Imagine this: you’re a father of three, happily remarried after the tragic loss of your first wife. Life seems to be moving on, until your new wife proposes the idea of adopting your children. The twist? The kids have already confided in you that they’re against the idea. What do you do? Do you break the news to your wife or protect your children’s feelings? This is the heart-wrenching predicament one man found himself in. Let’s dive into his story. ️♂️
A New Life, A New Wife

The Adoption Proposal

The Kids’ Secret

The Eldest’s Concerns

A Mother’s Legacy

The Father’s Decision

The In-Laws’ Intervention

The Secret Spills ️

The Stepmom’s Reaction

The Father’s Defense ️

The Family’s Verdict ⚖️

A Father’s Stand: Protecting Kids’ Feelings or Betraying His Wife?
Caught between his wife’s desire to adopt his children and the kids’ refusal, this dad chose to keep his kids’ feelings a secret. When the truth finally spilled, it led to a family showdown. The stepmom felt betrayed, believing she was denied a chance to find a solution that could make everyone happy. The father, however, stood firm, insisting that his kids’ feelings didn’t need ‘fixing’. As the dust settles, we’re left wondering: was he right to protect his kids’ feelings at the expense of his wife’s? Or was he wrong to keep such a crucial secret? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
NTA, kids’ opinions matter most. Wife needs to respect that

Kids reject stepmom’s adoption proposal. NTA. Red flag, boundaries crossed.
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NTA for supporting your kids’ choice. Communication is key.

Stepmom’s adoption proposal rejected, but mother’s memory cherished

NTA for protecting your kids’ wishes and avoiding conflict with wife

ESH, but you admit fault and accept responsibility.

Rejected wife’s adoption proposal before wedding, now facing consequences.
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NTA. You’re in the right, don’t let them guilt trip you.

“OP’s refusal to adopt stepmom’s kids causes pre-wedding drama.”

OP should have communicated with his wife about the kids’ decision

NTA. Taking responsibility for the decision, she should have respected your no.

Respecting kids’ comfort, NTA. You’re a good dad
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NTA. Stepmom disregards kids’ wishes, tries to pressure them into adoption.

NTA defends father’s role against inappropriate interference by in-laws

Honesty is key! YTA for not being upfront with your wife

Honesty is key: Kids’ rejection of stepmom’s adoption proposal

“YTA for not telling her the truth, but she persisted.”

Supporting their wishes while navigating a delicate step-parenting situation.

Bullying kids into adoption? Definitely not the a**hole!

Conflicted NTA protects kids, but deprived stepmom’s right to choose

ESH, but the kids. Lack of communication and trust ♂️

NTA, kids’ feelings should be respected. Stepmom and parents crossed boundaries.

NTA. They said no. Acceptance is key

NTA. Validating their feelings is key. No need to convince.

NTA- Kids reject stepmom’s adoption proposal , set boundaries to protect them
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Respecting kids’ wishes: NTA for not forcing adoption.
