A 35-year-old man is facing backlash after telling his parents he refuses to take care of his disabled sister, Daniella, in order to prioritize his own career and hobbies. Daniella, 33, has Rett syndrome and will never be able to live independently. Growing up, the man and his older brother were forced to be caretakers for Daniella, causing them to miss out on their own childhood experiences. Now, as his parents are getting older, they expect him to step up and care for Daniella again, but he's had enough. Is he being selfish or is he justified in wanting to live his own life? 🤷♀️
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The man's decision to prioritize his career and hobbies over caring for his disabled sister has sparked a heated debate. While some label him as selfish and ableist, others argue that he's justified in wanting to live his own life after sacrificing his childhood. It's a tough call, but one thing is certain: the decision to care for a disabled family member is never an easy one. Let's see what the internet thinks of this situation... 🍿
NTA. Parents failed all of you miserably. Live your life.
Scrappyl77 | Scrappyl77
Sibling refuses to care for disabled sister: justified or selfish? NTA
GoldenGoof19 | GoldenGoof19
Family members should step up and help with care. NTA 👍
Questionofloyalty | Questionofloyalty
User defends OP's decision not to care for disabled sister. NTA 👍
corgihuntress | corgihuntress
Sibling support despite abusive parents 👭👨
TRACYOLIVIA14 | TRACYOLIVIA14
NTA commenter criticizes parents and suggests care home for sister.
FlyoverHangover | FlyoverHangover
Sibling refuses to care for disabled sister due to childhood sacrifices. NTA.
Gladtobealive2020 | Gladtobealive2020
Sassy response shuts down critics of not caring for sister 😎
Tudorprincess1 | Tudorprincess1
Sibling caretaking is a personal choice. NTA 👍
PhePheLaFrou | PhePheLaFrou
Prioritizing one's own life and seeking external help. NTA 👍
ShowUsYaNungas | ShowUsYaNungas
Nurse agrees with NTA verdict, siblings not responsible for disabled sister. 🙌
amazonfamily | amazonfamily
Sibling conflict over disabled sister's care: NTA or ESH? 🤔
africanwanderer | africanwanderer
Sibling feels justified in refusing to care for disabled sister. 🙏
tannieth | tannieth
NTA. Family with disabled child hired caregivers, didn't expect sibling help.
Lextasy_401 | Lextasy_401
Commenter calls out selfish behavior towards disabled sister. 🔥
AsuraRathalos | AsuraRathalos
Sibling struggles: NTA for not being sister's fulltime caregiver. 🙏
hollywierzbicki | hollywierzbicki
Sibling refuses to be full-time caretaker for disabled sister. NTA.
Kettlewise | Kettlewise
NTA: Commenter justified in not caring for disabled sister. 🤷♂️
ersatzki | ersatzki
Putting yourself first is not selfish. 👏
whereisthetvchanger | whereisthetvchanger
NTA: Don't judge until you walk a mile in their shoes. 🙏
Bitter-Conflict-4089 | Bitter-Conflict-4089
NTA. Family members should volunteer or stuff it. Parents neglected OP.
surfaholic15 | surfaholic15
Sibling refuses to care for disabled sister: justified or selfish? 😐
TheSciFiGuy80 | TheSciFiGuy80
Focusing on career instead of caring for disabled sister. NTA.
RideOnMoa | RideOnMoa
NTA for refusing to care for disabled sister, parents are TA
MadButSane1 | MadButSane1
Parent of disabled child supports OP's decision to not be caregiver 👏
court_milpool | court_milpool
Setting boundaries for caregiving is reasonable and not ableist 🙌
celestial_bard08 | celestial_bard08
Choosing not to care for disabled sister - justified? 😕
Spiritual_Ad3150 | Spiritual_Ad3150
Standing up for oneself in tough family situations. 💪
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NTA blames parents for not preparing for sister's care needs 😕
Bloodrayna | Bloodrayna
Commenter calls out parents for exploiting free labor. 👏
RidgyFan78 | RidgyFan78
Sibling refuses to care for disabled sister, justified or selfish?
