Best Friend's Husband Flirts, But Guess Who's to Blame? 😱

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Imagine having a gut feeling about your best friend's husband, and then one day, he makes a pass at you. That's precisely what happened to our 31-year-old protagonist. She had always felt something was off about her friend's husband but never said anything. However, when he started sending flirty messages, she knew she had to tell her friend. But when she did, she was shocked by her friend's reaction. 😳 Let's dive into the story!

Longtime Best Friends 👭

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The Off Husband 😒

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Social Media Connections 📱

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The Unwanted Pass 😳

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Disgusted and Confronting 🤬

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Backtracking and Begging 😓

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Saving the Evidence 📸

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Breaking the News 💔

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Unexpected Reaction 😨

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Blaming the Messenger 😡

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Defending Herself 🛡️

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Raising Concerns 🚩

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Angry and Silent 🤐

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Hoping for the Best 🙏

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Friendship on the Line? 😢

Our protagonist's best friend got upset with *her* after revealing the husband's flirty messages. Instead of being grateful, the friend accused her of leading him on. Now, the friendship hangs in the balance, with the friend giving her the silent treatment. 😔 Will their bond survive this betrayal? Let's see what the internet thinks...

NTA. Friend in denial, OP did right thing, give space 🙏

fredo3469 | fredo3469

NTA for telling friend about husband's flirting, but friendship may end.

MouthwashAndBandaids | MouthwashAndBandaids

Commenters share personal experiences of similar situations and societal pressures.

ResponsibilityNo3245 | ResponsibilityNo3245

BFF may have been in denial, but now she deserves truth 👍

Emotional_Fan_7011 | Emotional_Fan_7011

Friend's husband has a history of flirting and gaslighting. NTA.

Regina_Phalange31 | Regina_Phalange31

Supportive reply to OP's situation with relatable personal experience. ❤️

pfashby | pfashby

Women share stories of being blamed for friends' cheating partners 🤷‍♀️

slumberingGnome | slumberingGnome

NTA, but friend's reaction understandable. Don't shame women. 👍

jlmemb27 | jlmemb27

Trying to help a friend, but she needs to see reality 🙏

berrywarrior | berrywarrior

Don't blame the victim! NTA shuts down slut-shaming comment.

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You go, NTA! 👏🏻

Kitchen-Ad5250 | Kitchen-Ad5250

NTA. Friends often blame the messenger for cheating partners. 🤷‍♀️ But speak up anyway to potentially save them from harm. 👍

mcclgwe | mcclgwe

Being blamed for telling the truth? Happens all the time. 😔

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Friendship in jeopardy as husband's blame is misplaced. 😕

Comprehensive-Hand60 | Comprehensive-Hand60

Friend chose husband over BFF, red flag on his part 😔

sugarypi3 | sugarypi3

Friend's husband's infidelity puts strain on friendship. NTA.

LaoPower | LaoPower

Supportive comment on friend's situation, hopeful for reconciliation 🙏

Sufficient_Bread1205 | Sufficient_Bread1205

Betrayed but blamed: NTA comment gets real 😕

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Commenter is clearly not the a**hole 👏

anime_potatoe24 | anime_potatoe24

NTA. Friend's defensive reaction not about you, but their relationship. 🙏

Odd_Organization9100 | Odd_Organization9100

Supportive comment gets straight to the point. 👍

Prestigious_Isopod72 | Prestigious_Isopod72

NTA, but be prepared for potential friendship fallout. 🤷‍♀️

IKnowFewThings | IKnowFewThings

Honesty is the best policy, even if it's uncomfortable 😊

Intelligent_Stop5564 | Intelligent_Stop5564

Doing the right thing can be tough 😢

juiceboxfriend95 | juiceboxfriend95

Telling your best friend her husband is flirting: a lose-lose 🤷‍♀️ situation

ghostofastorm | ghostofastorm

NTA for telling truth, friend may regret not listening later 🤷‍♀️

GardenDivaESQ | GardenDivaESQ

NTA! Short and sweet, you're not the a**hole 👍

kelsandcats | kelsandcats

Calling out a friend's creepy husband, hoping for understanding 🙏

Proscuitto1 | Proscuitto1

NTA did the right thing, friend in denial, AH husband.

