Woman's Surrogate Secret Shocks Boyfriend 😲

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Imagine being in a relationship where you both agree not to have kids, only for your partner to discover you were once a surrogate for your sister. 😮 That's what happened to a 28-year-old woman who has been dating her 29-year-old boyfriend for over two and a half years. She never thought it was necessary to disclose her past surrogacy, but a family visit and some old photos brought the truth to light. 💥 Now, her boyfriend feels betrayed and wonders why she won't consider having a child with him. 🤔 Let's dive into this emotional rollercoaster. 🎢

The No-Kids Agreement 🚫👶

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He Wanted Kids, But... 🤷‍♂️

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Old Photos Reveal a Secret 📷

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Surrogate for Sister 💞

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Niece, Not Daughter 🎀

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Not His Business? 🤐

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Not Fair? 😠

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Carrying vs. Raising 🤰👩‍👧

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Apology and Reminder 🙏

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Still Upset 😔

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Surrogacy Rules 📝

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Case-by-Case Exceptions 🌟

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Trusting a Family Member 🤝

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Surrogate Rights 📜

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A Trusted Surrogate 🙌

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A Surrogate Past and a Bitter Boyfriend 😢

This woman thought she was doing the right thing by being a surrogate for her sister, but her boyfriend feels hurt and betrayed by her secret. 😔 She never thought it was necessary to disclose her past surrogacy, as it happened before they were together. However, her boyfriend can't help but feel it's unfair that she was willing to carry a child for her sister but won't consider having one with him. 😞 Is she in the wrong for not telling him, or is he overreacting? 🤔 Let's see what the internet thinks of this situation... 🌐

NTA for being a surrogate, boyfriend is TA for reaction 😒

Flyhro | Flyhro

NTA. BF wants kids, find someone who doesn't. 👍

Internal_Set_6564 | Internal_Set_6564

Debate over boyfriend's intentions on having kids. 🤔

unjessicabiel_evable | unjessicabiel_evable

Confusion over surrogacy laws sparks debate among commenters 🤔

Ducky818 | Ducky818

ESH situation, but keeping a surrogacy secret for 2.5 yrs? 🤷🏻‍♀️

Queen_Sized_Beauty | Queen_Sized_Beauty

Woman's selfless act for sister leads to relationship fallout 😢

Knittingfairy09113 | Knittingfairy09113

Woman criticized for not telling SO she was a surrogate 🤔

TheBreadToYourPigeon | TheBreadToYourPigeon

Woman clarifies surrogate process to boyfriend, NTA 👏

DrippyMagoo | DrippyMagoo

Hiding surrogate secret for 2.5 years is a dealbreaker. YTA 🤷‍♀️

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NTA and ESH at the same time. Lack of communication.

The__Riker__Maneuver | The__Riker__Maneuver

Boyfriend overreacts to surrogate secret, but communication is key 👍

Indusnm | Indusnm

Hiding being a surrogate from your partner for 2.5 years? YTA 🤪

statman007 | statman007

Partner lied about wanting kids, NTA for not having them 👏

Sloppypoopypoppy | Sloppypoopypoppy

Body autonomy and false equivalence addressed in supportive NTA comment 👏

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BF made a concession but was shocked and reacted emotionally 😕

tacoguy2020 | tacoguy2020

Hiding surrogacy past for 2.5 years? YTA according to comment

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Not disclosing surrogacy to long-term partner makes YTA 😕

shushupbuttercup | shushupbuttercup

Partner's desire for kids is a red flag 🚨

floydfan | floydfan

ESH: She should have shared it earlier, he overreacted.

PurpleOctopuseses | PurpleOctopuseses

End it. 🚪 He resents your choice not to have kids.

