Dad Puts Fiancée on Couch for Daughter's Comfort 😲

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When it comes to family dynamics, things can get complicated, especially when you're trying to balance the needs of a child with those of a partner. In this case, a 43-year-old dad found himself in a tricky situation during a hotel stay with his fiancée and his 16-year-old daughter. His daughter, who is on the autism spectrum and has anxiety from previous trauma, was uncomfortable sleeping on the pull-out couch in their hotel room. So, he asked his fiancée to sleep on the couch so his daughter could sleep in the bed with him. But was this the right move? 🤔

The Hotel Dilemma 🏨

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Sleeping Arrangements 💤

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Daughter's Request 🛏️

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Fiancée's Reaction 😒

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The Aftermath 🌅

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Fiancée's Feelings 😠

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The Argument 🔥

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Walking Away 😤

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Fiancée's Perspective 🛋️

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A Hindsight Realization 🤦‍♂️

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The Balancing Act of Family Needs 🎭

In this emotionally charged situation, the dad tried to find a solution that would help his daughter feel comfortable while also respecting his fiancée's needs. However, his fiancée felt disrespected and sidelined when she had to sleep on the pull-out couch. While the dad acknowledges that he should have considered getting two beds, he also emphasizes the importance of understanding his daughter's unique needs. Let's take a look at some of the top reactions to this situation... 🍿

User acknowledges fault, suggests two beds and praises fiancé 👏

FlyingWithAliens | FlyingWithAliens

Listen to your fiancée and talk through her feelings 👥

OrangeCubit | OrangeCubit

Booking a one bed hotel room with a pullout bed? YTA. 😑

min_to_mi | min_to_mi

Fiancée kicked out of bed for daughter - YTA according to comments

AshlynM2 | AshlynM2

Fiancée slept on pull out, dad called YTA for daughter's comfort 😬

LadyCass79 | LadyCass79

Redditor calls out dad for kicking fiancée out of bed. YTA.

yuri_titov | yuri_titov

A critical comment on co-parenting and autism accommodations.

argleblather | argleblather

Autistic commenter suggests setting boundaries for comfort, YTA criticized.

LogicalVariation741 | LogicalVariation741

Redditors criticize dad for coddling his 16-year-old daughter. YTA.

Oddish197 | Oddish197

Book accommodation that accommodates your daughter, YTA for this.

happybanana134 | happybanana134

Father prioritized daughter's comfort, but upset fiancée. YTA. 😕

magstar222 | magstar222

Redditor calls out OP for dismissively shutting down fiancée's feelings 💔

SmallTownAttorney | SmallTownAttorney

Parenting advice gone wrong: YTA for letting your kid run things 😕

Euphoric_Math3673 | Euphoric_Math3673

Fiancée kicked out of bed for daughter, YTA according to comment.

Salt_Ad_1500 | Salt_Ad_1500

Enabling or caring? A divisive debate on family dynamics.

Livesinreality69 | Livesinreality69

Autistic commenter suggests compromise for dad and fiancée's needs 🙏

Orch_dork314 | Orch_dork314

Accommodating daughter with autism, but need to set boundaries. ESH.

ToxicChildhood | ToxicChildhood

OP is YTA for not considering daughter's needs beforehand 🤔

Crabbie_one_5443 | Crabbie_one_5443

Fiancée made to sleep on couch, YTA for disregarding her feelings 😕

angel2hi | angel2hi

Daughter jealous of fiancée, YTA for giving her couch 🛋️

ClimateRelative4084 | ClimateRelative4084

Father criticized for prioritizing comfort over fiancée's

BrilliantEmphasis862 | BrilliantEmphasis862

User calls out dad for prioritizing daughter over fiancée 😲

Brandie2666 | Brandie2666

Parenting advice for a dad who prioritized his child's comfort.

Humble-Plankton2217 | Humble-Plankton2217

Prioritizing daughter's comfort over wife's, ESH for poor planning 🤷‍♂️

DavidANaida | DavidANaida

User criticizes dad for not properly accommodating daughter's needs 😕

cmjw1023 | cmjw1023

Parent disagrees with dad's sleeping arrangements for daughter. 😕

Heathers4ever | Heathers4ever

Dad puts daughter's comfort first, fiancée complains afterwards. NTA 😲

FlamingWolf91 | FlamingWolf91

Autistic woman calls out dad's overprotectiveness of daughter 😕

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Defending dad's actions and calling out YTA judgments. NTA 👍

jansguy68 | jansguy68

Putting daughter's comfort first, but fiancé is understandably upset 😕

Altruistic-Motor-833 | Altruistic-Motor-833

NTA for prioritizing daughter's sensory needs over fiancée's comfort 🙏

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Compassion for daughter's autism, but also for fiance's feelings. 🙏

ZedisonSamZ | ZedisonSamZ

Fiancée kicked out of bed for daughter, told to 'stay in line' 😠

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A commenter thinks OP is the a**hole for not setting boundaries with his fiancée and daughter beforehand 😬

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Father criticized for poor preparation and dismissive attitude towards fiancée. 😑

Cocoasneeze | Cocoasneeze

Dad prioritizes daughter's comfort, but fiancée's feelings are valid too 😊

ilikecats92712 | ilikecats92712

Putting daughter's comfort first in a difficult situation. 🙌

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NTA for putting fiancée on couch, offered solutions, dismissed by her.

