Curly Hair Controversy: Woman Told to Look 'Less Ethnic' 😲

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Imagine being told to change your appearance to avoid racism. That's what happened to a mixed-race woman who married into a white family. Despite a close relationship with her in-laws, things took a turn during a family dinner. As they discussed the hurtful comments and incidents she'd experienced recently, her sister-in-law suggested that straightening her hair might make her look 'less ethnic' and avoid trouble. 😳 Let's dive into this curly hair controversy.

Curly Hair and Family Bonding

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In-Laws and Family Dinner

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Discussing Hurtful Comments

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Sister-in-Law's Surprising Suggestion

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A Shocked Response

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Awkward Silence Ensues

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Feeling Guilty?

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Understanding Intentions

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Small Town Background

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Update and Clarifications

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Reflecting on the Situation

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SIL's Character

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Taking the High Road

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Opportunity for Growth

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Being a Cliff Note

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Straightening Out the Situation 🌀

The woman in question was shocked by her sister-in-law's suggestion to straighten her hair to look 'less ethnic' and avoid racism. The dinner table went quiet, and while her in-laws defended her, she felt guilty for potentially humiliating her sister-in-law. Despite the awkwardness, she believes her SIL is not racist, just ignorant. She's decided to use this situation as an opportunity for growth and bridge-building, rather than holding on to resentment. 💪🏾🌉

Calling out racism and ignorance. NTA stands up for equality. 👏

amb-ly | amb-ly

NTA shocked by 'less ethnic' comment, but willing to educate.

indecisive_maybe | indecisive_maybe

NTA. 'Less ethnic' is insulting. No reason to not know better.

CumulusTattoos | CumulusTattoos

POC suggests educating ignorant person who made insensitive comment 👍

sollicitusmeraki | sollicitusmeraki

A white man learns about the politics of black women's hair 👍

FastWalkingShortGuy | FastWalkingShortGuy

Putting ignorance into perspective with grace 🙌

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NTA. SIL and BIL equating their hurt feelings to daily racism 🤯

LuckyGhostie | LuckyGhostie

POC shares frustration with ignorance and victim blaming in racist attacks. NTA.

xiaoyukhei | xiaoyukhei

A non-POC shares her experience and advice on educating SIL 👍

99angelgirl | 99angelgirl

Defending against racism and white privilege with NTA comment.

Readingreddit12345 | Readingreddit12345

Engaging dialogue on cultural sensitivity and growth 👍

thegreattemptation | thegreattemptation

Confronting hidden biases: a reminder of the insidiousness of racism 👏

Veridical_Perception | Veridical_Perception

A Filipino student shares his experience with traditional beauty standards.

AdventurerMax | AdventurerMax

Sincere NAH comment suggests discussion to bridge cultural differences 🙏

Krish1986 | Krish1986

Embrace your ethnicity and teach others to do the same 👏

Jyslina | Jyslina

Defending against racist comments, demanding apology for harmful remarks. 👏

soullessginger93 | soullessginger93

NTA commenter suggests a diplomatic approach to ignorant comment.

StillOnAMountain | StillOnAMountain

NTA shuts down woman's attempt to blame him for her embarrassment 😎

GodzillaSuit | GodzillaSuit

NTA. Racism should not be excused in 2020. 👏

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Compassionate response to insensitive comment, recommends education for understanding. 👍

femmemalin | femmemalin

NTA commenter calls out ignorance and immaturity with sarcasm 😒

PipTitwhistle | PipTitwhistle

NTA for calling out racist-ignorance and standing up for yourself 👏

dramaandaheadache | dramaandaheadache

NTA called out racism without being offensive 👏

coconutshave | coconutshave

Heartbreaking experience of hair discrimination, NTA and educate her. 😢

BernieTheDachshund | BernieTheDachshund

NTA calls out microaggressions perpetuating racism, important message 👏

gulwver | gulwver

Fighting ignorance and discrimination, NTA stands up for equality. 💪

minahmyu | minahmyu

NTA. Commenter calls out ignorance and insensitivity towards black women's hair.