Longjumping_Donut790 | Longjumping_Donut790

You go, NTA! 💯

AshlandSouth | AshlandSouth

Don't blame the friend for the husband's actions. 🙄

No_one1016 | No_one1016

Ignoring the truth won't make it disappear. 🤔

Ducky818 | Ducky818

Defending against false accusations of leading on a friend's husband 😡

shenanigansco34 | shenanigansco34

NTA, but friend may block you. Gaslighting husband may cheat again.

Nobody_Wins_13 | Nobody_Wins_13

You go, NTA! 👏

anaisaknits | anaisaknits

Best friend's husband hits on friend, she's not to blame 🙏

Emloiv98 | Emloiv98

Wife's friend's husband hits on her, gets dropped by Krav Maga.

DonZeitgeist | DonZeitgeist

Don't blame the victim! NTA for exposing cheating husband. 💪

Credible333 | Credible333

Blaming others for his lack of control. 🤦‍♂️

SnapesGrayUnderpants | SnapesGrayUnderpants

Offer support, avoid anger, and wait for friend's realization. 🙏

curious_writer13 | curious_writer13

Being the messenger of infidelity is never easy 😢

Valkyr1e_R1s1ng | Valkyr1e_R1s1ng

Being blamed for friend's husband's flirting? NTA, you're a good friend 😊

ringringbananarchy00 | ringringbananarchy00

Helping a friend in need can come at a cost 😢

RedhandjillNA | RedhandjillNA

Spicy theory! 🤭

Lead-Forsaken | Lead-Forsaken

Commenter blames men for ruining friendships, calls out double standards 👏

ObviousArt7432 | ObviousArt7432

Friend's husband flirts, commenter advises pulling back from friendship.

LivSaJo | LivSaJo

Commenter is not the a**hole, but what happened? 🤔

livin4fun78 | livin4fun78

Women often face blame for men's actions. NTA, but friendship over 😕

MoSweetPotato | MoSweetPotato

Defending oneself against blame-shifting and gaslighting. 💪

PokemonPadawan | PokemonPadawan

Friend's husband flirts, friend blames you. Clear evidence ignored. NTA 💯

piemakerdeadwaker | piemakerdeadwaker

Don't blame the woman hit on, blame the cheater. 👏

RavenBlueEyes84 | RavenBlueEyes84

Supportive comment receives no replies, but offers hope 😊

Sad-Concert3258 | Sad-Concert3258

Honesty isn't always the best policy, friendship over 😞

CarterPFly | CarterPFly

Supportive comment and hope for reconciliation with friend 🙏

capriciouskat01 | capriciouskat01

Misplaced anger and internalized misogyny? This comment is spicy! 🔥

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Good friend waits for inkling wife to realize husband's creepiness 😐

Secret_shopper21 | Secret_shopper21

Speaking the truth can be risky, even when you're right 🤷‍♀️

Beautiful_mistakes | Beautiful_mistakes

Supportive comment advises giving friend space to process husband's behavior 👍

otomekaidii | otomekaidii

NTA for telling friend about husband's pass, potential abuse suspected 👍

Fluffy_Lunatic | Fluffy_Lunatic

Supportive comment predicts vindication and urges STD testing. 👍

BigBicNic | BigBicNic

Stay out of it, let her learn the hard way 🙈

Friendly_Tangelo1197 | Friendly_Tangelo1197

Friend in denial, NTA for telling her. Take a step back. 👍

Miss_Melody_Pond | Miss_Melody_Pond

Supportive advice to tell friend about husband's behavior. 👍

CozmicOwl16 | CozmicOwl16

Friend's anger misplaced, blamed messenger for husband's affair 😔

thejexorcist | thejexorcist

Speaking up can cost friendships. NTA, but be prepared. 😢

PrestigiousAd3081 | PrestigiousAd3081

NTA, but be prepared to lose a friend. 😔

mrsgip | mrsgip

Showing the messages was right, but friendship might be over 😞

Head_Photograph9572 | Head_Photograph9572

Supportive NTA advises giving friend time to come around 🙌

anneofred | anneofred

Commenter suspects husband's behavior isn't new, advises giving space 🤔

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Supportive comment, NTA verdict. Friend needs time to cool off. 👍

UnusGang | UnusGang

Commenter is not the a**hole, but what happened? 🤔

BeneficialHurry8644 | BeneficialHurry8644

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