Imagine being called a 'dirty slut' by a new colleague and then being asked to help them report another coworker for harassment. That's exactly what happened to a 23-year-old woman who was transferred to a new department with 12 men and only 2 women. She was the youngest and newest member of the team, and the guys were very helpful and patient with her. But when a new lady, Amy, joined the team, things took a dramatic turn. 😮
Woman Refuses to Help New Colleague Report Harassment After Being Called a 'Dirty Slut' 😲
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The Close-Knit Team 🤗
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Affectionate Colleague, Tom 🐻
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Must Read
New Girl, Amy, Joins the Team 😶
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Amy's Outburst 😡
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The Insult 💔
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Amy Wants Help Reporting Tom 🤔
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A Sarcastic Reply 😏
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Amy's Anger Intensifies 😠
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Kat Bows Out 🚶♀️
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Not Reporting Anyone 😴
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Clarifications 📝
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Work Environment 🏢
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Kat's Stance 🤷♀️
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No Help for Amy 🙅♀️
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A Dramatic Turn of Events 🎭
So, our protagonist was insulted by Amy, the new girl, who called her a 'dirty slut' in front of all their coworkers. Instead of apologizing, Amy then asked for her help in reporting Tom for harassment. Our protagonist, still tired and in a bad mood, sarcastically replied that she'd report Amy for her foul language instead. Amy got angrier, and now she's left with no one to back her up. The protagonist has no intention of reporting anyone, leaving Tom and Amy to sort it out themselves. Let's see what the internet thinks of this situation... 🍿
ESH. Workplace boundaries crossed, insults thrown, HR needed but avoided. 😑
TogarSucks | TogarSucks
NTA! OP didn't deserve to be called a dirty slut 😒
aqua_not_capri | aqua_not_capri
Debate over sexual harassment and name-calling in the workplace. ESH.
rachelsreddits | rachelsreddits
Mixed feelings on whether the colleague's actions constitute harassment. ESH.
Dachshundmom5 | Dachshundmom5
NTA commenter advises OP to preemptively talk to HR about harassment.
C0pper-an0de | C0pper-an0de
Inappropriate workplace behavior, but using slurs is never okay. ESH.
LordofFullmetal | LordofFullmetal
Consent is key, 'someone else likes it' is not an excuse 🚨
DetectivReneeMontoya | DetectivReneeMontoya
Maintaining professionalism at work is crucial to avoid boundary violations 🙌
heyyimbored | heyyimbored
Commenters debate whether Amy's comment referred directly to OP.
duplicitist | duplicitist
Commenter and reply agree: workplace is unprofessional and immature 😒
Nowherei | Nowherei
Tom's behavior was inappropriate but he apologized, everyone needs reconciliation.
sammyg301 | sammyg301
NTA for not helping colleague report harassment, but Tom needs boundaries 🙅
TooTall2Function | TooTall2Function
OP and Tom are both in the wrong for ignoring consent 😑
endlessnanosecond | endlessnanosecond
Tom and Amy both overstepped, need to learn boundaries. ESH 😐
Iwillsingyoulullabys | Iwillsingyoulullabys
NTA for not helping colleague report harassment after being insulted 👍
limark | limark
Hugging a stranger during pandemic is a red flag. ESH.
Dark_Phoenix25 | Dark_Phoenix25
Teddy bear friend crosses boundaries, but name-calling is unacceptable. ESH 🤷♀️
Triatomine | Triatomine
Engaging in a debate over hugging and name-calling. ESH.
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Manager condemns both sexual harassment and derogatory language in workplace. 👏
CookieBomb6 | CookieBomb6
Professional boundaries are important at work, not a big family 🙌
sweadle | sweadle
Consent is key, but everyone sucks here. 😐
Yurigasaki | Yurigasaki
Amy's insult was wrong, but Tom's behavior was worse. ESH.
EmilieVitnux | EmilieVitnux
ESH. Tom's behavior is not normal and needs to stop. Mediation needed. 🚨
Smiley-Canadian | Smiley-Canadian
Supporting women shouldn't involve putting others down 👏
As_Is_617 | As_Is_617
Commenter calls out YTA for blackmailing and downplaying harassment.
nfc3po | nfc3po
Comment section descends into chaos with ESH verdict 🤯
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Professional conduct violation, but Amy overreacted and insulted OP. ESH 😒
perpIndignant | perpIndignant
Colleague called her a 'dirty slut' but both sides suck. 🤔
A_Kiss_Of_Cherry | A_Kiss_Of_Cherry
Everyone sucks here in workplace harassment incident 🤷
carrieblue87 | carrieblue87
NTA. Tom should be reprimanded, but colleague's behavior worse 😱
ProffesorSpitfire | ProffesorSpitfire
Everyone's wrong, including you 😬
mommawolf2 | mommawolf2
Consent is key. ESH for hugging without consent and name-calling.
Desperate-Ring | Desperate-Ring
Workplace hugger gets called out, coworker insulted, ESH.
neonfuzzball | neonfuzzball
Calling women 'dirty sluts' is not okay, reporting harassment is.
freckled-shoulders | freckled-shoulders
Defending accused harasser and victim blaming 😒
turtlegod_1000000000 | turtlegod_1000000000
Hugging during pandemic leads to ESH and HR report
Deathbyignorage | Deathbyignorage
Commenter suggests resolving workplace harassment issue through mutual apologies.
Cottonballgourmet | Cottonballgourmet
Commenter sympathizes with Amy's discomfort but calls out both parties.
Akukurotenshi | Akukurotenshi
Gender-neutral hugs could avoid harassment, but insults never okay. 🤷♀️
thesammae | thesammae
Consent is key, even outside of romantic situations. Lesson learned? 🤔
MacroFoto | MacroFoto
Toxic workplace alert! Multiple parties at fault 🚨
secret-nigiri | secret-nigiri
Commenter points out everyone's wrongdoings and advises reporting harassment.
Book_Hoarding_Dragon | Book_Hoarding_Dragon
Inappropriate coworker behavior, but OP also has room for improvement 🤔
LadyKlepsydra | LadyKlepsydra
Everyone sucks here in this unfortunate workplace harassment situation. 🤷♀️
amndamdr | amndamdr
Everyone sucks here in this toxic workplace situation 🤬
Prison_Mike_DM | Prison_Mike_DM
Commenter defends Tom's actions and criticizes Amy's sexism.
RichardBachman19 | RichardBachman19
Setting boundaries at work is crucial to avoid harassment. 🙌
AccomplishedMango596 | AccomplishedMango596
Inappropriate words vs inappropriate touching during pandemic. ESH. 🤯
ringringbananarchy00 | ringringbananarchy00
Toxic work environment with boundary issues and unprofessional behavior. ESH.
Puzzled-Nobody | Puzzled-Nobody
New colleague hugs woman on first day, sparks argument. ESH.
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