Woman's Home-Buying Dilemma Sparks Controversy: Boyfriend or Mortgage First? 🏡💔

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Meet our 29-year-old heroine, who finds herself in a pickle that's as sour as it gets. She's moved back to her small hometown from the big city, chasing a better job and the comforting proximity of family. But there's a twist in the tale - her 30-year-old boyfriend, still in the city, and their rented townhome. As she navigates the treacherous waters of a terrible buyer's market, she stumbles upon a house she falls head over heels for. But it's out of her budget. Enter her knight in shining armor - her dad, who offers to help with the down payment. But then, the plot thickens as her boyfriend makes a surprising demand...🏡💔

The Big Move and a Bigger Dilemma 🚚💭

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The Boyfriend's Stance 🏙️🤔

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The House Hunt Begins 🏡🔍

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The Dream House and a Generous Offer 💖💰

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The Boyfriend's Unexpected Demand 📝💔

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The Boyfriend's Concerns and Our Heroine's Dilemma 🌆🤷‍♀️

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A Controlling Situation or a Misunderstanding? 🎭🎲

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The Marriage Question 💍🏡

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The Generous Gift and a Grateful Daughter 🎁👨‍👧

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The Unworthy Feeling and a Personal Issue 🎁😔

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A Home-Buying Journey Turns into a Relationship Test: Who's Right, Who's Wrong? 🏡💔

Our 29-year-old protagonist's journey from city life back to her small-town roots takes a dramatic turn when she decides to buy a house. As she battles the harsh realities of a terrible buyer's market, she finds a house she adores but can't afford. Her father steps in, generously offering to help with the down payment. But the plot thickens when her boyfriend, still in the city, insists on having his name on the mortgage, despite not contributing to the down payment. He also voices concerns about moving to an area they might not like. Is he being controlling or just cautious? And why can't he wait until they're married to be on the mortgage? The internet has some thoughts on this...🍿👀

NTA: Boyfriend should contribute before being added to mortgage. 💔

Cherrygrove-elk | Cherrygrove-elk

NTA. Don't let your controlling BF ruin your home ownership 💔

zippy_zaboo | zippy_zaboo

Don't put his name in the deed! Protect your assets! 🚨

acer64 | acer64

Protect yourself! Don't put anyone on a mortgage without marriage 🚫

Agreeable-Tale9729 | Agreeable-Tale9729

NAH: Boyfriend's concerns about home-buying and decision-making are valid

Dangerous_Prize_4545 | Dangerous_Prize_4545

Dump the boyfriend if he won't pay rent or contribute. 💔

DarmokTheNinja | DarmokTheNinja

"NAH vs ESH: The Home-Buying Dilemma - Rent or Buy? 🤔💔"

Usrname52 | Usrname52

Boyfriend wants mortgage without contributing, prioritize father and house.


Take control of your own decisions and prioritize your happiness. 💪

Iron_winged_monarch | Iron_winged_monarch

NTA. Throw him away and buy a ring for yourself 💍

rosearmada | rosearmada

Protect your assets! Don't put his name on the mortgage! 🚩

BlueLightningyt | BlueLightningyt

🚩🤔 Red flags and confusion: Is she ready for engagement?

couldwedance | couldwedance

NTA. Boyfriend wants free ride on mortgage, but not rent? 😩

rusalkamaya | rusalkamaya

NTA: Boyfriend wants half ownership of YOUR house for free? 😰

BeringC | BeringC

"NTA. Don't put his name on anything if he's not contributing financially."

handwritten_emojis | handwritten_emojis

ESH: Communication is key! Stop steam-rolling and start discussing together. 👍

Didusayyutes | Didusayyutes

NTA: Protect your assets, avoid financial entanglements with partners. 💪

wind-river7 | wind-river7

NAH: Boyfriend's concerns about mortgage and future security are valid 🙏

MapOfProblematique | MapOfProblematique

🏠 NTA. Boyfriend shouldn't be on mortgage. No rent, no move-in.

DannyBigD | DannyBigD

🏠💔 Dad's loan dilemma: NTA for standing up to boyfriend, but what about dad?

nekpeasant | nekpeasant

Is the rent less than what he's been paying? 🏠💰

ZerafineNigou | ZerafineNigou

🚫 Don't put his name on the mortgage! Dump him!

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NTA: Boyfriend should pay rent, not be on the mortgage. 🏠

princessofperky | princessofperky

Independent living or shared expenses? NTA takes a stand! 👏

NefariousnessGlum424 | NefariousnessGlum424

NTA. Marriage before mortgage, he should pay rent like everyone else.

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NTA: Protect your assets and consult a lawyer before buying.

FleurVellichor | FleurVellichor

Rent or buy? A tough decision with low interest rates. 🙏

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NTA: Boyfriend's contribution to mortgage and rent sparks debate. 🙏

dr-sparkle | dr-sparkle

NTA: Boyfriend wants control. Don't move him in without rent.

