Friendship can be a rollercoaster, especially when you feel left out. This guy has been friends with his group of four buddies since elementary school. They've stayed close through thick and thin, but now, one of them is getting married and he's the only one not chosen as a groomsman. 😢 To make matters worse, their annual friends' trip is about to become a groomsman getaway, and he's not sure he can handle being the odd one out. 🚶♂️👬👬 Read on to find out how he deals with this dilemma and whether he's in the wrong for backing out of the trip.
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Our left-out friend is stuck in a dilemma. He's been friends with these guys for 19 years, but now he's the only one not chosen as a groomsman. Their annual friends' trip is about to become a groomsman getaway, and he's not sure he can handle being the odd one out. He decides to back out, but his friends aren't happy about it. They accuse him of not being a good friend and resenting not being a groomsman. Now, he's caught between a rock and a hard place. Let's see what the internet has to say about this situation... 🌐💬
Not the a**hole for backing out of ruined tradition 👏
murphy2345678 | murphy2345678
Skipping the wedding-trip, not the friendship 🚫👏
ArchyDWolf | ArchyDWolf
Rejection hurts, time to reevaluate 'friendships' 🤷♂️
Own-Year1678 | Own-Year1678
NTA. Exclusion hurts, but keep a low profile for wedding.
wittiestphrase | wittiestphrase
Exclusion from groomsmen squad leads to awkward trip cancellation. NTA.
Mishy162 | Mishy162
Legit excuse to skip trip, NTA. Prioritizing wedding expenses 👍
HMS_Slartibartfast | HMS_Slartibartfast
Feeling left out of the groomsmen squad? NTA, skip it 👍
SoapySoap147 | SoapySoap147
NTA. Suggest attending, then cancel last-minute due to 'issue' 👍
RideOnMoa | RideOnMoa
Excluded from groomsmen squad, backs out of friends' trip. NTA 👍
[deleted] | [deleted]
NTA for backing out of groomsmen trip, let them be mad 🚫
Motor_Business483 | Motor_Business483
Communication is key in any friendship 📱
CermaitLaphroaig | CermaitLaphroaig
NTA for backing out of the trip due to wedding exclusion 🚫
AAP_BH | AAP_BH
Excluded from the wedding party, he's justified in backing out 👏
Apprehensive-hippos | Apprehensive-hippos
Excluded from groomsmen squad, ends 19-year friendship. Confrontation needed. 👊
Traditional_Carob_12 | Traditional_Carob_12
Honesty is key. NTA for feeling left out of trip.
DeepFudge9235 | DeepFudge9235
Maturely explained discomfort, offered to skip trip. NTA 👍
excel_pager_420 | excel_pager_420
Excluded friend questions purpose of annual trip revolving around wedding.
giag27 | giag27
Being left out of the groomsmen squad, NTA decides to back out of friends' trip. It's time to find new friends who value and include you. 🚫
[deleted] | [deleted]
Being excluded from the groomsmen squad is a nasty move 😠 NTA
HiddenDestiny251 | HiddenDestiny251
Excluded from wedding and trip, friendship irrevocably changed. NTA.
xxKEYEDxx | xxKEYEDxx
Excluded from groomsmen events, backs out of friends' trip. #NTA
xxSKSxx_ | xxSKSxx_
NTA, excluded from groomsmen squad, but friends handled it poorly 😕
Scouty2010 | Scouty2010
Choosing between friendship and hurt feelings is tough 🤷♂️
ApprehensiveIce3810 | ApprehensiveIce3810
Friendship dynamics change over time, NTA for backing out. 👍
myglasswasbigger | myglasswasbigger
Being excluded from a friend group hurts, but it's time to move on. 💔
Ayste | Ayste
Friend backs out of trip after being left out of groomsmen.
EmpireStateOfBeing | EmpireStateOfBeing
NTA. Friends' insensitivity and exclusion is hurtful and unacceptable. 💫
StompyKitten | StompyKitten
Advice to move on and keep busy after being excluded. 👍
SecretlyThere | SecretlyThere
Feeling left out of wedding party, backs out of trip 🤷♂️
Kekssocken | Kekssocken
Excluded from groomsmen squad, backed out of friends' trip. NTA.
pizzaisapie69 | pizzaisapie69
Wedding party snubbed him, he ditched the tacky trip. #NTA
SaraAmis | SaraAmis
Excluded from trip, NTA bows out for financial reasons 😢
Feltedskullpuppets | Feltedskullpuppets
Exclusionary behavior from friends. Low blow to not be told.
Chris11c | Chris11c
Breaking tradition, the groomsmen ruined the annual trip. NTA.
Icy_Curmudgeon | Icy_Curmudgeon
Take yourself out of the equation and move on. 👍
LiLadybug81 | LiLadybug81
Excluding someone while forcing them on a trip? Not cool. NTA 🚫
slendermanismydad | slendermanismydad
Friend suggests OP talk to others about being left out.
