Women often face blame for men’s actions. NTA, but friendship over

Defending oneself against blame-shifting and gaslighting.

Friend’s husband flirts, friend blames you. Clear evidence ignored. NTA

Don’t blame the woman hit on, blame the cheater.

Supportive comment receives no replies, but offers hope

Honesty isn’t always the best policy, friendship over

Supportive comment and hope for reconciliation with friend

Misplaced anger and internalized misogyny? This comment is spicy!
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Good friend waits for inkling wife to realize husband’s creepiness

Speaking the truth can be risky, even when you’re right ♀️

Supportive comment advises giving friend space to process husband’s behavior

NTA for telling friend about husband’s pass, potential abuse suspected

Supportive comment predicts vindication and urges STD testing.

Stay out of it, let her learn the hard way

Friend in denial, NTA for telling her. Take a step back.

Supportive advice to tell friend about husband’s behavior.

Friend’s anger misplaced, blamed messenger for husband’s affair

Speaking up can cost friendships. NTA, but be prepared.

NTA, but be prepared to lose a friend.

Showing the messages was right, but friendship might be over

Supportive NTA advises giving friend time to come around

Commenter suspects husband’s behavior isn’t new, advises giving space
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Supportive comment, NTA verdict. Friend needs time to cool off.

Commenter is not the a**hole, but what happened?

Last Updated on June 4, 2023 by Diply Social Team