Ever had a friend who blamed you for their own mistakes? One woman found herself in the hot seat when her friend, who she had been temporarily babysitting for, lost her job due to a missed text and a lack of doorbell ringing. The friend, who suffers from anxiety, left the woman’s house without dropping off her child, drove around aimlessly, and then blamed the woman for her job loss. The drama that unfolded is both baffling and relatable. Let’s dive into the story…
The Babysitting Arrangement

The Morning of the Miscommunication

The Silent Arrival

The Aftermath

The Consequence and the Confusion

The Suspicion and the Fallout ️♀️

The Doorbell Dilemma: Anxiety, Job Loss, and a Fractured Friendship
In a whirlwind of miscommunication and anxiety, a woman finds herself blamed for her friend’s job loss. The friend, who had been relying on her for temporary childcare, failed to ring the doorbell or knock when she arrived to drop off her child. Instead, she sent a text, which the woman missed, and then drove off, leading to her missing a day of work. The friend now blames the woman for her job loss and their friendship hangs in the balance. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this complex situation…
NTA. Friend’s anxiety about ringing a doorbell causes babysitting drama

NTA. Friend’s excuse seems fishy, losing trust in them.

NTA – Anxiety is not an excuse, it’s her responsibility

NTA: Friend’s job loss blamed on anxiety and missed text!

Friend blames anxiety and missed text, but is she really?

Friend loses job, blames anxiety. NTA, dump her!

Anxiety blamed for job loss, but NTA for setting boundaries!

“NTA she has anxiety about ringing a doorbell but not anxiety about being jobless while a mother to a one year old, wow.”

Anxiety isn’t an excuse! NTA, she needs to find a sitter.

Commenter questions validity of anxiety excuse, sparks debate.

Anxiety: A debilitating condition that affects daily functioning

NTA. Don’t let her guilt trip you for helping out!

NTA. Just move on. ✌️

NTA. Friend’s anxiety doesn’t excuse irresponsibility. Seek help for anxiety.

Anxiety can be crippling, but missing a doorbell? NTA!

Not the a**hole. Doorbell mishap blamed on anxiety, how odd!

NTA: Friend’s anxiety and missed text lead to job loss

NTA: Anxiety caused her to miss a text and lose job
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Anxiety excuse or not, doorbell drama is a dealbreaker!
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Cut ties with her! She blames others for her failures.
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Anxiety makes it hard to be rational, but blaming isn’t fair. NTA

Anxiety or excuse? NTA for not being constantly available.

NTA, but let’s not invalidate her anxiety. Hope she gets help!

Favors in 2021: The fastest way to make enemies.

Friend blames anxiety for irresponsibility, NTA. Let her go!

No a****e here! Share your babysitting drama stories!

Clever and humorous solution to a babysitting mishap!

Agreed to babysit, expecting her. NTA. This is just silly.

Anxiety affects job? NTA comment sparks discussion on mental health.

Responsibility boundaries: Friend’s anxiety shouldn’t dictate your babysitting duties.

NTA, but friend’s anxiety caused miscommunication and blame game ♀️

Not the a**hole! Drama unfolds over missed text and anxiety!

NTA: Friend needs to grow tf up.
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Anxiety makes simple tasks difficult. NTA for expecting communication.

Phone trouble leads to missed texts, NTA for babysitter

NTA: Commenter criticizes entitlement and lack of social conventions.

NTA: Don’t be a mind reader, she’s at fault for missing work.

Anxiety blamed for missed text, but NTA for babysitting drama!

Anxiety blamed for missed text, but NTA for friend

No a**hole here! Drama unfolds over missed text.

NTA, karma blessed you. Run from this woman.

Ring the doorbell, don’t blame anxiety! NTA!

Anxiety and job insecurity – the struggle is real!

Anxiety or not, should she really be babysitting?

Anxiety or excuse? NTA for not being constantly available.

Anxiety prevents friend from ringing doorbell at friend’s house
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Annoyed by people who text instead of knocking on the door?

Don’t sit around waiting for a text! NTA!

NTA: You’re not responsible for someone else’s anxiety. ♂️

Single mom pushes through anxiety to prioritize her child’s needs.
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NTA. Friend needs to work on anxiety for her child’s sake.

Understanding anxiety and miscommunication: a lesson in empathy

Parenting fails: Job, kid, but can’t ring a doorbell?! ♀️ NTA

NTA. You need better friends

Cutting off a mooch disguised as a friend!

Friend’s anxiety not your responsibility. NTA.

Friend blames anxiety and missed text, but is she really?

Anxiety over phone calls and doorbells? NTA, but understandable!

Friend blamed anxiety and missed text, but NTA?
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Unannounced visitor? Definitely not the a**hole!

Friend loses job, blames anxiety and a missed text! NTA!

Anxiety excuse? Grow up! NTA for calling her out.

Parenting vs. Doorbells: The Anxiety Dilemma!
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Responsibility and anxiety clash in a babysitting debacle.

Doorbell therapy? That’s her problem, not yours. NTA!

Parenting and anxiety: a tough balancing act!
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Anxiety and fear of phone calls, but exceptions for important people!

NTA: Friend’s anxiety causes job loss, but not your responsibility.

NTA. Anxiety to ring A FRIEND’S doorbell? Just buck up
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No good deed goes unpunished. NTA

Friend’s anxiety becomes an excuse to avoid responsibilities. Good riddance!

“NTA. Friend’s flakiness and lack of responsibility is a dealbreaker. “

Anxiety over a doorbell? NTA, she needs to grow up.

Confused about friends not ringing doorbells? You’re not alone!
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Friend’s job lost due to anxiety and missed text! NTA

Friend’s job loss over missed text? Seems like an overreaction.

Friend’s severe anxiety causes job loss, but OP not to blame

Anxiety triggers shouldn’t excuse flaking on friends. NTA!

Avoiding the bell drama: NTA for texting and calling first!

Last Updated on August 14, 2023 by Diply Social Team