Imagine you’re in the process of adopting a child, and then you find out your friend has adopted the same child you had your eyes set on. This is the heart-wrenching tale of a couple who adopted a child that their friend’s sister had initially planned to adopt. Their decision sparked a fiery debate among their friends, leading to severed ties and lingering resentment. But were they wrong? Let’s dive into this emotional rollercoaster.
The Adoption Journey Begins
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The Introduction to Jill
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Meeting Henry, the Charming Boy
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The Unexpected Twist
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A Surprise Reunion with Henry
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The Adoption of Henry
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The Social Media Fallout
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Jill’s Reaction
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The Friend Group’s Shock
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The Lingering Resentment
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Adoption Controversy: A Friendship Torn Apart
In a whirlwind of emotions, a couple who had already adopted their niece, Katie, decided to adopt another child, Henry. Henry was initially the adoption choice of Jill, the sister of their friend. However, Henry rejected Jill’s adoption, leading the couple to adopt him instead. When the news broke out on social media, Jill and their friends were shocked, accusing the couple of ‘stealing’ Jill’s would-be son. This led to a dramatic fallout, with friends calling the couple ‘greedy’ and some even joking about them ‘stealing’ other people’s kids. The couple, however, stands by their decision, believing they made the right choice for Henry. ♀️ ♂️
NTA. Friends and Jill selfishly prioritize feelings over child’s well-being

NTA. Children aren’t something you call dibs on. Happy family

NTA! Jill’s claim is ridiculous and fueled by spite

NTA. Kid shouldn’t be adopted? Those people s**k

NTA. Jill’s rejection led to adoption. Kid chose loving parents. ♀️

Defending the couple’s decision to adopt, no obligations to Jill

NTA. Henry’s valid concerns about adopting kids. No dibs here!

NTA. Friends need to understand no child is off limits

NTA. Jill’s cluelessness about Henry’s feelings is mind-boggling!
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NTA. You’re definitely a good person who deserves happiness with your family!

NTA, treating a child like a pet is dehumanizing!

NTA. Child finds loving home. Jill is TA. Unbelievable!

Henry, an amazing and astute kid, bonds with his adopted sister!

NTA: Inform the agency to prevent future harm to children!
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NTA. Jill’s possessive behavior and disregard for the child’s opinion

No a**hole here. Child’s well-being matters more than ownership.

NTA. Adoption rejection doesn’t mean no one else can adopt!
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Curious about Jill’s adoption history and potential issues? Find out!

ESH. Adoption drama unfolds as couple fails to inform friends beforehand

Jill’s ego bruised, taking it out on a seven-year-old orphan. NTA!
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Seven-year-old sees through lies, family triumphs over deceit! ✨

Adoption agencies: ‘kid borrowing’ day helps determine if you’re a good fit!

NTA calls out Jill for being a massive a**hole

Compassionate couple accused of ‘stealing’ friend’s would-be son!

ESH for not reaching out to Jill before posting on social media ♂️

Jill denied, no claim. Not the a**hole.

NTA: Giving a child a loving home is more important ❤️

NTA: Selfish claim, unfair to adopted child. Second choice settled with.

Heartbreaking: Child treated as property, not a human being.

Adoption journey: Finding a family for a child’s well-being ❤️

OP and Jill debate custody with biblical references.

Friends passing judgment? Get the full story before jumping in! ✋

Shocking accusation! Friend’s stolen son sparks parenting and friendship debate!

NTA. Respectful decision to not pursue adoption without her.

Doubting the authenticity of the adoption drama.

Heartbreaking adoption drama: NTA couple fights for their would-be son ❤️

NTA: Children aren’t products. He fit better with you.

NTA: Couple defends their decision to block ridiculous people.
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Is Jill really Count Olaf?

NTA: Jill’s misplaced priorities reveal her true character.

Curious about Jill’s adoption process and the rejection aftermath?

NTA! You gave a child a loving home. She’s being absurd

NTA. Henry found his forever family. Love wins! ❤️

No obligation to inform acquaintance. Congrats on your family!

NTA: Intense custody battle turns friends into bitter enemies.

Providing a loving home for a child without a family ❤️

NTA: Friend upset kid found loving home, like adopting a puppy!

Outrage over ‘stealing’ accusation! Can’t call dibs on orphans!

NTA. Henry’s forever family was for him, not for her.

You’re a hero! ♂️ Giving a child a loving home! ❤️

Last Updated on September 15, 2023 by Diply Social Team