College Student Refuses to Be Caregiver for Autistic Roommate 😱

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It's not easy being a college student, especially when you're living in a dorm room with a roommate who has special needs. But what happens when everyone around you starts treating you like a caregiver, and your roommate takes advantage of the situation? One young woman found herself in this exact predicament, and she's had enough! 😤 Let's dive into her story and see what led her to put her foot down. 👇

The College Roommate Dilemma 🏫

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The Unwanted Caregiver Role 😕

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Sarah's Messy Habits 🧦

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Autism as an Excuse? 🤔

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Cut Her Some Slack? 🙄

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Sarah's Independent Past 🍽️

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Putting Her Foot Down ✋

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Backlash from Friends and Family 😠

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Party Girl Sarah 🥳

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Switching Roommates 🔄

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Autistic ≠ Incompetent 🚫

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Not Her Caregiver 🙅‍♀️

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Enough is Enough: Standing Up for Herself 💪

After being treated like a caregiver for her autistic roommate, Sarah, this college student decided enough was enough. Despite the backlash from friends and family, she stood her ground, knowing that Sarah was capable of taking care of herself. As she points out, autistic people are not incompetent, and she never agreed to be Sarah's caregiver. With her decision to switch roommates, it's clear that this young woman is determined to take control of her own life. Let's see what the internet thinks of this situation... 🍿

Boundaries with roommates: autonomy vs. responsibility 🤔

avasarala25 | avasarala25

Not your responsibility 👍. Bring this up with administration 👨‍🏫

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Stand up for yourself! You're not her caregiver 💪

MiddleAgedCool | MiddleAgedCool

NTA for refusing to be taken advantage of by roommate 😊

Neravariine | Neravariine

Respectful NTA comment defends neurodivergent roommate's independence 👏

Sunflakes2012 | Sunflakes2012

Not the a**hole for refusing, but how did this happen?

slang_tang_ | slang_tang_

Boundaries are important. NTA for not wanting to be caregiver 😊

Flat_Contribution707 | Flat_Contribution707

Document conversations and seek room re-assignment 👍

S70nkyK0ng | S70nkyK0ng

Setting boundaries and rates like a boss 🤘

CanterCircles | CanterCircles

Roommate not responsible for autistic roommate's care. NTA 👍

Head-Computer5350 | Head-Computer5350

No obligation to care for roommate with special needs 🙌

TinyRascalSaurus | TinyRascalSaurus

Supporting autistic roommate's independence, debunking harmful stereotypes. NTA 👏

HannahAnthonia | HannahAnthonia

Setting boundaries with roommate who expects unpaid caregiving. NTA.

squirlysquirel | squirlysquirel

College roommate with autism needs professional help, NTA for refusing.

cjennmom | cjennmom

Autistic roommate not her responsibility. Accommodation ≠ caregiving. 🙌

Beneficial_Step9088 | Beneficial_Step9088

Empathetic commenter supports student's decision not to be caregiver. 🙏

Significant_Win6431 | Significant_Win6431

Roommate conflicts are not always about disabilities. NTA 👍

AndSoItGoes24 | AndSoItGoes24

Roommate should be independent or pay for help. NTA 👍

mdthomas | mdthomas

College student refuses to be caregiver for autistic roommate. NTA.

ashnxght | ashnxght

NTA. Taking care of Sarah takes time out of your schedule. Sarah is NOT your responsibility.

Huge_Industry_1259 | Huge_Industry_1259

Don't let guilt make you a caregiver. NTA 🙌

WbdigoQueenie | WbdigoQueenie

College student seeks advice on how to handle autistic roommate 🤔

Conscious_Air_2466 | Conscious_Air_2466

College student refuses to be caregiver for autistic roommate 😱

natdiego | natdiego

Certified commenter says refusing caregiver role is justified. 🙌

crazymastiff | crazymastiff

Being a roommate doesn't mean being a caretaker 🙌

EyeFun3023 | EyeFun3023

Roommate not your responsibility, good for standing up. NTA 👏

Algebralovr | Algebralovr

Refusing to be a full-time caregiver for autistic roommate 😱

Bitter-Conflict-4089 | Bitter-Conflict-4089

Roommate boundaries respected - NTA for not being a caregiver 👍

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College is for learning, not babysitting. NTA for refusing.

AstronomicalObserve | AstronomicalObserve

Set boundaries and don't be guilt-tripped. You're not her keeper 🙏

Choco_guru12 | Choco_guru12

College is for learning, not caregiving. NTA. 🙌

jenniw3g | jenniw3g

Breaking social expectations: NTA for refusing to be caregiver 🙌

MembershipJaded5215 | MembershipJaded5215

Roommate should not exploit others' decency for her laziness. NTA.

