Friend Expects Free Babysitting from the Squad 🤯: Fair or Unfair?

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We've all heard of the saying, 'It takes a village to raise a child,' but what happens when one friend in a tight-knit group of five decides to have a baby and expects the others to share the responsibility? This is the story of Lilly and her friends, who are now facing a childcare dilemma that's testing the limits of their friendship. Let's dive into this emotionally charged situation and find out who's right and who's wrong. 🤔

The Friend Group's Dilemma 🤷‍♀️

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Meet Lilly, the Expectant Friend 🤰

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The Friends' Advice 💬

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Reasons for Their Opinion 📝

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Lilly's Decision 👶

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The Aftermath 😓

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Deadbeat Dad Confirmed 💔

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Lilly's Expectations 🤨

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The Friends' Stance 🙅‍♀️

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Lilly's Argument 🗣️

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The Big Question ❓

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Lilly's Justification 📢

stayorgo_ | stayorgo_

A Childcare Conundrum: Whose Responsibility? 🤔

So, here's the situation: Lilly, a member of a close group of five friends, decided to have a baby despite her friends' advice against it. Now, she expects the others to share the responsibility of raising her child, causing tension within the group. Lilly believes that since the father is a deadbeat, her friends should step in and help her out. The friends, on the other hand, argue that they chose not to have children in order to live their lives freely and that it was Lilly's decision to have the baby, making it her sole responsibility. The question remains: should the friends help Lilly with her child, or is it her responsibility alone? Let's see what the internet thinks of this situation... 🍿

Parenting is a full-time job 👨‍🍳, not a favor. #NTA

disneyhusband | disneyhusband

Friend expects free babysitting from squad. NTA says comment.

LetsD01t | LetsD01t

Romanticization of motherhood blamed for unrealistic expectations of friends.

PurpleDot0 | PurpleDot0

Paid childcare exists. Friends are not responsible for free babysitting.

cherry_pie_83 | cherry_pie_83

Friend expects free babysitting, but commenters say NTA. 👍

kearnel81 | kearnel81

Friend needs mom friends for babysitting, not childless squad. NTA

[deleted] | [deleted]

Friends not obligated to babysit, NAH for setting boundaries 👍

depotstu | depotstu

Single parents need help, but it's unfair to expect it.

jolovesmustard | jolovesmustard

Not the a**hole for not wanting to co-parent her child 👏

Han-Lou | Han-Lou

Friend with FOMO expects free babysitting, but NTA says no.

proassassin00 | proassassin00

NTA stands their ground on babysitting expectations 👍

srslyeffedmind | srslyeffedmind

Friend can't expect free babysitting from squad. NTA.

NotAThrowaway0308 | NotAThrowaway0308

Friend expects free babysitting, but commenter suggests setting boundaries. 👍

Victor-Grimm | Victor-Grimm

Politely declining friend's request for free babysitting. NTA.

Ladyughsalot1 | Ladyughsalot1

Friends not obligated to co-parent due to bad decisions 👍

TCGislife | TCGislife

"It takes a village" doesn't mean free babysitting 😠

Allthatjasmine | Allthatjasmine

NTA. Friends don't owe free babysitting for someone else's kid 🚫

nan1ta | nan1ta

Friendship or Free Babysitting? NAH suggests finding new friends 👍

sdkjfoeijoenl | sdkjfoeijoenl

Not your kid, not your problem. NTA 👍

awkwrdcherries | awkwrdcherries

Friend should take responsibility for her own child. NTA.

BexB783 | BexB783

NTA commenter advises standing ground against entitled friend's request for free babysitting. 💪

Snwspider | Snwspider

Friend expects free babysitting and gets annoyed when not provided.

annoyed68 | annoyed68

Friend expects free babysitting, but commenters say NTA.

odirilemoses | odirilemoses

NTA stands firm on not babysitting friend's child. 👍

Nikki3to | Nikki3to

Friend expects free babysitting, commenter says she's NTA.

bassrose | bassrose

NTA. Friend's entitlement to free babysitting is unfair and unreasonable.

Random_night_thinker | Random_night_thinker

👍 Taking responsibility for your own child is a must.

starwarschick16 | starwarschick16

User suggests alternative solutions for friend's babysitting problem. 👍

FlahBlast | FlahBlast

NTA stands up to entitled friend who expects free babysitting 💪

nnjvvfxxs | nnjvvfxxs

Asking friends for free babysitting is unfair. 👍

imsorrydontyellatme | imsorrydontyellatme

NTA, expecting free babysitting without discussing it is unreasonable 🙅️

z000inks | z000inks

No obligation to babysit friend's kid. Asking for help okay.

