Woman Refuses to Help New Colleague Report Harassment After Being Called a 'Dirty Slut' 😲

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Imagine being called a 'dirty slut' by a new colleague and then being asked to help them report another coworker for harassment. That's exactly what happened to a 23-year-old woman who was transferred to a new department with 12 men and only 2 women. She was the youngest and newest member of the team, and the guys were very helpful and patient with her. But when a new lady, Amy, joined the team, things took a dramatic turn. 😮

The Close-Knit Team 🤗

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Affectionate Colleague, Tom 🐻

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New Girl, Amy, Joins the Team 😶

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Amy's Outburst 😡

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The Insult 💔

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Amy Wants Help Reporting Tom 🤔

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A Sarcastic Reply 😏

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Amy's Anger Intensifies 😠

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Kat Bows Out 🚶‍♀️

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Not Reporting Anyone 😴

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Clarifications 📝

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Work Environment 🏢

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Kat's Stance 🤷‍♀️

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No Help for Amy 🙅‍♀️

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A Dramatic Turn of Events 🎭

So, our protagonist was insulted by Amy, the new girl, who called her a 'dirty slut' in front of all their coworkers. Instead of apologizing, Amy then asked for her help in reporting Tom for harassment. Our protagonist, still tired and in a bad mood, sarcastically replied that she'd report Amy for her foul language instead. Amy got angrier, and now she's left with no one to back her up. The protagonist has no intention of reporting anyone, leaving Tom and Amy to sort it out themselves. Let's see what the internet thinks of this situation... 🍿

ESH. Workplace boundaries crossed, insults thrown, HR needed but avoided. 😑

TogarSucks | TogarSucks

NTA! OP didn't deserve to be called a dirty slut 😒

aqua_not_capri | aqua_not_capri

Debate over sexual harassment and name-calling in the workplace. ESH.

rachelsreddits | rachelsreddits

Mixed feelings on whether the colleague's actions constitute harassment. ESH.

Dachshundmom5 | Dachshundmom5

NTA commenter advises OP to preemptively talk to HR about harassment.

C0pper-an0de | C0pper-an0de

Inappropriate workplace behavior, but using slurs is never okay. ESH.

LordofFullmetal | LordofFullmetal

Consent is key, 'someone else likes it' is not an excuse 🚨

DetectivReneeMontoya | DetectivReneeMontoya

Maintaining professionalism at work is crucial to avoid boundary violations 🙌

heyyimbored | heyyimbored

Commenters debate whether Amy's comment referred directly to OP.

duplicitist | duplicitist

Commenter and reply agree: workplace is unprofessional and immature 😒

Nowherei | Nowherei

Tom's behavior was inappropriate but he apologized, everyone needs reconciliation.

sammyg301 | sammyg301

NTA for not helping colleague report harassment, but Tom needs boundaries 🙅

TooTall2Function | TooTall2Function

OP and Tom are both in the wrong for ignoring consent 😑

endlessnanosecond | endlessnanosecond

Tom and Amy both overstepped, need to learn boundaries. ESH 😐

Iwillsingyoulullabys | Iwillsingyoulullabys

NTA for not helping colleague report harassment after being insulted 👍

limark | limark

Hugging a stranger during pandemic is a red flag. ESH.

Dark_Phoenix25 | Dark_Phoenix25

Teddy bear friend crosses boundaries, but name-calling is unacceptable. ESH 🤷‍♀️

Triatomine | Triatomine

Engaging in a debate over hugging and name-calling. ESH.

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Manager condemns both sexual harassment and derogatory language in workplace. 👏

CookieBomb6 | CookieBomb6

Professional boundaries are important at work, not a big family 🙌

sweadle | sweadle

Consent is key, but everyone sucks here. 😐

Yurigasaki | Yurigasaki

Amy's insult was wrong, but Tom's behavior was worse. ESH.

EmilieVitnux | EmilieVitnux

ESH. Tom's behavior is not normal and needs to stop. Mediation needed. 🚨

Smiley-Canadian | Smiley-Canadian

Supporting women shouldn't involve putting others down 👏

As_Is_617 | As_Is_617

Commenter calls out YTA for blackmailing and downplaying harassment.

nfc3po | nfc3po

Comment section descends into chaos with ESH verdict 🤯

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Professional conduct violation, but Amy overreacted and insulted OP. ESH 😒

perpIndignant | perpIndignant

Colleague called her a 'dirty slut' but both sides suck. 🤔

A_Kiss_Of_Cherry | A_Kiss_Of_Cherry

Everyone sucks here in workplace harassment incident 🤷

carrieblue87 | carrieblue87

NTA. Tom should be reprimanded, but colleague's behavior worse 😱

ProffesorSpitfire | ProffesorSpitfire

Everyone's wrong, including you 😬

mommawolf2 | mommawolf2

Consent is key. ESH for hugging without consent and name-calling.

Desperate-Ring | Desperate-Ring

Workplace hugger gets called out, coworker insulted, ESH.

neonfuzzball | neonfuzzball

Calling women 'dirty sluts' is not okay, reporting harassment is.

freckled-shoulders | freckled-shoulders

Defending accused harasser and victim blaming 😒

turtlegod_1000000000 | turtlegod_1000000000

Hugging during pandemic leads to ESH and HR report

Deathbyignorage | Deathbyignorage

Commenter suggests resolving workplace harassment issue through mutual apologies.

Cottonballgourmet | Cottonballgourmet

Commenter sympathizes with Amy's discomfort but calls out both parties.

Akukurotenshi | Akukurotenshi

Gender-neutral hugs could avoid harassment, but insults never okay. 🤷‍♀️

thesammae | thesammae

Consent is key, even outside of romantic situations. Lesson learned? 🤔

MacroFoto | MacroFoto

Toxic workplace alert! Multiple parties at fault 🚨

secret-nigiri | secret-nigiri

Commenter points out everyone's wrongdoings and advises reporting harassment.

Book_Hoarding_Dragon | Book_Hoarding_Dragon

Inappropriate coworker behavior, but OP also has room for improvement 🤔

LadyKlepsydra | LadyKlepsydra

Everyone sucks here in this unfortunate workplace harassment situation. 🤷‍♀️

amndamdr | amndamdr

Everyone sucks here in this toxic workplace situation 🤬

Prison_Mike_DM | Prison_Mike_DM

Commenter defends Tom's actions and criticizes Amy's sexism.

RichardBachman19 | RichardBachman19

Setting boundaries at work is crucial to avoid harassment. 🙌

AccomplishedMango596 | AccomplishedMango596

Inappropriate words vs inappropriate touching during pandemic. ESH. 🤯

ringringbananarchy00 | ringringbananarchy00

Toxic work environment with boundary issues and unprofessional behavior. ESH.

Puzzled-Nobody | Puzzled-Nobody

New colleague hugs woman on first day, sparks argument. ESH.

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