IAmTAAlways | IAmTAAlways

Clear communication and honesty in relationships is crucial ❤

Sloppypoopypoppy | Sloppypoopypoppy

Stick to your guns, NTA. 💪

DaysOfRoses | DaysOfRoses

Past is past. NTA for keeping it to yourself 😊

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NTA, but revealing the truth would have been better 😐

SomeKindofName42 | SomeKindofName42

Surrogate stands up for herself and shuts down boyfriend 💪

Rudoku-dakka | Rudoku-dakka

Debate over communication and disclosure in relationship 👉 YTA

sirsighsalot1 | sirsighsalot1

Woman stands up for herself in surrogate decision. NTA 👏

divingrose77101 | divingrose77101

Partner of 2 years shocked by surrogate secret. YTA 😑

g-dragon | g-dragon

Be upfront about deal breakers to avoid future heartbreaks. 💔

RosesBrain | RosesBrain

ESH verdict due to lack of communication, but he's mostly TA 😑

Writeloves | Writeloves

🤥 Accusation of fake story sparks no response from commenters.

MomsSpecialFriend | MomsSpecialFriend

Trust issues arise after surrogate conceals child from boyfriend 🤔

Lord_Sotheary | Lord_Sotheary

Surrogacy doesn't make you a parent. NTA 👍

snortsrainbows | snortsrainbows

Couple disagrees on kids, but OP's surrogate past is secret 🤷‍♀️

dfjdejulio | dfjdejulio

Hiding surrogacy from partner? YTA and relationship doomed 🤷‍♀️

SurfingDumbledore | SurfingDumbledore

Boyfriend's mistake leads to shocking surrogate secret 😲

Ian-igmatic | Ian-igmatic

Debate over ESH vs NTA for surrogate secret, sperm donors

cheezeedoodlez | cheezeedoodlez

Surrogate secret causes relationship rift. ESH for communication breakdown.

noccie | noccie

Double standards in sperm donation - N.T.A. vote surprising 🤔

Ok-Acanthaceae5744 | Ok-Acanthaceae5744

Surrogate mom not at fault, but relationship may be doomed 😔

YourMoonWife | YourMoonWife

Surrogacy education needed! Boyfriend confused about parenting roles. NTA.

canuck_2022 | canuck_2022

Relationship doomed as both partners resent each other. 😔

DismalDally | DismalDally

Surrogate secret causes conflict, OP is YTA for not telling.

anon384930 | anon384930

Her boyfriend deserves a heads up before seeing pregnancy pics 😳

RoyIbex | RoyIbex

Clear judgement, no a-hole here. 👍

TotalImmortal82 | TotalImmortal82

Surrogacy rules vary by country, but exceptions exist 🤔

black_rose_ | black_rose_

Boyfriend not on board with no child plan 😕

Easy-Concentrate2636 | Easy-Concentrate2636

Relationship advice: Be honest about major life decisions 💌

Agitated_Cheek4890 | Agitated_Cheek4890

Consider ending relationship if you have different views on kids 😔

MageVicky | MageVicky

Communication is key! ESH should have been upfront 📞

cannonballBaloo | cannonballBaloo

Partner kept surrogacy a secret for 2 years, YTA verdict

BootlegJB | BootlegJB

Partner wants kids, but not the a**hole for past surrogacy.

Crazyhellga | Crazyhellga

Miscommunication or deception? YTA for not being clear 🤔

Regular-Scallion4266 | Regular-Scallion4266

Surrogate reveals secret to boyfriend, both adjusting to new information 😐

SceneNational6303 | SceneNational6303

Partner's lie about wanting kids can ruin relationships 😔

Village_Green_Badger | Village_Green_Badger

NTA for being a surrogate, but relationship may be in trouble 😓

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Break up with him, you're not just an incubator 🙌

DontBeHastey | DontBeHastey

Time to say goodbye? NTA for not wanting children 👍

pink4pink | pink4pink

Surrogate bombshell shocks boyfriend, but NTA for keeping secret 🤪

ChipChippersonFan | ChipChippersonFan

User shares personal experience and warns of potential red flags 🚨

PsilosirenRose | PsilosirenRose

Surrogate's actions justified, like donating blood or a kidney. 👍

kittylikker_ | kittylikker_

Surrogate secret shocks boyfriend, but commenter supports OP. NTA 👏

justanordinarymuggle | justanordinarymuggle

Surrogate secret leads to ESH judgement and relationship struggles 🤷‍♀️

AmberWaves80 | AmberWaves80

Surrogate's secrecy backfires, commenters question her foresight 🤔

StilltheoneNY | StilltheoneNY

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