Left Out of the Groomsman Squad, He Backs Out of Friends' Trip 💔🤵🚫

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Diply | Diply

Friendship can be a rollercoaster, especially when you feel left out. This guy has been friends with his group of four buddies since elementary school. They've stayed close through thick and thin, but now, one of them is getting married and he's the only one not chosen as a groomsman. 😢 To make matters worse, their annual friends' trip is about to become a groomsman getaway, and he's not sure he can handle being the odd one out. 🚶‍♂️👬👬 Read on to find out how he deals with this dilemma and whether he's in the wrong for backing out of the trip.

A Tight-Knit Group of Friends 👬👬

aitabusycomputer | aitabusycomputer

The Wedding Situation 💍🤵

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Groomsman Selection 😮

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Feeling Upset 😞

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Parents' Advice 🗣️

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Moving On 🌈

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Annual Friends' Trip 🏈

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A Surprise for Brandon 🎁

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Hesitation 😐

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Decision Time ⏳

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Backing Out 🚶‍♂️

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Friends' Reaction 😒

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Accusations and Resentment 😠

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Caught in a Dilemma 🤷‍♂️

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To Go or Not to Go? 🤔

Our left-out friend is stuck in a dilemma. He's been friends with these guys for 19 years, but now he's the only one not chosen as a groomsman. Their annual friends' trip is about to become a groomsman getaway, and he's not sure he can handle being the odd one out. He decides to back out, but his friends aren't happy about it. They accuse him of not being a good friend and resenting not being a groomsman. Now, he's caught between a rock and a hard place. Let's see what the internet has to say about this situation... 🌐💬

Not the a**hole for backing out of ruined tradition 👏

murphy2345678 | murphy2345678

Skipping the wedding-trip, not the friendship 🚫👏

ArchyDWolf | ArchyDWolf

Rejection hurts, time to reevaluate 'friendships' 🤷‍♂️

Own-Year1678 | Own-Year1678

NTA. Exclusion hurts, but keep a low profile for wedding.

wittiestphrase | wittiestphrase

Exclusion from groomsmen squad leads to awkward trip cancellation. NTA.

Mishy162 | Mishy162

Legit excuse to skip trip, NTA. Prioritizing wedding expenses 👍

HMS_Slartibartfast | HMS_Slartibartfast

Feeling left out of the groomsmen squad? NTA, skip it 👍

SoapySoap147 | SoapySoap147

NTA. Suggest attending, then cancel last-minute due to 'issue' 👍

RideOnMoa | RideOnMoa

Excluded from groomsmen squad, backs out of friends' trip. NTA 👍

[deleted] | [deleted]

NTA for backing out of groomsmen trip, let them be mad 🚫

Motor_Business483 | Motor_Business483

Communication is key in any friendship 📱

CermaitLaphroaig | CermaitLaphroaig

NTA for backing out of the trip due to wedding exclusion 🚫


Excluded from the wedding party, he's justified in backing out 👏

Apprehensive-hippos | Apprehensive-hippos

Excluded from groomsmen squad, ends 19-year friendship. Confrontation needed. 👊

Traditional_Carob_12 | Traditional_Carob_12

Honesty is key. NTA for feeling left out of trip.

DeepFudge9235 | DeepFudge9235

Maturely explained discomfort, offered to skip trip. NTA 👍

excel_pager_420 | excel_pager_420

Excluded friend questions purpose of annual trip revolving around wedding.

giag27 | giag27

Being left out of the groomsmen squad, NTA decides to back out of friends' trip. It's time to find new friends who value and include you. 🚫

[deleted] | [deleted]

Being excluded from the groomsmen squad is a nasty move 😠 NTA

HiddenDestiny251 | HiddenDestiny251

Excluded from wedding and trip, friendship irrevocably changed. NTA.

xxKEYEDxx | xxKEYEDxx

Excluded from groomsmen events, backs out of friends' trip. #NTA

xxSKSxx_ | xxSKSxx_

NTA, excluded from groomsmen squad, but friends handled it poorly 😕

Scouty2010 | Scouty2010

Choosing between friendship and hurt feelings is tough 🤷‍♂️

ApprehensiveIce3810 | ApprehensiveIce3810

Friendship dynamics change over time, NTA for backing out. 👍

myglasswasbigger | myglasswasbigger

Being excluded from a friend group hurts, but it's time to move on. 💔

Ayste | Ayste

Friend backs out of trip after being left out of groomsmen.

EmpireStateOfBeing | EmpireStateOfBeing

NTA. Friends' insensitivity and exclusion is hurtful and unacceptable. 💫

StompyKitten | StompyKitten

Advice to move on and keep busy after being excluded. 👍

SecretlyThere | SecretlyThere

Feeling left out of wedding party, backs out of trip 🤷‍♂️

Kekssocken | Kekssocken

Excluded from groomsmen squad, backed out of friends' trip. NTA.

pizzaisapie69 | pizzaisapie69

Wedding party snubbed him, he ditched the tacky trip. #NTA

SaraAmis | SaraAmis

Excluded from trip, NTA bows out for financial reasons 😢

Feltedskullpuppets | Feltedskullpuppets

Exclusionary behavior from friends. Low blow to not be told.

Chris11c | Chris11c

Breaking tradition, the groomsmen ruined the annual trip. NTA.

