We all know that giving advice can sometimes land us in hot water, especially when it comes to sensitive topics. But what happens when a well-intentioned piece of advice stirs up a storm within a close-knit circle of friends? This is the story of a couple who, after adopting four siblings, found themselves in the eye of a friendship hurricane when they suggested their friends consider adopting a different child. ️
The Adoption Story of Four Siblings
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The Friend Group’s Adoption Journey Begins
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The Adoption Dream Meets Reality
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The 9-Year-Old Boy They Fell For
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The Unexpected Sibling Situation
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The Adoption Dilemma: One or Three?
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The Controversial Advice
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The Shocked Response
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The Friendship Fallout Begins
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The Friend Group Divides ️
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The Accusations Fly
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The Question of Right or Wrong
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Adoption Advice Ignites Friendship Firestorm: Who’s Right? ♀️
This tale of adoption and friendship has taken a dramatic turn. After adopting four siblings, our couple found themselves in a friendship feud when they suggested their friends consider adopting a different child. The advice, intended to keep a sibling trio together, has divided their friend group and left them questioning their actions. With emotions running high and friendships on the line, the question remains: were they out of line or just being honest? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
NTA: Don’t ask for advice if you can’t handle the truth ♂️

NTA. Giving advice on sibling adoption, emotional connection, and future plans

NTA, parenting requires caring about well-being, not treating kids like cars.

NTA: Prioritizing the child’s well-being over the couple’s desires.
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NTA. Child’s wellbeing comes first.

NTA, she expected a different answer, but actions speak louder.

“Not the a**hole” comment sparks debate about adoption priorities

NTA- Adopted with siblings, friends being selfish arseholes ♀️

NTA, but friends are selfish a**holes for splitting up kids.

NTA, advocating for keeping siblings together in adoption.
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Giving advice: NTA, but friends upset when it’s not what they wanted.

Blaming others for their unpleasant feelings. Oversensitive couple. ♂️

NTA. Adoption agency miscommunication leads to unexpected family dynamics.

NTA: Emotional impact of adoption, resentment, and reality check.

NTA. Friends prioritize their image over children’s well-being.
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NTA. Shocking ‘check your privilege’ comment sparks heated debate.

NTA: Speaking the truth about the importance of sibling bonds.

NTA. Giving opinion, but hoping for positive outcome for siblings

NTA- Concerned about adopted child’s future questions and offering support.

Heartbreaking choice: love vs. siblings.

Adoption agency drama: Hidden siblings and questionable motives

Privilege check! Friends causing drama? Definitely not the a**hole!
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Curious if the 9yo can reject adoption to stay with siblings? NTA

Friends treating adoption like buying furniture. NTA for speaking up.

Heartbreaking situation Kid’s wishes ignored, agency may offer choice

NTA: Honesty is the best policy, even if it hurts.

Heartbreaking adoption experience: NTA’s parents changed plans for siblings.

Friends prioritize image over child, causing disappointment.
