College Student Refuses to Be Caregiver for Autistic Roommate

It’s not easy being a college student, especially when you’re living in a dorm room with a roommate who has special needs. But what happens when everyone around you starts treating you like a caregiver, and your roommate takes advantage of the situation? One young woman found herself in this exact predicament, and she’s had enough! Let’s dive into her story and see what led her to put her foot down.

The College Roommate Dilemma

The Unwanted Caregiver Role

Sarah’s Messy Habits

Autism as an Excuse?

Cut Her Some Slack?

Sarah’s Independent Past ️

Putting Her Foot Down ✋

Backlash from Friends and Family

Party Girl Sarah

Switching Roommates

Autistic ≠ Incompetent

Not Her Caregiver ‍♀️

Enough is Enough: Standing Up for Herself

After being treated like a caregiver for her autistic roommate, Sarah, this college student decided enough was enough. Despite the backlash from friends and family, she stood her ground, knowing that Sarah was capable of taking care of herself. As she points out, autistic people are not incompetent, and she never agreed to be Sarah’s caregiver. With her decision to switch roommates, it’s clear that this young woman is determined to take control of her own life. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…

Boundaries with roommates: autonomy vs. responsibility

Not your responsibility . Bring this up with administration ‍

Stand up for yourself! You’re not her caregiver

NTA for refusing to be taken advantage of by roommate

Respectful NTA comment defends neurodivergent roommate’s independence

Not the a**hole for refusing, but how did this happen?

Boundaries are important. NTA for not wanting to be caregiver

Document conversations and seek room re-assignment

Setting boundaries and rates like a boss

Roommate not responsible for autistic roommate’s care. NTA

No obligation to care for roommate with special needs

Supporting autistic roommate’s independence, debunking harmful stereotypes. NTA

Setting boundaries with roommate who expects unpaid caregiving. NTA.

College roommate with autism needs professional help, NTA for refusing.

Autistic roommate not her responsibility. Accommodation ≠ caregiving.

Empathetic commenter supports student’s decision not to be caregiver.

Roommate conflicts are not always about disabilities. NTA

Roommate should be independent or pay for help. NTA

College student refuses to be caregiver for autistic roommate. NTA.

NTA. Taking care of Sarah takes time out of your schedule. Sarah is NOT your responsibility.

Don’t let guilt make you a caregiver. NTA

College student seeks advice on how to handle autistic roommate

College student refuses to be caregiver for autistic roommate

Certified commenter says refusing caregiver role is justified.

Being a roommate doesn’t mean being a caretaker

Roommate not your responsibility, good for standing up. NTA

Refusing to be a full-time caregiver for autistic roommate

Roommate boundaries respected – NTA for not being a caregiver

College is for learning, not babysitting. NTA for refusing.

Set boundaries and don’t be guilt-tripped. You’re not her keeper

College is for learning, not caregiving. NTA.

Breaking social expectations: NTA for refusing to be caregiver

Roommate should not exploit others’ decency for her laziness. NTA.

NTA stands up for boundaries with autistic roommate

Being a caregiver should be voluntary. NTA for refusing.

Living with autism does not make me a burden. NTA

Student suggests changing rooms to avoid caregiver role for roommate

Stand up for yourself! NTA comment with no replies.

Don’t be a caregiver for your roommate with autism. NTA

Focus on your studies, not your roommate’s care. NTA

College student refuses to be caregiver for roommate with autism

Autistic parent shares how to teach self-sufficiency to autistic roommate

Stand up for yourself! You’re not obligated to be anyone’s caregiver

College roommate with autism expects too much from randomly assigned roommate

Mother of autistic adult praises OP for not enabling roommate’s behavior

User shares experience with autistic coworker and suggests malicious compliance.

NTA. Autistic people must learn to be adults in the world

Student refuses to be caregiver for autistic roommate, NTA

Roommate not caretaker. NTA. You did not choose this role

Demanding payment for caregiving to entitled roommate

Stand up for yourself and report the harassment to admin! NTA

Don’t be gaslit, move out ‍♂️

College roommate with autism: NTA refuses to be caregiver

Refusing to be a caregiver for entitled roommate with autism

Don’t be her mom , NTA. Let her take care of herself.

Putting your life on pause for roommate? NTA.

Caregiver refuses to help autistic roommate, calls her childish

“NTA, she’s faking not being able to care for herself”

College student refuses to be caregiver for autistic roommate. #NTA

NTA. Cooking and cleaning for an autistic roommate? Hell no!

NTA, but is the roommate lying about needing a caregiver?

Stand up for yourself and report the situation to authorities

Advocating for reasonable adjustments and not unpaid caregiving duties

Autistic commenter supports student’s decision, advises to focus on self

University should provide a solution. NTA, don’t stress over this.

Roommate conflict: NTA suggests room change and family responsibility.

Report Sarah to RA for better care. NTA, stop helping.

Roommate should not intrude personal space, NTA for refusing.

Roommate not your responsibility. Autistic not incapable. NTA

Autistic adult calls out entitled behavior, suggests charging for caregiving.

Not responsible for roommate’s care, NTA

Roommate refuses to care for autistic roommate, gets support

RN defends college student’s decision not to be caregiver for autistic roommate

NTA. Parent of autistic kid agrees, suggest charging for help

Fair compensation for caregiving tasks. NTA for refusing.

College student refuses to be caregiver for autistic roommate. NTA.

Student is not obligated to be a caregiver for roommate

Don’t be a caregiver if it’s not your responsibility

Autistic person calls out roommate for using autism as excuse

Student refuses to be caretaker for autistic roommate. NTA.