Just what exactly is a ” sugar daddy ” anyway? In the loosest of terms, it’s basically used to define a man who pays for a woman’s company (and oftentimes sex) by means of extravagant gifts.
It might sound impossible, but it’s actually a lot more common than you might think. Take a look below and read the stories of women who are opening up about their sugar daddy experiences.
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It’s more work than you might believe.
“We had some fun together. Nights in nice hotels, really nice dinners, he’d buy me presents and stuff. He was kind of needy, though, and it became annoying have[sic] to be so “on” all the time.” – Reddit u/lemonylips
I don’t know if your parents would necessarily approve?
Reddit user -VeridisQuo said that the money she’s received from various “daddies” has helped her to pay school expenses and even help out her parents financially from time to time.
Take the money and run.
“He gave me a few thousand over the course of a few months, but I soon felt uncomfortable with the whole situation and noped out of there. Didn’t contact him for a long while, then realized I had just taken the money and ran.” – Reddit u/Candlesticksnape
it’s not all bad when you stop and think about it.
This anonymous Buzzfeed Community member said that the transactional nature of the relationship can actually be nice, at times. you always know what you’re getting into and everything is black and white.
It wasn’t all it’s cracked up to be.
“i[sic] dated a married guy for about 2 years. it wasnt anything spectacular by any means. i finally realized i deserved better and broke it off. walked away with some nice trinkets, but it really was nothing very memorable. i hated the hiding.” – Reddit u/ladybythelake
This is proof that the universe has a real twisted sense of humor.
This anonymous Buzzfeed Community member was 19 when she met her 68-year-old sugar daddy. Flash forward to today and the two of them are happily married! Who would’ve thought?!
The disparaging power dynamic is hard to get over.
“They’re all so old, desperate and bald, but worst of all they’re really cynical/dead inside. It’s not worth the money. Plus the unequal power relation makes me super uncomfortable.” – Reddit u/_averagejane
It just made everything worse.
When this anonymous user first began going on dates with sugar daddies, it was exhilarating and exciting. But in a very short matter of time, the whole experience left her feeling degraded and with low self-esteem.
Take it from a pro…
“It’s a “different” kind of sex work than I’m used to (I’m an escort), but generally speaking there’s no difference between that and my other work. I’m paid monthly instead of per session, but it works out to be the same financially.” – Reddit u/prostythrowaway
When you’re after a rich guy, this is the place to start.
Another anonymous user explained that she only started going on sugar daddy/baby websites in order to meet a wealthy husband. As of yet, she still hasn’t found Mr. Right. — but here’s to hoping.
The whole thing just felt awkward.
“There was one guy I actually met, he was in his late 20’s, but I still couldn’t go through with the arrangement. He took me shopping but I didn’t buy one thing.” – Reddit u/muffy2008
it all comes down to sex.
This anonymous user explained that most of the men she came into contact with weren’t creepy or gross — they were just lazy. In short, they didn’t want to have to “work” for sex. At least, emotionally.
You never know what the experience might lead to.
“I had a wonderful sugar daddy experience, but it was more lowkey and less “flashy” than the image most people have. I was 24, looking for fwb basically, and figured “What the hell?” and posted an ad searching for my “daddy”.” – Reddit u/sugarbabby
The secret to relationship bliss.
This user said that of all the things she had to offer, the skill that was most highly coveted by her sugar daddy wasn’t performed in the bedroom, but in the kitchen.
I guess the way to a man’s heart (and wallet) is through his stomach.
It’s best if they happen to live out of state — or out of country.
“My sister has a sugar daddy that lives on the other side I the country. They have an online Skype relationship and every so often he transfers money into her bank account. It’s helped us pay rent a few times and she doesn’t actually have to do anything with him sexually.” – Reddit u/pimento_17
