Mother's Secret Funeral Arrangements: A Caregiver's Heartbreak 😔

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Imagine dedicating your life to caring for your elderly mother, only to discover she's been making secret plans behind your back. This is the heart-wrenching reality for one woman who found herself in the midst of family drama that could rival any soap opera. 💔👵👭 As the primary caregiver for her 81-year-old mother, our protagonist, let's call her 'Devoted Daughter', was left feeling betrayed and hurt when she discovered her mother's secret funeral arrangements and executor appointments. 😲

The Devoted Daughter's Duties 🏥💊

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The Secret Appointment 🤫⚰️

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The Untrustworthy Executors 📜💔

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The Financial Fiasco 💸⚖️

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The Backbone-less Sister 🦴🤷‍♀️

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The Self-serving Sister 👥💵

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The Emotional Abuse 😢🎭

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The Final Straw 🐫💔

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The Resignation 💌👋

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A Betrayed Caregiver's Dilemma: Who's the Real Villain Here? 😔💔

Imagine being the 'Devoted Daughter', the one tirelessly caring for your aging mother, only to discover she's been making secret funeral arrangements with your sisters. To add salt to the wound, she appoints two of your sisters as her executors - one known for her untrustworthiness, the other for her lack of backbone. You've weathered the storm of emotional abuse, but this betrayal is the final straw. You decide to resign as the caregiver, leaving the affairs of life and death to those deemed 'better suited'. But in the midst of the hurt and betrayal, you can't help but wonder - are you in the wrong? Let's delve into the internet's thoughts on this emotionally charged situation. 🌐💭

NTA. Don't waste your energy on toxic family. 😔

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NTA. Let them reap what they sow. Stay done with them. 😔

MariaLynd | MariaLynd

NTA: They're greedy. Let them spend their money on a caregiver 😔

NewfromNY | NewfromNY

"NTA. Good riddance! They made their beds, you're free! 😔"

benfranklin-katniss | benfranklin-katniss

Engaging comment: 'Paragraphs please.' Replies: 'Not just paragraphs, sentences.'

AMerrickanGirl | AMerrickanGirl

NTA - Let go of the past and build your own family 🙏

Dipping_My_Toes | Dipping_My_Toes

Engaging comment and replies: Nightmare to read, couldn't make it to the end 😱

3daycondor | 3daycondor

Take care of yourself and go low/no contact for awhile 😌

Lolo647 | Lolo647

NTA for stepping down from caregiving, but family drama ensues 😔

lonnielee3 | lonnielee3

Comment chaos! 🤯 Can't decipher the run-on sentence riddle! 😵

AdamantineCreature | AdamantineCreature

"NTA. Leave her to her games. Reality-based care vs. little games."

jennyislander | jennyislander

Heartbreakingly, the caregiver is not the a**hole in this situation 😢

tcsweetgurl | tcsweetgurl

Grammar police on the loose! Chaos and punctuation collide 😳

holisarcasm | holisarcasm

NTA: Long run-on sentence, but seems like NTA from beginning.

GloomySpirit2850 | GloomySpirit2850

Clever way to handle sister's calls after Mom's passing! 😊

UnusuallyScented | UnusuallyScented

Heartbroken caregiver stops helping unappreciative family. 😔 NTA

SimpleAd1548 | SimpleAd1548

Caregiver's heartbreak: Feeling disregarded by mother's secret funeral arrangements 😔

NotRedCici | NotRedCici

Punctuation, please. 😔

cleaver1015 | cleaver1015

Heartbreaking comment about punctuation. Can you handle it? 😔

heyheyhey981 | heyheyhey981

Heartbreaking story of cutting off toxic family for self-preservation. 😢

parenda | parenda

The plea for a crucial paragraph that's breaking hearts 😔

catloving | catloving

Don't be a doormat! Stand up for yourself. 🙌

Defiant-Currency-518 | Defiant-Currency-518

Stand firm, take care of you! 💪

AlternativeDurian852 | AlternativeDurian852

Heartfelt apology to mom for caregiving, hoping for happiness ❤️

BagWitty7878 | BagWitty7878

Heartbreaking situation, but you're not the a**hole. They'll understand 💔

DoobieDoo0718 | DoobieDoo0718

Secure your future, NTA! Create a care taker contract! 🙌

Potential-Power7485 | Potential-Power7485

Heartbreaking story of a caregiver trapped in a toxic situation 😢

Sunnysunshine1033 | Sunnysunshine1033

NTA: Freedom from toxic mother, but prepare for financial consequences 😔

Turbulent_Message637 | Turbulent_Message637

Take control of your life and enjoy the holidays guilt-free! 🎄

Harriethair | Harriethair

Taking control of your life and finding peace without negativity. 🙌

cathline | cathline

NTA. Let them figure it out 😔

WholeAd2742 | WholeAd2742

Cutting ties with family? 🤔 Not the a**hole, says commenter!