Amaryllis83 | Amaryllis83
Parenting a disabled child is tough, but siblings shouldn't be responsible. 🙏
Hellooutthere1122 | Hellooutthere1122
Suggest setting up a special needs trust for sister's care 👥
NumbersGuy22 | NumbersGuy22
Sibling refuses to care for disabled sister, suggests 529-A account. NTA 👍
kevwelch | kevwelch
Are the critics willing to provide care? 🤔
Ladyjkerr1985 | Ladyjkerr1985
Refusing to care for disabled sister: Neutral or NTA? 😐
Away-Caterpillar-176 | Away-Caterpillar-176
Not the a**hole for refusing to care for sister. 💯
amore-7 | amore-7
NTA stands up for decision to not care for disabled sister 👏
ForensicMammoth | ForensicMammoth
NTA. Estate planning is important to ensure sister's adequate care. 👍
AccomplishedPhone342 | AccomplishedPhone342
Not the a**hole for not wanting to be caretaker 😊
lemons_of_doubt | lemons_of_doubt
Taking on guardianship, not caregiving, is reasonable. NTA 👍
krankykitty | krankykitty
Defending personal boundaries against family criticism 🙌
nonameoptionz | nonameoptionz
Putting a disabled family member on a waiting list? NTA.
Momof5munsters | Momof5munsters
Live your life for you 👍, without guilt. Best to you.
My_2Cents_666 | My_2Cents_666
Disabled commenter supports OP's decision to not care for sister. 👍
lillyringlet | lillyringlet
Choosing not to be a caregiver doesn't make you ableist 👍
sbilly93 | sbilly93
Commenter empathizes with OP's situation and supports their decision ❤️
mrspascal | mrspascal
NTA commenter challenges others to step up and help family 👏
airazaneo | airazaneo
NTA: It's not your responsibility. Don't let guilt manipulate you. 🙌
asangwine | asangwine
NTA for refusing to care for disabled sister. Parents should have planned better. 👏
HunterDangerous1366 | HunterDangerous1366
User defends man's decision to not care for disabled sister. NTA.
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Sibling refuses to care for disabled sister. NTA wins!
Lani_567 | Lani_567
Support for not caring for disabled sibling. NTA 👏
Ambitious-Screen | Ambitious-Screen
NTA but prioritize your life. Consider moving and not sharing address 😊
Sarah_J_J | Sarah_J_J
NTA. Block the haters and prioritize your own life. 👍
Minute_Patient_8841 | Minute_Patient_8841
Choosing not to burden siblings with disabled sibling's care. NTA 👍
Benevolentdictating | Benevolentdictating
Take back your life and don't feel guilty. NTA 👍
Hour_Context_99 | Hour_Context_99
Proposing no contact with family if forced to care for sister. 👍
stineytuls | stineytuls
Parenting a disabled child shouldn't burden siblings. 👨🎓
orangebloossom | orangebloossom
NTA. Suggesting others care for sister shuts down critics. 👍
DependentProof8305 | DependentProof8305
Sibling refuses to care for disabled sister, commenters side with him 😕
himmelkatten | himmelkatten
Sibling obligations can be overwhelming. NTA for prioritizing self-care. 🙏
Healthy_Meal1485 | Healthy_Meal1485
Parenting a special needs child: Should siblings be responsible? NAH
Limp_Shape1343 | Limp_Shape1343
Prioritizing career over disabled sibling: NTA or heartless? 🤔
Traveling-Techie | Traveling-Techie
User defends OP's decision to not care for disabled sister. 💁♂️
Professional_Bread66 | Professional_Bread66
Redditor sympathizes with OP's decision not to care for disabled sister
Aussiebabe93 | Aussiebabe93