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Parenting an autistic child requires balance between comfort and boundaries. 👨🏽‍💻

Predd1tor | Predd1tor

Father puts daughter's comfort first, but should've booked two beds. Soft YTA.

Charming_Tax2311 | Charming_Tax2311

Daughter deserves autonomy and dad didn't handle it well 🤯

plumdelight | plumdelight

Fiancé chose couch over separate room for traumatized child. NTA 👍

fauxrain | fauxrain

Fiancé put on couch, daughter triggered. YTA for not preparing. 😕

beefytaint21 | beefytaint21

Accommodating daughter's needs is good, but better planning needed. ESH 😐

frankendudes | frankendudes

User calls out dad's move, suggests alternative sleeping arrangements. 😕

TheLonelySoap | TheLonelySoap

Parent gently calls out OP for not preplanning daughter's comfort

imperfectnails | imperfectnails

Advice for future hotel bookings to avoid couch inconvenience 😊

emmyemmusic | emmyemmusic

Putting daughter's needs first is not being an a**hole 💜

nottelling411 | nottelling411

User calls out dad for not helping daughter develop coping mechanisms

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NTA. You were a great parent to your autistic daughter 🙌

CatsInAOvercoat | CatsInAOvercoat

Fiancée offered alternative, small sacrifice for daughter's comfort. NTA.

MaghaChandra | MaghaChandra

Setting boundaries with children is important, even with disabilities. 🙏

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User calls out dad for prioritizing daughter over fiancée 😕

JustinianCheesecake | JustinianCheesecake

Understanding daughter's anxiety, OP not the a**hole in situation.

mmiggs | mmiggs

YTA for poor planning and blaming fiancé. Daughter's needs ignored.

Chemical-Fox-5350 | Chemical-Fox-5350

Sleeping arrangements spark debate over parenting and comfort levels 🚨

theycalledhermorlock | theycalledhermorlock

Fiancée needs to understand daughter comes first 🙏

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Protective dad defends daughter's comfort, shuts down creeps. 😎

LiamLivesOnAndOn | LiamLivesOnAndOn

The importance of communication in special accommodations 📞

West-Adhesiveness555 | West-Adhesiveness555

Fiancée kicked out of bed for daughter's comfort: YTA.

Firm_Touch8682 | Firm_Touch8682

User disagrees with OP's decision, finds Reddit comments unsettling. 😔

TheAngelzHaveReddIT | TheAngelzHaveReddIT

Fiancé's knowledge of daughter's trauma questioned 🤔

Majestic-Moon-1986 | Majestic-Moon-1986

Debate over appropriate accommodations for daughter with autism spectrum disorder.

iswintercomingornot_ | iswintercomingornot_

Listen to your partner and avoid dismissive language. 🙌

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Red flags raised in comment about dad's behavior with daughter

Doormatjones | Doormatjones

Professional help needed for daughter's anxiety, not sharing bed 🙏

Typical_Ad_210 | Typical_Ad_210

Fiancée calls out dad for not getting 2 beds, AH territory 😠

TiredAndTiredOfIt | TiredAndTiredOfIt

Daughter's comfort or favoritism? YTA according to commenters 🤷‍♀️

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Autistic people can understand boundaries. Dad should have explained better.

Decent-Effective-147 | Decent-Effective-147

Defending dad's decision to prioritize autistic daughter's comfort. 👍

Rolling_Beardo | Rolling_Beardo

User calls out dad for not prioritizing fiancée's feelings 😕

Nezukoka | Nezukoka

Fiancée asked to sleep on couch for daughter, YTA.

Acceptable-Grape296 | Acceptable-Grape296

Fiancée pushed out of bed due to daughter's sensory issues. ESH.

ajkert | ajkert

User calls out dad for not helping daughter cope 😕

Scared-Accountant288 | Scared-Accountant288

User suggests therapy for daughter, advises better alternatives for dad's actions.

DrSpicySalami | DrSpicySalami

Gender roles questioned in comment, no replies.

slendernan | slendernan

Poor planning and lack of empathy. YTA. 🤦‍♂️

GenericAnnonymous | GenericAnnonymous

Putting daughter first, NTA. Fiancée should understand her needs. 👍

theonewhowantscheese | theonewhowantscheese

Fiancée uncomfortable on couch for daughter's comfort 😕

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