Man Sparks Family Feud Over Care of Special Needs Child: Who's Right?

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In every family, the division of responsibilities can be a hot topic, but when it involves the care of a special needs child, the stakes are even higher. One man found himself in the middle of a family feud when he refused to increase his share of child care duties until his stepdaughter, who is paid by the state for respite care, steps up her game. His stance has sparked a fiery debate and threatens to tear his family apart. Let's dive into this intriguing story. 😮🔥

The Family Dynamic 🏠

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Respite Care: A Blessing or a Curse? 💰

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The Stepdaughter's Role 👧

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Night Duty: A 5-Minute Task? 🌙

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The Rare Night Call 🌚

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The Dad's Double Duty 👨‍🍳

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The Wife's Demand 📣

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The Dad's Counteroffer 💼

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The Suggested Shift 🔄

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The Family Fallout 💔

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Clarifying His Stance 📝

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No Fraud, Just Disagreement 🚫

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The Night Shift Debate ⏰

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The Hiring Hurdle 🚧

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The COVID Conundrum 🦠

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Family Feud Erupts Over Child Care: Who's in the Right? 😲

A family is torn apart as a father refuses to increase his child care duties until his stepdaughter, who is paid for respite care, does more. Despite his 60-hour work week and additional evening job, his wife demands more help. His counteroffer: he'll be 'on call' at night if the stepdaughter helps more during the day. This has sparked a fiery debate and threatens to end his marriage. As the family navigates this complex issue, the internet weighs in. Let's see what the world has to say about this family feud... 👀

Step daughter paid for care, but is she really helping? 🤔

Wrigglytoes | Wrigglytoes

"NTA. Need better schedule & equitable division of labor." 👏

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🚫 NTA wife illegally paying daughter for unnecessary work, causing family feud.

SohpieBlake_ | SohpieBlake_

NTA - Fire the step daughter and hire a professional! 💼

Apprehensive-Mess-97 | Apprehensive-Mess-97

"NTA I'd suggest hiring someone capable of taking care of your special needs child. It sounds like a rough situation all around that I don't envy and you sound at your wit's end. I hope something works out for you." 😔

do_mika | do_mika

Stepdaughter's lazy behavior sparks family feud over respite care 💤

autonomousegg | autonomousegg

Engaging comment and replies about respite care and its details 🤔

catcat712 | catcat712

NTA, wife committing fraud. Divorce, get caregiver for child. 👫

lo1988 | lo1988

NTA for hiring unqualified caregiver, but YTA for not addressing it.

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Complex family dynamics surrounding care of special needs child 👨‍🍳

EmbarrassedPiccolo2 | EmbarrassedPiccolo2

Is $10/hr enough for a caretaker? Quarantine concerns complicate matters. 🤔

RealPrismCat | RealPrismCat

INFO: Family needs reassessment of step-daughter's hours and parental roles.

Ooga_Ooga_Czacha | Ooga_Ooga_Czacha

NTA: She's getting paid for a job she isn't doing 😮

rrxs | rrxs

NTA- Caregiving for special needs is like parenting, but harder. Your step daughter is taking money that should be helping your child. If your wife doesn't agree, request a report on how the money should be used. 💔

FlutterByCookies | FlutterByCookies

ESH, but why does OP keep referring to her as "her daughter"? 🤔

nuhnajalhae | nuhnajalhae

NTA, but communication and compromise needed for family harmony. 👌

Guillaumerocherone | Guillaumerocherone

🤔 Caregiver pay debate: qualifications vs. certifications. Who's right?

mamadrama99 | mamadrama99

Choosing day care over professional care for special needs sibling. 🙌

Wolfieeee9 | Wolfieeee9

🤔 YTA - Angry about step daughter's overnight care reimbursement

WritPositWrit | WritPositWrit

$10 an hour isn't much, but trust is priceless. Family meeting needed! 🙏

luckydidi18 | luckydidi18

🔥 Fiery comment sparks family feud over special needs child

msscahlett | msscahlett

INFO: One child needs care, stepdaughter's hours and rent unclear. Angry communication.