Beautiful_Living_440 | Beautiful_Living_440
Possible reasons for exclusion from groomsmen, set boundaries for self 🤔
ashchelle | ashchelle
Excluded from groomsmen squad, comment defends feeling left out. 👏
wayward_painter | wayward_painter
Feeling left out of the groomsmen squad, but NTA. Any backstory?
DefImpimp | DefImpimp
Choose your own adventure: NTA backs out of friends' trip
SnowyOwlDoeEyes | SnowyOwlDoeEyes
Respectful NTA declines wedding outings, sets boundaries with friends 👍
intervallfaster | intervallfaster
Excluded from groomsman squad, friends mad he won't go on trip 😒
Ok-Abbreviations4510 | Ok-Abbreviations4510
Excluded from groomsmen squad, but not the a**hole. Concerns raised.
SnooRabbits5620 | SnooRabbits5620
Excluded from groomsmen squad, friends try to rub it in face 😕
GlitterBizh8 | GlitterBizh8
Cutting ties with disrespectful 'friends' who don't value you 🚫🙅
B5_V3 | B5_V3
Excluded from groomsmen squad, friend backs out of trip 😔
Sofbe | Sofbe
Friends are double a**holes for excluding OP from events.
Queenofthecondiments | Queenofthecondiments
Being excluded from a friend group is a**hole behavior 🤷♂️
Blommer12345 | Blommer12345
Op excluded from groomsman squad, but handled it with class 😎
Commercial_Rent_6672 | Commercial_Rent_6672
Rejected from a program, felt left out, NTA.
Ne0nAngel | Ne0nAngel
Standing up for yourself is never crap 💪👏
partanimal | partanimal
NTA. The commenter advises the OP to confront the friend who called them unfair/resentful and reminds them that friends should be more understanding. 👍
Glum_Hamster_1076 | Glum_Hamster_1076
Feeling left out of the groomsmen squad, NTA backs out 🚫
jaimystery | jaimystery
Feeling left out of the groomsmen squad, but handled it well 🙏
Exact-Truck-5248 | Exact-Truck-5248
Being left out of the groomsman squad is a valid reason 👍
BubbaC619 | BubbaC619
Being left out of a friend group is tough, but backing out gracefully is key. 🙏
throwit_amita | throwit_amita
Excluded from groomsmen squad, friend backs out of trip. NTA.
hauntedyew | hauntedyew
Excluded from events, friend backs out of trip. NTA. 🚫
ThippusHorribilus | ThippusHorribilus
Respectful friend excluded from wedding trip, backs out. NTA 👏
demonmonkey1313 | demonmonkey1313
Groom's silence on exclusion is weird as F, say commenters 🤔
Miserable-Living9569 | Miserable-Living9569
Friend excluded from groomsmen activities, not TA for opting out.
quadsclothesou | quadsclothesou
Advice for excluded groomsman to skip wedding and save money 💸
HambdenRose | HambdenRose
NTA for wanting to spend time with core friends. Have an open conversation.
ToTheBrightStar | ToTheBrightStar
Exclusion changed group dynamic forever. Time to develop new friendships. NTA.
digi_captor | digi_captor
Being left out hurts, but he handled it gracefully. 🙌
carrots2323 | carrots2323
Feeling left out of the wedding party? Reevaluate that friendship 🤔
Ringo_1956 | Ringo_1956
Being left out of the groomsmen squad is tough, but NTA.
two_silver_lockets | two_silver_lockets
Being left out of the groomsmen squad hurts friendships 😢
AggressiveStock8533 | AggressiveStock8533
Respect your boundaries and reevaluate friendships after the wedding. NTA 👍
2_old_for_this_spit | 2_old_for_this_spit
Friend feels left out of groomsman squad, speaks up. NTA.
saurellia | saurellia
Groom's mistake, not yours. He can't blame you or friends.
[deleted] | [deleted]
OP's friend is an a**hole for not addressing the issue 🤷♂️. No good way to feel about it 😢.
hold_the_celery | hold_the_celery
Being honest with your friends is key to saving relationships 👍
thorleywinston | thorleywinston
Choosing to opt out of an uncomfortable situation. NTA 👍
xzemx | xzemx
Growing apart from childhood friends is okay 👍
AnnaBananner82 | AnnaBananner82
Putting your own comfort aside for a friend's wedding 👍
Suspicious_Thanks_89 | Suspicious_Thanks_89
Friend supports OP, calls out Brandon for being a jerk 👏
Shellbone23 | Shellbone23
Stand your ground and don't let them guilt trip you 💪
shayjax- | shayjax-
Trip hijacked by friends, NTA for backing out 🚫
ValkyrieSword | ValkyrieSword
Excluded from groomsman squad, friend backs out of trip 🚫
Interesting_Top_7285 | Interesting_Top_7285
Friendship fallout over groomsmanship, NTA gets blamed. 🤷♂️
FauveSxMcW | FauveSxMcW
Honesty is the best policy. NTA for backing out.
tjbmurph | tjbmurph
Excluded from groomsmen squad, 'friends' show true colors. Move on. 👋
Illustrious-Dude721 | Illustrious-Dude721