Bookaholicforever | Bookaholicforever

Friend expects free babysitting from squad, but commenters disagree.

SleepPurralysis | SleepPurralysis

Choosing not to have kids is valid and should be respected 👍

[deleted] | [deleted]

Friend expects free babysitting from the squad: NTA says commenter

Armaryllislove | Armaryllislove

Maintaining friendships while parenting is tough. Communication is key. 👍

summmerboozin | summmerboozin

Friend expects free babysitting, commenter says NTA and advises speaking up.

seba_make | seba_make

NTA- It's not your responsibility to babysit her child for free 👍

Coyote_Effective | Coyote_Effective

Single mom shares her experience and advises against friend's expectation.

99angelgirl | 99angelgirl

Having a baby doesn't entitle free babysitting. 👍

hmg07 | hmg07

Friend made a choice, but expects free babysitting from friends 😒

Clare_schmare | Clare_schmare

Friend expects free babysitting, but commenters say NTA.

iluvcats17 | iluvcats17

Friend expects free babysitting from squad, commenter says NTA

Carolinamama2015 | Carolinamama2015

Friend expects free babysitting, but commenter sets boundaries. 👍

Cleonce12 | Cleonce12

Stand up for yourself and don't let others take advantage. ✊

Odd-disturbance | Odd-disturbance

Growing up with a mom who dumped me at friend's houses for days, Lily needs to parent her kid. #NTA 😠

ki_space_panda | ki_space_panda

Responsibility for a friend's child shouldn't fall on friends. NTA 👍

CODE_NAME_DUCKY | CODE_NAME_DUCKY

Friend disregarded advice, now expects free babysitting from friends. NTA.

emotionally_autistic | emotionally_autistic

Choosing a child-free lifestyle doesn't make you a babysitter 👍

Froggetpwagain | Froggetpwagain

Friend expects free babysitting, expects too much from the squad 😒

BlueTaco500 | BlueTaco500

Not your kid, not your problem. Reality hit her hard 👍

cultqueennn | cultqueennn

Friend expects free babysitting, commenter says NTA, child HER responsibility.

Prior_Razzmatazz | Prior_Razzmatazz

Friend expects free babysitting from the squad, commenter suggests adoption.

[deleted] | [deleted]

Friend expects free babysitting from friends, but commenters say no.

henchwench89 | henchwench89

Friend expects free babysitting, commenter calls her out. NTA.

earthtoeveryoneX | earthtoeveryoneX

Father is a deadbeat, not your problem. NTA 👍

AdvancedInk | AdvancedInk

Setting boundaries with a friend who expects free babysitting 👍

mfruitfly | mfruitfly

New mom says friend shouldn't expect free babysitting from squad 👍

mayormegan93 | mayormegan93

No free babysitting from friends. Responsibility lies with parents. 👍

Tsaundersfletcher | Tsaundersfletcher

NTA: It's not your job to babysit. Lilly chose this responsibility.

oldcreaker | oldcreaker

Having a child means missing out on things. NTA for refusing.

TinyHuman89 | TinyHuman89

Setting realistic expectations for friendship and babysitting. 🤔

SheOutOfBubbleGum | SheOutOfBubbleGum

Grateful mom acknowledges friends' voluntary babysitting, doesn't expect more 👏

eleyland92 | eleyland92

Child-free friends not automatic babysitters. NTA 👍

rudegal_ | rudegal_

Friend expects free babysitting but needs to step up as a mom 👍

TeamChaos17 | TeamChaos17

Friend expects free babysitting from squad, but they're NTA.

[deleted] | [deleted]

Friends agree that Lilly can't expect free babysitting from them.

mathhews95 | mathhews95

Friend's entitled expectation of free babysitting gets shut down. NTA.

VanillaFam | VanillaFam

Friend expects free babysitting from squad: NTA says commenter.

[deleted] | [deleted]

Parenting sacrifices: NTA says Lily needs to accept it 👍

[deleted] | [deleted]

Parenting responsibility lies with Lilly, not her friends. 🙅‍♀️

[deleted] | [deleted]

Offer to chip in for a babysitter, but no obligation. 👍

birblord | birblord

Friend expects free babysitting, commenter says NTA. 👍

kvothethebloodlesss | kvothethebloodlesss

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