Meet our 24-year-old protagonist, the eldest of five siblings, living in a financially strained household with their mother and several pets. After enduring years of financial instability, eviction threats, and an abusive father, they’ve reached a crossroads. With a potential pay raise on the horizon, they’re contemplating moving out and starting an independent life. But this decision has been met with accusations of selfishness from their family. Is it really selfish to yearn for independence, or is it a necessary step towards personal growth? Let’s delve into their story. ️♀️
The Struggling Household ️
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The Absent Father
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The Looming Eviction Notice
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The Legal Tangle ⚖️
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The Financial Reality Check
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The Dream of Independence ️
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The Family’s Expectation vs Reality
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The Fear of Being Stuck
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The Desire for Personal Space
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The Dream of a Better Life
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The Big Question ❓
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A Struggle for Independence: Selfishness or Survival?
Our protagonist, the eldest of five siblings, is caught in a whirlwind of family drama, financial woes, and a desperate yearning for independence. With an absent, abusive father and a looming eviction, their life is far from stable. Despite the family’s financial struggles, they dream of moving out, seeking personal growth and a better life. However, this decision is met with accusations of selfishness from their family. They’re left questioning their morality: Is it selfish to seek a better life, or is it a necessary step towards survival? Let’s see what the internet has to say about this predicament…
NTA: Seeking independence from family backlash, you deserve your own place
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NTA. Family financial support dilemma: obligations vs. independence.
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NTA. Seeking independence is natural and less stressful for everyone.
![Image credit: KaliTheBlaze | KaliTheBlaze](https://static.diply.com/5de3583b-6fe8-45f0-8aa7-45f5f9b8315c.png)
NTA – Your 20’s are for living, not supporting family.
![Image credit: turnip563 | turnip563](https://static.diply.com/d2f97440-dede-4f6b-97ca-e65dceee015e.png)
NTA. Your independence is important. Don’t let guilt hold you back.
![Image credit: Important_Werewolf97 | Important_Werewolf97](https://static.diply.com/b599961e-f359-4657-820f-f4dc9878a353.png)
NTA. Embrace your independence!
![Image credit: ParsimoniousSalad | ParsimoniousSalad](https://static.diply.com/bcabf0f2-52aa-43b4-99b9-2e037dde239c.png)
Seeking independence: NTA, therapist agrees. Time to move out and thrive! ✨
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NTA: Supporting family’s bad choices? Time to seek independence!
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NTA. Mother’s workshy lifestyle guilt-tripping children. Move out guilt-free!
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NTA: You deserve your own life and space.
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NTA. Settle your mum in with your grandma and the 17 year old and ask the other siblings to go find their own place or share one together.
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NTA. Live your life. If mom is so worried about the family being poor, SHE can go out and get a job, or TWO jobs, to bring in enough money.
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NTA. Seeking independence: freedom or forever trapped? ️
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NTA- Seek independence without sinking with parents’ bad choices.
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NTA: Seeking independence due to family’s financial struggles. Supportive replies.
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NTA. Struggle now, or struggle forever. You’re doing the right thing!
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NTA. Take control of your life and find your own happiness!
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NTA: Mom’s fear of you leaving is about her paycheck
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NTA: Move out and live your own life!
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Seeking independence in a world of wealth inequality. NTA!
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NTA: Family’s financial irresponsibility could affect your independence
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Seeking independence? NTA! Your life, your choices.
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NTA, but understand the gravity. Moving out may strain relationships
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Empowering decision to seek independence despite family backlash.
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Escape the baggage! Start your own life.
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NTA. Asserting independence against family backlash.
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Break free ♂️ from toxic family and find your own happiness
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NTA. Family’s financial irresponsibility forces 24-year-old to seek independence.
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NTA for seeking independence. Guilt-tripping family needs a reality check!
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NTA. Seeking independence is natural and not selfish.
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NTA – Move out and live your own life
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NTA: Take control of your life and don’t blame yourself.
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NTA: Take care of yourself, move out, and stay strong
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Breaking free from family expectations: NTA seeks independence
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NTA. Take charge of your life and pursue your independence!
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You deserve to be selfish and pursue your dreams
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Moving out: Independence or selfishness? NTA, help when needed!
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NTA. Your mother’s refusal to step up is telling
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NTA. Embrace your independence and live your best life!
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Breaking free from toxic family: NTA, you owe yourself happiness
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Loving family doesn’t mean enabling them.
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NTA: Take control of your life, don’t let family guilt-trip you!
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Seeking independence: NTA! Freedom is amazing, but family support matters.
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Supportive parent encourages independence, urges mom to step up
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NTA. Seek legal action to hold your dad accountable.
![Image credit: Slokoki | Slokoki](https://static.diply.com/9e3f04c5-67c1-4af1-ad0e-a93b2a094a7b.png)
Moving out can reduce stress and help you start your life!
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Standing up for independence: You’re not the a**hole!
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Overwhelmed by the response! Will reply later. Thanks, everyone!
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NTA: Seeking independence from family backlash. Time for everyone’s own place!
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Breaking free from cultural expectations and seeking independence.
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Seeking independence: NTA. Sometimes you gotta let the situation fall out.
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NTA: Breaking free from a dependent mother, inspiring younger siblings
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NTA: Escape the abuse, live your own life!
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Move out, support siblings, sue dad, thrive. NTA
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Escape the toxic cycle and find your own happiness!
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Mom needs to s**k it up and work.
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Escape the blame game and embrace your independence! ✨ NTA
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NTA: Move out, inspire siblings to be independent. Keep wages private.
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NTA: Mom won’t work, time to seek independence and thrive
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Independence is your right! Break free and live your life!
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Mom’s hypocrisy: guilt-tripping while refusing to work. NTA!
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Concerned for pets’ fate when seeking independence.
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Putting yourself first is not selfish, it’s self-care.
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NTA! Pursue your dreams and break the cycle of poverty!
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Seeking independence from family: NTA, set an example
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Finding independence can be tough, but it’s a necessary journey.
![Image credit: ParisAndParis | ParisAndParis](https://static.diply.com/59f29e04-c017-4164-b045-c0d31a56feb8.png)
NTA: Break free from the poverty cycle and live your life!
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NTA: Prioritize your own financial future over supporting family.
![Image credit: FPFan | FPFan](https://static.diply.com/6431c79f-f0b8-4612-9e2a-75174cfc36dd.png)
NTA. Take control of your life and don’t let others dictate.
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NTA. Take control of your life and pursue your dreams!
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NTA. Seeking independence at 24 is understandable and commendable!
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Last Updated on July 24, 2023 by Diply Social Team