Almost everyone at some point or another asks for advice . Ironically, very few of those people ever end up following through or embracing the wisdom bestowed upon them.
That’s because most of us don’t like having our bullshit excuses called out to our faces, which is precisely what they are — excuses. Have a look below and check out these 15 things that are true but that people don’t like hearing.
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Your constant need for validation from external sources is crippling you.
Reddit user Hairy-Philosophy926 is quick to point out that this kind of thinking will always end in ruin. Self-worth has to start and end with you. Everything else is nothing more than white noise.
You aren’t special.
Don’t hear what I’m not saying. You may very well be special in the eyes of your mother or significant other, but in the grand scheme of things, the universe couldn’t care less about you — because it doesn’t care about you.
“Ease is a greater threat to success than hardship.” – Denzel Washington
Denzel made this spellbinding proclamation during his acceptance speech at the NCAAP Image Awards. He also asserted that without commitment, a person will never start. And more importantly, without consistency — they’ll never finish.
Your own fear and laziness are what’s holding you back from fulfilling your dreams.
Fear of failure and a failure to launch are the two most dangerous adversaries of progress. In order to succeed, you first have to try. In order to try, you must first come to understand what trying is not.
Blood isn’t always thicker than water.
There’s an old saying that talks about how you can choose your friends but you can’t choose your family. This proclamation is nothing more than a fallacy, according to Reddit user callmeDeborah. A genetic relation doesn’t entitle anyone to anything.
One day, your parents will be gone.
Reddit user silenthombre says that many of us fall victim to thinking that our parents are infallible. Like it or not, there will come a day when you say the last “goodbye” to your mom and dad. Most of the time you won’t realize it until they’re already gone.
More often than not, we’re the authors of our own outcome.
“It’s realizing the things that were in my control, which I failed at, leading to life-altering consequences. I didn’t do something stupid and end up paralyzed or a felon, but I did say and do a lot of stupid things and lost a great relationship.” – Reddit u/Late_Book
Many people with children are unfit to be parents.
Redditor shiroyagisan feels that making a child is easy, but raising them to be productive members of society is another matter entirely. There’s no prerequisite coursework to become a parent, but perhaps there should be.
The only true failure in life is giving up.
What most people mistake for failure is really experience — living. As author James A. Michener once famously said, a person’s character is defined by what they do on the third and fourth attempts.
“Sometimes you’re the toxic one in the relationship.” – Reddit u/whorlando_bloom
People have a tendency to believe that they’re always the good guy in their own story. However, the truth of the matter is that sometimes we are in fact the villain.
Perfection does not exist, except as a form.
More often than not, human beings get caught up in the idea that everything they do has to be perfect. All this kind of thinking does is hinder progress. Try to remember that in 99.9% of circumstances, completion is better than perfection.
Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but not all opinions are entitled to consideration.
You need to understand that you aren’t always in the right. More often than not, you’re probably wrong — you’re just too stubborn to be able to see the forest for the trees.
Friendships are fleeting.
Reddit user coincident_ally says that not all friendships are made to last, and as a matter of fact, most will not. As you grow and friends stay the same, it’s up to them to close the gap — not the other way around.
Your pain doesn’t take precedent over anyone else’s.
When negative thoughts take over, many of us get tricked into believing that our pain is somehow unique or superfluous. In reality, nothing could be further from the truth. We all grieve, we all experience loss. Healing comes from seeking out others who share your experiences, not from isolating yourself away from the world.
In life, there’s no such thing as “fair.”
Reddit user timmyisserpico is quick to point out “That life isn’t fair, you will face heart-breakingly tragic things that are beyond your control. Some more than others, but everyone has something, be kind.”
h/t: Reddit
