Man Refuses to Care for Disabled Sister: Selfish or Justified? 😲

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A 35-year-old man is facing backlash after telling his parents he refuses to take care of his disabled sister, Daniella, in order to prioritize his own career and hobbies. Daniella, 33, has Rett syndrome and will never be able to live independently. Growing up, the man and his older brother were forced to be caretakers for Daniella, causing them to miss out on their own childhood experiences. Now, as his parents are getting older, they expect him to step up and care for Daniella again, but he's had enough. Is he being selfish or is he justified in wanting to live his own life? 🤷‍♀️

The Childhood Sacrifice 🧒

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The Burden Shifts 😔

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"You Get to See Your Friends Every Day" 🙄

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Escaping the Caregiver Role 🏃‍♂️

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Parents' Health Scare 😨

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The Care Home Waiting List ⏳

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Parents' Expectations 📋

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Career and Hobbies First 🚀

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Parents' Disapproval 😠

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Standing His Ground 🛑

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Family and Acquaintances' Judgement 👎

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Accusations of Ableism 🤬

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Beliefs and Boundaries 🌈

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The Tough Decision 🌪️

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Selfish or Justified: The Verdict 🎭

The man's decision to prioritize his career and hobbies over caring for his disabled sister has sparked a heated debate. While some label him as selfish and ableist, others argue that he's justified in wanting to live his own life after sacrificing his childhood. It's a tough call, but one thing is certain: the decision to care for a disabled family member is never an easy one. Let's see what the internet thinks of this situation... 🍿

NTA. Parents failed all of you miserably. Live your life.

Scrappyl77 | Scrappyl77

Sibling refuses to care for disabled sister: justified or selfish? NTA

GoldenGoof19 | GoldenGoof19

Family members should step up and help with care. NTA 👍

Questionofloyalty | Questionofloyalty

User defends OP's decision not to care for disabled sister. NTA 👍

corgihuntress | corgihuntress

Sibling support despite abusive parents 👭👨


NTA commenter criticizes parents and suggests care home for sister.

FlyoverHangover | FlyoverHangover

Sibling refuses to care for disabled sister due to childhood sacrifices. NTA.

Gladtobealive2020 | Gladtobealive2020

Sassy response shuts down critics of not caring for sister 😎

Tudorprincess1 | Tudorprincess1

Sibling caretaking is a personal choice. NTA 👍

PhePheLaFrou | PhePheLaFrou

Prioritizing one's own life and seeking external help. NTA 👍

ShowUsYaNungas | ShowUsYaNungas

Nurse agrees with NTA verdict, siblings not responsible for disabled sister. 🙌

amazonfamily | amazonfamily

Sibling conflict over disabled sister's care: NTA or ESH? 🤔

africanwanderer | africanwanderer

Sibling feels justified in refusing to care for disabled sister. 🙏

tannieth | tannieth

NTA. Family with disabled child hired caregivers, didn't expect sibling help.

Lextasy_401 | Lextasy_401

Commenter calls out selfish behavior towards disabled sister. 🔥

AsuraRathalos | AsuraRathalos

Sibling struggles: NTA for not being sister's fulltime caregiver. 🙏

hollywierzbicki | hollywierzbicki

Sibling refuses to be full-time caretaker for disabled sister. NTA.

Kettlewise | Kettlewise

NTA: Commenter justified in not caring for disabled sister. 🤷‍♂️

ersatzki | ersatzki

Putting yourself first is not selfish. 👏

whereisthetvchanger | whereisthetvchanger

NTA: Don't judge until you walk a mile in their shoes. 🙏

Bitter-Conflict-4089 | Bitter-Conflict-4089

NTA. Family members should volunteer or stuff it. Parents neglected OP.

surfaholic15 | surfaholic15

Sibling refuses to care for disabled sister: justified or selfish? 😐

TheSciFiGuy80 | TheSciFiGuy80

Focusing on career instead of caring for disabled sister. NTA.