PrincessofRampage | PrincessofRampage

NTA calls out ignorant comment, emphasizes impact over intention 👏

Mrbigmoney7 | Mrbigmoney7

Embrace your natural hair! Don't let anyone tell you otherwise 👌

Bitxhlasagna | Bitxhlasagna

Heartfelt support for victim of racism 😢

solennwolf | solennwolf

Stand up for yourself and speak out against discrimination 💪

RyanKennedy911 | RyanKennedy911

Standing up against racist comments. 💪

yonk182 | yonk182

Validating support for woman's experience with racist hair comments.

rumf00rd | rumf00rd

Offering gentle education to combat outdated values 👏

maryjayne9191 | maryjayne9191

NTA commenter calls out racism and ignorance, condemns victim blaming. 👏

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Support for response to racist comment, no backlash from community.

chatty_introvert88 | chatty_introvert88

NTA comment shuts down naive advice and suggests moving on 👍

awkwardly_competent | awkwardly_competent

Standing up to ignorance and victim blaming 💪

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NTA for standing up against ignorance and advocating for equality 👏

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Teaching kids about racism: a lesson for adults too 🙌

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Standing up against victim blaming and racist comments. 💪

spagbahagwag | spagbahagwag

Complimentary comment on curly hair and supportive reply to OP.

Sub_Umbra | Sub_Umbra

Empathetic response to ignorant comment advocating for wider worldview 👍

FairyFartDaydreams | FairyFartDaydreams

White commenter acknowledges privilege and encourages growth. 👏

leafyleafleaves | leafyleafleaves

Woman shares personal experience and offers advice on racism and victim blaming.

sweadle | sweadle

NTA educates friend on ignorant comment about her hair 👏

MaedayDuck | MaedayDuck

Don't apologize for being yourself! NTA comment section.

Forsaken_Woodpecker1 | Forsaken_Woodpecker1

NTA. Blaming someone for racism is not okay 😠

Bookaholicforever | Bookaholicforever

NTA comment calls out sister-in-law's ignorance and lack of research 🔥

w11f1ow3r | w11f1ow3r

NTA. Fighting against harmful advice and preserving identity. 👏

LynnRic | LynnRic

Intentions only count for so much, time to stop excuses 🙏

logirl1975 | logirl1975

Standing up against racism and ignorance. NTA, never change ❤️

Dachshundmom5 | Dachshundmom5

Supportive response to helping family member with racism backlash 👍

CommentThrowaway20 | CommentThrowaway20

Defending against micro-aggression and white-splaining. 💪

gibbardsexual | gibbardsexual

Fighting white fragility with grace and resources 💪

HistoricalQuail | HistoricalQuail

Defending a victim of discrimination against racial microaggressions.

Randalflagg618 | Randalflagg618

Insensitive comment blames victim's ethnicity for assault. NTA.

TeudoongieJjang | TeudoongieJjang

Standing up for yourself and educating others is important. 💪🏻

theoreticaldickjokes | theoreticaldickjokes

BIL's wife told woman to look 'less ethnic' - NTA claps back 👏

rlb199779 | rlb199779

NTA stands up against ignorance and calls for accountability. 💪

Dizzman1 | Dizzman1

NTA comment shuts down SIL's white fragility with facts 👏

zowzow_ | zowzow_

User expresses outrage at suggestion to look 'less ethnic' with curly hair. #NTA 😡

Blackdogwrangler | Blackdogwrangler

Standing up against racist comments with grace and dignity. ✊

Miniaq | Miniaq

Insensitive comment leads to a learning experience for all involved 🙌

InterestingLook3 | InterestingLook3

Supportive comment defends woman's right to wear hair naturally. 👏

CaughtMeIfYouCan101 | CaughtMeIfYouCan101

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