22-Year-Old Moves Out After Parents Expect Help with Newborn Sibling

Imagine being 22 years old, living with your parents, and suddenly finding out they’re expecting another child. That’s exactly what happened to this young adult, who had been living rent-free with their parents while completing their undergraduate degree. The parents, already having three other children, expected their 22-year-old to step up and help with the new baby and housework. But this young adult had other plans, deciding to move out and live their own life. Was this a selfish decision or a justified move? Let’s dive into the story.

Late-in-Life Surprise

Living Rent-Free and Supported

New Expectations for the 22-Year-Old

Parents’ Generosity Recognized

Making the Big Move

Parents’ Reaction

Paying Back the Tuition

The Sister’s Verdict ‍⚖️

Siblings’ Help, or Lack Thereof

The Spoiled Younger Brother

The Sister’s Involvement

Financial Situation

Parents’ Educational Support

Feeling Guilty About College Costs

Cultural Context

To Help or Not to Help: The Newborn Dilemma

Our 22-year-old protagonist found themselves in a tough spot when their parents had a late-in-life baby and expected them to step up and help with childcare and housework. Instead of accepting this new role, they chose to move out and live their own life, sparking a conflict with their parents and older sister. With their siblings either unable or unwilling to help, and their parents being financially well-off, the question remains: was it selfish to refuse to help, or was it a justified move to gain independence? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…

Children don’t owe their parents *anything* for raising them. NTA

Moving out for mental health and engagement – NTA wins

Sibling drama! NTA suggests older sister should help with baby

User defends OP’s decision to move out and calls out sister’s hypocrisy

Moving out was the right call. NTA

Don’t let your parents control your life. NTA

NTA. Parents shouldn’t force older children into caregiving/parental role.

Sibling expects too much, commenter not obliged to help

Standing up to entitled parents and siblings

Healthy boundaries are important . Move out and live your life.

Sibling’s mental health and age not relevant. NTA for moving out

Commenter feels unfairly treated by parents’ financial expectations

Don’t overthink it, NTA.

Savage response to entitled sister.

NTA prioritizes family and tuition, sister may also be pressured

NTA for not wanting to raise a baby that isn’t yours , but could have handled it better

Commenter offers advice on communication and empathy towards parents

Moving out was the right choice. NTA

Setting healthy boundaries with parents after changing terms. NTA

Parenting is tough, but expecting help is not cool.

Encouragement for moving out and focusing on grad school

NTA. Moving out was the right choice. Parents shouldn’t hinder independence.

Moving out was the right decision. NTA

Suggesting sister as nanny – tactful and practical solution

Breaking free from parental expectations. #NTA

Standing up for boundaries with family

Sibling duty shouldn’t fall solely on 22-year-old. NTA.

Child forced to be parent to newborn, NTA for moving out

NTA for not wanting to raise a newborn sibling . Parents should hire help.

Moving out after parents expect help with newborn sibling

Commenter defends parents and criticizes modern society’s lack of family values. Replies include additional context about the commenter’s assumptions.

Commenter and reply discuss crazy age range of siblings

NTA moves out after parents expect help with newborn sibling

Sibling dynamics: older brother exempt, younger brother spoiled, sister helpful

Time to fly the nest

Commenter suggests alternatives to raising a newborn sibling.

Not responsible for newborn sibling. Sister can help. NTA

Sister angry you escaped when she couldn’t

Sassy reply shuts down entitled parents.

Suggesting sister move back in for newborn help

Grad student moves out to avoid being a free nanny. NTA

NTA moves out after parents expect help with newborn sibling

Choosing the right words matters when asserting independence. NTA

Take control of your life. Don’t let guilt hold you back

Standing up to parents and moving out. #NTA

Commenter defends 22-year-old’s decision to move out.

Sibling expects help, but won’t move home to be nanny. NTA.

Moving out for independence and family, NTA ‍♀️

No obligation to care for newborn sibling. NTA

Sibling not obligated to help, commenter supports OP. NTA

Humorous and supportive comment with NTA judgement

Commenter explains university and rules leading to moving out.

Parent sets boundaries with kids, suggests babysitting for future favors.

NTA. Moving out to start a new chapter.

Sibling as a burden. NTA for moving out.

Daughter sets boundaries with parents expecting co-parenting

Don’t be an a**hole for moving out, NTA

Don’t be guilt-tripped into being a live-in nanny

NTA – Older siblings shouldn’t be expected to be parents.

Cutting off parents’ money? NTA takes control of own life

Commenter questions parents’ decision to have a newborn at 27+

OP had significant household responsibilities before the baby’s arrival

NTA moves out after parents expect help with newborn sibling

Moving out as an adult is a time for celebration

Moving out after parents expect help with newborn sibling. NTA

Sibling pressure to help with newborn, NTA stands firm