RideOnMoa | RideOnMoa

NTA for refusing to care for disabled sister, parents are TA

MadButSane1 | MadButSane1

Parent of disabled child supports OP's decision to not be caregiver 👏

court_milpool | court_milpool

Setting boundaries for caregiving is reasonable and not ableist 🙌

celestial_bard08 | celestial_bard08

Choosing not to care for disabled sister - justified? 😕

Spiritual_Ad3150 | Spiritual_Ad3150

Standing up for oneself in tough family situations. 💪

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NTA blames parents for not preparing for sister's care needs 😕

Bloodrayna | Bloodrayna

Commenter calls out parents for exploiting free labor. 👏

RidgyFan78 | RidgyFan78

Sibling refuses to care for disabled sister, justified or selfish?

Amaryllis83 | Amaryllis83

Parenting a disabled child is tough, but siblings shouldn't be responsible. 🙏

Hellooutthere1122 | Hellooutthere1122

Suggest setting up a special needs trust for sister's care 👥

NumbersGuy22 | NumbersGuy22

Sibling refuses to care for disabled sister, suggests 529-A account. NTA 👍

kevwelch | kevwelch

Are the critics willing to provide care? 🤔

Ladyjkerr1985 | Ladyjkerr1985

Refusing to care for disabled sister: Neutral or NTA? 😐

Away-Caterpillar-176 | Away-Caterpillar-176

Not the a**hole for refusing to care for sister. 💯

amore-7 | amore-7

NTA stands up for decision to not care for disabled sister 👏

ForensicMammoth | ForensicMammoth

NTA. Estate planning is important to ensure sister's adequate care. 👍

AccomplishedPhone342 | AccomplishedPhone342

Not the a**hole for not wanting to be caretaker 😊

lemons_of_doubt | lemons_of_doubt

Taking on guardianship, not caregiving, is reasonable. NTA 👍

krankykitty | krankykitty

Defending personal boundaries against family criticism 🙌

nonameoptionz | nonameoptionz

Putting a disabled family member on a waiting list? NTA.

Momof5munsters | Momof5munsters

Live your life for you 👍, without guilt. Best to you.

My_2Cents_666 | My_2Cents_666

Disabled commenter supports OP's decision to not care for sister. 👍

lillyringlet | lillyringlet

Choosing not to be a caregiver doesn't make you ableist 👍

sbilly93 | sbilly93

Commenter empathizes with OP's situation and supports their decision ❤️

mrspascal | mrspascal

NTA commenter challenges others to step up and help family 👏

airazaneo | airazaneo

NTA: It's not your responsibility. Don't let guilt manipulate you. 🙌

asangwine | asangwine

NTA for refusing to care for disabled sister. Parents should have planned better. 👏

HunterDangerous1366 | HunterDangerous1366

User defends man's decision to not care for disabled sister. NTA.

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Sibling refuses to care for disabled sister. NTA wins!

Lani_567 | Lani_567

Support for not caring for disabled sibling. NTA 👏

Ambitious-Screen | Ambitious-Screen

NTA but prioritize your life. Consider moving and not sharing address 😊

Sarah_J_J | Sarah_J_J

NTA. Block the haters and prioritize your own life. 👍

Minute_Patient_8841 | Minute_Patient_8841

Choosing not to burden siblings with disabled sibling's care. NTA 👍

Benevolentdictating | Benevolentdictating

Take back your life and don't feel guilty. NTA 👍

Hour_Context_99 | Hour_Context_99

Proposing no contact with family if forced to care for sister. 👍

stineytuls | stineytuls

Parenting a disabled child shouldn't burden siblings. 👨‍🎓

orangebloossom | orangebloossom

NTA. Suggesting others care for sister shuts down critics. 👍

DependentProof8305 | DependentProof8305

Sibling refuses to care for disabled sister, commenters side with him 😕

himmelkatten | himmelkatten

Sibling obligations can be overwhelming. NTA for prioritizing self-care. 🙏

Healthy_Meal1485 | Healthy_Meal1485

Parenting a special needs child: Should siblings be responsible? NAH

Limp_Shape1343 | Limp_Shape1343

Prioritizing career over disabled sibling: NTA or heartless? 🤔

Traveling-Techie | Traveling-Techie

User defends OP's decision to not care for disabled sister. 💁‍♂️

Professional_Bread66 | Professional_Bread66

Redditor sympathizes with OP's decision not to care for disabled sister

Aussiebabe93 | Aussiebabe93

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