Icy_Curmudgeon | Icy_Curmudgeon

Take yourself out of the equation and move on. 👍

LiLadybug81 | LiLadybug81

Excluding someone while forcing them on a trip? Not cool. NTA 🚫

slendermanismydad | slendermanismydad

Friend suggests OP talk to others about being left out.

Beautiful_Living_440 | Beautiful_Living_440

Possible reasons for exclusion from groomsmen, set boundaries for self 🤔

ashchelle | ashchelle

Excluded from groomsmen squad, comment defends feeling left out. 👏

wayward_painter | wayward_painter

Feeling left out of the groomsmen squad, but NTA. Any backstory?

DefImpimp | DefImpimp

Choose your own adventure: NTA backs out of friends' trip

SnowyOwlDoeEyes | SnowyOwlDoeEyes

Respectful NTA declines wedding outings, sets boundaries with friends 👍

intervallfaster | intervallfaster

Excluded from groomsman squad, friends mad he won't go on trip 😒

Ok-Abbreviations4510 | Ok-Abbreviations4510

Excluded from groomsmen squad, but not the a**hole. Concerns raised.

SnooRabbits5620 | SnooRabbits5620

Excluded from groomsmen squad, friends try to rub it in face 😕

GlitterBizh8 | GlitterBizh8

Cutting ties with disrespectful 'friends' who don't value you 🚫🙅

B5_V3 | B5_V3

Excluded from groomsmen squad, friend backs out of trip 😔

Sofbe | Sofbe

Friends are double a**holes for excluding OP from events.

Queenofthecondiments | Queenofthecondiments

Being excluded from a friend group is a**hole behavior 🤷‍♂️

Blommer12345 | Blommer12345

Op excluded from groomsman squad, but handled it with class 😎

Commercial_Rent_6672 | Commercial_Rent_6672

Rejected from a program, felt left out, NTA.

Ne0nAngel | Ne0nAngel

Standing up for yourself is never crap 💪👏

partanimal | partanimal

NTA. The commenter advises the OP to confront the friend who called them unfair/resentful and reminds them that friends should be more understanding. 👍

Glum_Hamster_1076 | Glum_Hamster_1076

Feeling left out of the groomsmen squad, NTA backs out 🚫

jaimystery | jaimystery

Feeling left out of the groomsmen squad, but handled it well 🙏

Exact-Truck-5248 | Exact-Truck-5248

Being left out of the groomsman squad is a valid reason 👍

BubbaC619 | BubbaC619

Being left out of a friend group is tough, but backing out gracefully is key. 🙏

throwit_amita | throwit_amita

Excluded from groomsmen squad, friend backs out of trip. NTA.

hauntedyew | hauntedyew

Excluded from events, friend backs out of trip. NTA. 🚫

ThippusHorribilus | ThippusHorribilus

Respectful friend excluded from wedding trip, backs out. NTA 👏

demonmonkey1313 | demonmonkey1313

Groom's silence on exclusion is weird as F, say commenters 🤔

Miserable-Living9569 | Miserable-Living9569

Friend excluded from groomsmen activities, not TA for opting out.

quadsclothesou | quadsclothesou

Advice for excluded groomsman to skip wedding and save money 💸

HambdenRose | HambdenRose

NTA for wanting to spend time with core friends. Have an open conversation.

ToTheBrightStar | ToTheBrightStar

Exclusion changed group dynamic forever. Time to develop new friendships. NTA.

digi_captor | digi_captor

Being left out hurts, but he handled it gracefully. 🙌

carrots2323 | carrots2323

Feeling left out of the wedding party? Reevaluate that friendship 🤔

Ringo_1956 | Ringo_1956

Being left out of the groomsmen squad is tough, but NTA.

two_silver_lockets | two_silver_lockets

Being left out of the groomsmen squad hurts friendships 😢

AggressiveStock8533 | AggressiveStock8533

Respect your boundaries and reevaluate friendships after the wedding. NTA 👍

2_old_for_this_spit | 2_old_for_this_spit

Friend feels left out of groomsman squad, speaks up. NTA.

saurellia | saurellia

Groom's mistake, not yours. He can't blame you or friends.

[deleted] | [deleted]

OP's friend is an a**hole for not addressing the issue 🤷‍♂️. No good way to feel about it 😢.

hold_the_celery | hold_the_celery

Being honest with your friends is key to saving relationships 👍

thorleywinston | thorleywinston

Choosing to opt out of an uncomfortable situation. NTA 👍

xzemx | xzemx

Growing apart from childhood friends is okay 👍

AnnaBananner82 | AnnaBananner82

Putting your own comfort aside for a friend's wedding 👍

Suspicious_Thanks_89 | Suspicious_Thanks_89

Friend supports OP, calls out Brandon for being a jerk 👏

Shellbone23 | Shellbone23

Stand your ground and don't let them guilt trip you 💪

shayjax- | shayjax-

Trip hijacked by friends, NTA for backing out 🚫

ValkyrieSword | ValkyrieSword

Excluded from groomsman squad, friend backs out of trip 🚫

Interesting_Top_7285 | Interesting_Top_7285

Friendship fallout over groomsmanship, NTA gets blamed. 🤷‍♂️

FauveSxMcW | FauveSxMcW

Honesty is the best policy. NTA for backing out.

tjbmurph | tjbmurph

Excluded from groomsmen squad, 'friends' show true colors. Move on. 👋

Illustrious-Dude721 | Illustrious-Dude721

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