Guarenita | Guarenita

NTA stands up for boundaries with autistic roommate 😊

Castilian_eggs | Castilian_eggs

Being a caregiver should be voluntary. NTA for refusing.

redcore4 | redcore4

Living with autism does not make me a burden. NTA 👏

memkwen | memkwen

Student suggests changing rooms to avoid caregiver role for roommate 😊

FORMVOLTRON15 | FORMVOLTRON15

Stand up for yourself! 💪 NTA comment with no replies.

No_Character7056 | No_Character7056

Don't be a caregiver for your roommate with autism. NTA 🙌

Ok-Abbreviations4510 | Ok-Abbreviations4510

Focus on your studies, not your roommate's care. NTA 👍

SirMittensOfTheHill | SirMittensOfTheHill

College student refuses to be caregiver for roommate with autism 😱

AnotherRTFan | AnotherRTFan

Autistic parent shares how to teach self-sufficiency to autistic roommate 👍

Happy_Flow826 | Happy_Flow826

Stand up for yourself! You're not obligated to be anyone's caregiver 💪

Miserable-Living9569 | Miserable-Living9569

College roommate with autism expects too much from randomly assigned roommate 😒

TheEphemeralNight | TheEphemeralNight

Mother of autistic adult praises OP for not enabling roommate's behavior 👏

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User shares experience with autistic coworker and suggests malicious compliance.

oblivious_fireball | oblivious_fireball

NTA. Autistic people must learn to be adults in the world 🙏

realshockvaluecola | realshockvaluecola

Student refuses to be caregiver for autistic roommate, NTA 👏

HunterDangerous1366 | HunterDangerous1366

Roommate not caretaker. NTA. You did not choose this role 🙏

AmazingLark | AmazingLark

Demanding payment for caregiving to entitled roommate 😡

Poison-Dart-Frog89 | Poison-Dart-Frog89

Stand up for yourself and report the harassment to admin! 💪 NTA

BooksAndStarsLover | BooksAndStarsLover

Don't be gaslit, move out 🏃‍♂️💨

Procrumpets22 | Procrumpets22

College roommate with autism: NTA refuses to be caregiver 😱

wolofancy | wolofancy

Refusing to be a caregiver for entitled roommate with autism 😱

Bleah100 | Bleah100

Don't be her mom 🙅, NTA. Let her take care of herself.

MaryK007 | MaryK007

Putting your life on pause for roommate? NTA.

Apprehensive-Joke594 | Apprehensive-Joke594

Caregiver refuses to help autistic roommate, calls her childish 😱

MaryK007 | MaryK007

"NTA, she's faking not being able to care for herself" 🤪

Environmental_Act811 | Environmental_Act811

College student refuses to be caregiver for autistic roommate. #NTA 🙌

wayward_painter | wayward_painter

NTA. Cooking and cleaning for an autistic roommate? Hell no! 😱

bab_101 | bab_101

NTA, but is the roommate lying about needing a caregiver? 🤔

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Stand up for yourself and report the situation to authorities 💪

RoadNo9352 | RoadNo9352

Advocating for reasonable adjustments and not unpaid caregiving duties 💪

Possible_Laugh_9139 | Possible_Laugh_9139

Autistic commenter supports student's decision, advises to focus on self 👍

rk800s | rk800s

University should provide a solution. NTA, don't stress over this. 👍

JBB2002902 | JBB2002902

Roommate conflict: NTA suggests room change and family responsibility. 🙂

cassowary32 | cassowary32

Report Sarah to RA for better care. NTA, stop helping.

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Roommate should not intrude personal space, NTA for refusing.

Unusual-Ride1010 | Unusual-Ride1010

Roommate not your responsibility. Autistic not incapable. NTA 👍

Dogmother123 | Dogmother123

Autistic adult calls out entitled behavior, suggests charging for caregiving.

SamuelVimesTrained | SamuelVimesTrained

Not responsible for roommate's care, NTA 😊

JalenTargaryen | JalenTargaryen

Roommate refuses to care for autistic roommate, gets support 🙌

Pretend_Librarian_35 | Pretend_Librarian_35

RN defends college student's decision not to be caregiver for autistic roommate 🙏

Most_Bicycle6185 | Most_Bicycle6185

NTA. Parent of autistic kid agrees, suggest charging for help 💰

LateEvening6026 | LateEvening6026

Fair compensation for caregiving tasks. NTA for refusing.

NASA_official_srsly | NASA_official_srsly

College student refuses to be caregiver for autistic roommate. NTA.

SammyLoops1 | SammyLoops1

Student is not obligated to be a caregiver for roommate 🙌

Blackstar1401 | Blackstar1401

Don't be a caregiver if it's not your responsibility 🙌

The_Blue_Adept | The_Blue_Adept

Autistic person calls out roommate for using autism as excuse 🤔

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Student refuses to be caretaker for autistic roommate. NTA.

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