Getting engaged is special, and a unique experience for every couple. From the method of proposal, the location, the timing, it all has to be perfectly curated to the future fiancés, all down to the ring.
But what to do when your proposal seems to affect others, and rather than being happy for you, you have someone trying to compete and steal the attention away from you?
For many, an important element to an engagement is the ring, making sure it's beautiful and fitting for their fiancée.
When the person proposing nails the ring choice, it can make those around them more than a little jealous.
The post is titled, "My mom just 'upgraded' her wedding ring because my engagement ring was 'too nice.'"
"My now fiancé said that my mom told her husband that she wanted to upgrade hers the moment she saw the ring my fiancé picked for me when he asked for their blessing," she explains. "'Time for an upgrade!' Is exactly what she said."
"[...] at first I was fine with and kind of teased her because I thought it was silly she was jealous," she said. "I told her as long as it didn’t look like mine and they both confirmed it wouldn’t be as she liked a different cut."
"Well she came out with a massive similar shaped stone with a huge/thick band made of smaller diamonds( but still larger than average, mind you.) they sent all us a photo of it, and it’s nuts how much they spent on it. When I asked her why she really needed such a large piece she told me I didn’t deserve to have a larger ring than hers because I’m not even married yet, so they agreed to get her a bigger one because she 'earned it'."
"First of all, I think this is insane to equate your self worth to a ring, but what? And secondly, they said they had been having money problems and the amount they spent seems irresponsible."
At the end, she asked if anyone had experienced something similar, and the comments got to talking.
As one user put it, "No, getting in a competition with one's daughter over ring size is not normal, healthy, or any kind of good sign. If you have a great ring, she should be pleased for you. Getting a gaudy symbol of her materialism is just sad."
One commenter couldn't get why it was a competition at all. "Why is she so jealous of you? If my kid gets a bigger and better anything I’d be cheering them on."
"Keep your finances secret from them," wrote one reply. "I wouldn't be a bit surprised if they started trying to get you to supplement their opulent lifestyle. Be careful."
Another brought up the future wedding. "Also, watch out during the wedding planning; she sounds like the kind of mum to try and steal the limelight from you on the day, or wear a white dress."
Two people suggested replacement ideas. "Get a comically giant moissonite/cubicZ and say 'your upgrade got me thinking...' should be fun reaction," suggested one.
"You should temporarily switch your engagement ring with one of those diamond shaped candy ones," said another, clearly the cheaper option here.
What do you think of the situation? Let us know in the comments!