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Concerns of elder abuse and legal implications. NTA, but...

sickandopinionated | sickandopinionated

Heartbroken caregiver refuses to do any more favors for mother

Mata_El_Maricon | Mata_El_Maricon

Executor's power: NTA, they decide care arrangements. 👍

No-Personality5421 | No-Personality5421

NTA. Caregiver's heartbreak: Lazy siblings praised, abused child escapes for happiness.

Enough-Builder-2230 | Enough-Builder-2230

NTA. Finding freedom after years of caregiving. 😂

ajnabee1234 | ajnabee1234

NTA- Good luck. This sounds like a mess. 😔

chuckinhoutex | chuckinhoutex

Not the a**hole! Share your story of caregiver heartbreak 😔

sleepy_lady_420 | sleepy_lady_420

Been there, done that. Pray for forgiveness, mourn, and walk away. 🙏

ProfessionalCar6255 | ProfessionalCar6255

Don't go back. You're not the a**hole. 💔

teachprof | teachprof

NTA. Stand strong against abusive family and unfair labor expectations! 💪

Southern_Run_8293 | Southern_Run_8293

Supportive comment, well done! 👏

Bright_Sea_7567 | Bright_Sea_7567

Heartbreak of caregiving: NTA, your mistake was becoming her caregiver 😔

295Phoenix | 295Phoenix

Escaping abuse and finding freedom 💛

rainyday_24 | rainyday_24

No good deed goes unpunished. 😔

General-Star4550 | General-Star4550

"The camel's suffering was long before the final straw" 😭

KinkyKitty24 | KinkyKitty24

A heartbreaking clash of beliefs and trust in funeral arrangements 😢

Ok-Cat-4975 | Ok-Cat-4975

Heartbreaking situation: Did you discuss this with your mother? 😢

PutTheKettleOn20 | PutTheKettleOn20

Heartbroken caregiver resigns, reveals truth to mother 💔

chaingun_samurai | chaingun_samurai

Heartbroken caregiver receives support for not being the a**hole 😢

I_luv_sloths | I_luv_sloths

Savage response! The mic drop that ended it all. 🎧

Ornery-Ticket834 | Ornery-Ticket834

Heartbreakingly, the caregiver was not the a**hole in this situation 😢

Substantial-Air3395 | Substantial-Air3395

Heartbreakingly, the caregiver is not the a**hole in this situation 😢

JudesM | JudesM

NTA - Stay strong and don't give in to their pleas! 💪

IgnotusPeverill | IgnotusPeverill

NTA: Time to kick back and relax, babe! 😎

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Heartbreaking betrayal: caregiver excluded from parents' wills 😢

lighting-gal | lighting-gal

Heartbroken caregiver receives support for not being the a**hole 😢

BeneficialHurry8644 | BeneficialHurry8644

NTA. Cut contact, change emergency contact, let sister handle.

CoffeeWithDreams89 | CoffeeWithDreams89

Cut ties with toxic family. NTA. 😔

Soft_Cattle_409 | Soft_Cattle_409

Live your best life! You're not the a**hole. 😊

CakeZealousideal1820 | CakeZealousideal1820

Self-care is crucial! NTA for prioritizing your well-being 🙌

The_Dufrenes | The_Dufrenes

Caretaking saint receives well-deserved appreciation for her selflessness 🙏

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NTA, but beware of sisters taking advantage of elderly mother.

PolicyWonka | PolicyWonka

Ungrateful mom's secret funeral arrangements. NTA caregiver heartbreak 😔

depressivedarling | depressivedarling

NTA - A refreshing perspective on the mother's funeral arrangements 👍

ynvesoohnka7nn | ynvesoohnka7nn

Heartbreaking betrayal: OP's secret funeral arrangements. NTA 😢

Lost-Glove-1291 | Lost-Glove-1291

Heartbroken caregiver finds support: NTA, walk away 😔

AussieTopCat | AussieTopCat

Put yourself first! NTA. Let her die alone if she wants 😔

Leading_Vehicle_4325 | Leading_Vehicle_4325

Take everything and walk away, no regrets! 🙌

13wade | 13wade

Stand firm! You're not the a**hole. 💪

Potential_Honey_955 | Potential_Honey_955

Concerned about cognitive test's impact on caregiver's situation 🤔

Revan1114 | Revan1114

Set boundaries. Don't let yourself be crapped on. 😔

hippychick1111 | hippychick1111

NTA: Take care of yourself, do what feels right for you 🙏

ScaryButterscotch474 | ScaryButterscotch474

NTA and good riddance to the whole abusive lot. 💯

Dangerous_Number_685 | Dangerous_Number_685

Prepare for pressure and guilt, but you're not the a**hole. 😔

Popular-Flower572 | Popular-Flower572

NTA: You did your best for your mother. Time to let go 👏

feminist1946 | feminist1946

Elderly parent causing drama? OP, NTA! Avoid the stress 😔

guntonom | guntonom

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