Thyumos | Thyumos

Boyfriend wants ownership but won't contribute? NTA, kick him out! 👮👍

brokenhousewife_ | brokenhousewife_

Not the a**hole! Share your thoughts on her dilemma! 🚩

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NTA. Boyfriend's control over mortgage is worrisome. Watch for signs. 💔

PNWPainter02 | PNWPainter02

NTA. Don't let him move in without a formal agreement. 👍

Special_Respond7372 | Special_Respond7372

🚩 NTA. Concerning boyfriend wants a free ride on mortgage.

agarrabrant | agarrabrant

Take charge of your future! Don't settle for ultimatums. 💪

CptBloodyObvious | CptBloodyObvious

NTA: Boyfriend wants ownership but won't contribute? Unfair situation! 🙅

Any_Cantaloupe_613 | Any_Cantaloupe_613

NTA: Boyfriend wants mortgage benefits without contributing. Unfair or not?

UnderEasyWater | UnderEasyWater

Boyfriend's controlling behavior sparks debate over home-buying decisions. 💔

LockSea8204 | LockSea8204

NTA: Your house, your rules. BF needs to wise up.

Adept_Ad_4369 | Adept_Ad_4369

🚫 NTA! Keep him off the mortgage! Let him pay his share.

Bozobozo111 | Bozobozo111

NTA! Don't let ultimatums ruin your dream house 💔

WillLoveCoffee4Ever1 | WillLoveCoffee4Ever1

NTA. Similar situation, boyfriend paid rent and was happy about it 😊

redralphie | redralphie

Don't put him on the deed! Set boundaries and prioritize yourself. 🙌

tacocat8675 | tacocat8675

Wedding first, then mortgage? The importance of clear financial agreements. 💍💰

TastyHome8183 | TastyHome8183

Solving the dilemma: boyfriend's rent or independence? 💔

Emotional-Ebb8321 | Emotional-Ebb8321

NTA: Boyfriend won't contribute to house, but expects free ride. 🏠💔

dawno64 | dawno64

NTA: Confusing deed and mortgage, boyfriend's commitment issues, and red flags. 👍

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NTA - Sensible decision, he should contribute financially. 👍

Betweentheminds | Betweentheminds

NTA. Protect yourself legally before moving in with your boyfriend. 💪

pinguthegreek | pinguthegreek

Stand your ground! Get a roommate and save your money! 💪

Demirep77 | Demirep77

Separate mortgage and title, protect your assets with a pre-nup. 💔

junigloomy | junigloomy

"NTA - If he won't contribute financially, he can't live here."

ohnozaddy | ohnozaddy

Supportive parent prioritizes children's home-buying over non-spouse mortgage. 👏

workinkindofhard | workinkindofhard

Follow your dreams! Get your dream house and live separately! 🎉

mdthomas | mdthomas

Equal contributions needed for house ownership. Rent ≠ mortgage payments. 👍

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Boyfriend wants name on house without contributing money? NTA!

pookguyinc | pookguyinc

🚩 Massive red flag: Boyfriend wants claim to property without contributing. NTA.

mrekon123 | mrekon123

Don't cave in! Financial abuse is a red flag 👍

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Don't let him have his cake and eat it too! 🤪

sashaopinion | sashaopinion

NTA: Don't let him mooch off your house without commitment! 💯

_sushifreak | _sushifreak

NTA... Dump him if he won't pay his way! 😱

OhioGirl22 | OhioGirl22

NTA. Offer solutions: add him to deed or draw up contract.

AnyConference4593 | AnyConference4593

Logical decision to prioritize personal goals before marriage. 👍

No_Solid_9151 | No_Solid_9151

NTA- Boyfriend not contributing financially, no say. Get a prenup.

Frequent_District174 | Frequent_District174

NTA: Boyfriend should contribute to down payment for mortgage. 💔

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Engaging caption: Partner's input matters too! 🤔💑

throwaway483638 | throwaway483638

Dump the user! Find a mortgage, not a deadbeat boyfriend. 💔

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NTA. Protect yourself financially and stand your ground. 💪

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Smart move! Buying is the way to go. 👍

kochenta2020 | kochenta2020

🏡💔 NTA: Boyfriend doesn't contribute, he doesn't deserve equity.

NarrativeScorpion | NarrativeScorpion

NTA. Boyfriend needs to contribute financially. 💸

FormerFruit | FormerFruit

Protect yourself! Get a rental agreement before moving in together. 👮

irisheyes1997 | irisheyes1997

ESH except you. Dad shouldn't insist on your financial decisions. Boyfriend wants equity. Complicated breakup. 💔

Raddatatta | Raddatatta

NTA! Boyfriend should pay dad back before being added to title. 💔

fromhelley | fromhelley

Protect your assets: Don't rush into joint ownership! 👍

jluvdc26 | jluvdc26

NTA suggests boyfriend should try his own advice with landlord 😂

HellPika666 | HellPika666

Father's help makes home ownership possible for some. #NTA

neworderfan | neworderfan

Moving in together? Not so fast! NAH, take it slow. 👭💔

SociallyAwkardTurtle | SociallyAwkardTurtle

Consider your own wishes and make the decision that suits you! 👍

peace-invader | peace-invader

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