Trixy975 | Trixy975

👑 NTA: Working two jobs and still taking care of kids?

You-need-a-big-one | You-need-a-big-one

NTA, but hiring a professional for $10/hr is unrealistic 😕

chasingvio | chasingvio

Parenting isn't an on/off switch. Poor kids, no responsibility.

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Understanding the on-call role: YTA for not acknowledging it.

aeiou-y | aeiou-y

NTA, but maybe consider marriage counseling for a resolution 😊

cilgo | cilgo

NTA, wife frustrated with caregiving, communicate and find alternatives. 👍

Discontinuedsoda | Discontinuedsoda

🤔 Hire someone else to care for the special needs child?

sweadle | sweadle

Let her be herself! 🙌 Give her space and freedom.

Sakurablossom90 | Sakurablossom90

NTA suggests a better schedule for respite care. 💡

partycanstartnow | partycanstartnow

NTA. Helpful tips for finding respite care and sympathizing with OP.

poyorick | poyorick

Concerns about legality and job security while caring for a child 🤔

Superdonkey78 | Superdonkey78

Creative solution to provide better care for special needs child 👍

chemical_angel666 | chemical_angel666

NTA- Paid help needed, stepdaughter not pulling her weight. 💪

thatonepersoniam | thatonepersoniam

Step daughter should help more in caring for special needs child. NTA.

mamadrama99 | mamadrama99

NTA: Wasting care hours? That's a special needs nightmare! 😱

jaywinner | jaywinner

Husband works two jobs, wife stays at home. NTA! 👏

RichardBachman19 | RichardBachman19

NTA, but step sibling's lack of care is concerning 😬

capricorn604 | capricorn604

Stepdaughter's cushy job sparks family feud over child's care 🤔

Medievalmoomin | Medievalmoomin

Wife demands I take care of kids while working, NTA! 😡

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NTA. Wife and step daughter are selfish. You work hard 💪

VeranoEte | VeranoEte

Cut off respite care? Or change schedule? Engaging discussion on needs.

johnboy374 | johnboy374

Step daughter's work and childcare divide sparks family feud.

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Helping more benefits your children, but is it fair?

Magicbean96 | Magicbean96

NTA: System abuse tears families apart. Advice: work less, save money.

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Stepdaughter should be carer, wife should get job. NTA 👍

iluvcats17 | iluvcats17

Family feud over disabled child's care: Everyone sucks here 😕

mrschester | mrschester

Can you afford to pay more for professional care? 💰

cocoa2203 | cocoa2203

Hiring passionate students can help your special needs child thrive! ✨

NoeLani2997 | NoeLani2997

NTA, doing the right thing is always worth it! ✨

PerkyLurkey | PerkyLurkey

NTA: Time to fire the SD and hire a pro! 💪

Bug_a_boo_Mama | Bug_a_boo_Mama

Not the a**hole for caring about special needs child 🙌

AsEdon | AsEdon

Fraud accusations fly in family feud over special needs child

therapistofpenisland | therapistofpenisland

💰 Revoking the deal with stepdaughter: legal or not?

ellingtonlasoo | ellingtonlasoo

OP needs a break! Swap roles for quality family time. #NTA

littleloucc | littleloucc

NTA. Wife manipulating you. 🤪

th1rteenghosts3 | th1rteenghosts3

Stepdaughter's job: NTA, she either wants it or doesn't 🤷‍♀️

Surfer_wave_dolphin | Surfer_wave_dolphin

Step daughter paid but won't help? Wife wants it all.

soph_lurk_2018 | soph_lurk_2018

NTA: Money matters. Resolving or leaving may be best options.

DracTheFag | DracTheFag

Step daughter has it pretty sweet, but NTA. Hope it's resolved

Lady_Unicorn666 | Lady_Unicorn666

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