Imagine being in a sexless marriage for years, with intimacy only happening a few times annually. One man in his 30s is facing this exact situation. His wife blames her antidepressants and medicinal marijuana for her lack of desire, leaving him feeling increasingly emotionally detached. He’s tried to be supportive, but the frustration is building up. The only time his wife seems interested in intimacy is at weddings, and they’re attending one this weekend. However, he’s considering turning down her advances this time, knowing it will hurt her self-esteem. Is he justified in his decision? Let’s dive into the story.
A Sexless Marriage
Frustration and Resentment
Fantasies and Temptations
Wedding Quickies
A Bold Decision
The Consequences
Clarification ️
Emotions and Motives
A Change of Heart?
The Dilemma
Second Thoughts
The Final Decision
Resentment and Needs ️
Irrational Thoughts
The Root of the Problem
Seeking Help
A Tough Choice: Rejecting Intimacy or Staying Silent
This man has been struggling with a sexless marriage for years, and he’s reached his breaking point. With a wedding coming up, he knows his wife will likely initiate intimacy, but he’s considering turning her down to finally express his frustration. After receiving advice from others, he decides to accept her advances if they happen, but he acknowledges his resentment and the need to address the issue head-on. He plans to suggest counseling after the wedding, hoping to improve communication and work on their relationship. Will this decision help or hurt their marriage? Only time will tell.
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