Meet our 41-year-old heroine, who's been living with her boyfriend Matt for two years and dating him for four. Matt has a 7-year-old daughter, Phoebe, who lives with her mom just around the corner. Now, with Phoebe's mom moving to a bigger house, she'll be spending nights at our protagonist's place. The dilemma? Matt wants our heroine to give up her study for Phoebe's bedroom. But is she ready to do that? Let's dive into the story! 🍿
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Living Situation
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Phoebe's New Arrangement
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The Study Dilemma
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Possible Solutions
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Financial Situation
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Accusations of Selfishness
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Update: Matt's Side
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Revisiting the Situation
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Finding a Solution
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Moving Forward
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Is Our Heroine Really Selfish? 🧐
So, our protagonist and Matt sat down to discuss the situation. Turns out, Matt was panicking about Phoebe moving away and the impact on their relationship. He also didn't realize how much money our heroine's business was bringing in. After going over their finances, they found a possible solution: converting the attic into a bedroom without taking on debt. They're now looking into quotes for the project. As for people saying Phoebe isn't her stepdaughter, our heroine says she is in every way that counts. 💕 Let's see what the internet thinks of this situation...
NTA. OP is willing to move or improve the house, but the boyfriend is unwilling. He needs to address his debt trauma and get a bigger home.
SalaciousSapphic | SalaciousSapphic
Stepdad mooching off woman, but won't let her study. NTA 😊
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Stand your ground! Your home, your rules 💪
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Renovation would increase house value, and boyfriend needs anxiety treatment.
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OP's boyfriend demands she give up office for stepdaughter's room. NTA
HeartpineFloors | HeartpineFloors
Woman refuses to give up office for stepdaughter's bedroom. NTA 👏
Background_Owl_3474 | Background_Owl_3474
Stepdaughter's bedroom vs. education - NTA wins with compromise 👏
cstamin | cstamin
Attic study is reasonable, stepdaughter's room not his entitlement 😏
sentienthammer | sentienthammer
NTA. Sell the house, dump the boyfriend, and move on. 🙌
Euphoric-Round-5182 | Euphoric-Round-5182
Defending her space, NTA refuses to share study with stepdaughter 😍
RollingKatamari | RollingKatamari
Get a loan and renovate the attic as an office 💪
Zestyclose_Media_548 | Zestyclose_Media_548
Defending her right to work from home, NTA 🙌
LynnChat | LynnChat
Secure your asset! NTA gets clever with homeowner's rights 💪
_iamtinks | _iamtinks
Woman rightfully keeps office, suggests charging stepdaughter's father rent. 👍
MersWhaawhaa | MersWhaawhaa
Financially responsible NTA refuses to give up study for stepdaughter's room 👏
archiesheridan | archiesheridan
Support for OP's reasonable solutions, criticism of partner's entitlement 👍
RealTalkFastWalk | RealTalkFastWalk
Convert attic to workspace for tax write offs and financial benefit. NTA
AccessibleBeige | AccessibleBeige
Partner's aversion to marriage causes relationship concerns. 😔
siempre_maria | siempre_maria
Offered solutions, but he wants more? NTA, find elsewhere 😎
NopeRope777 | NopeRope777
Woman stands her ground on study space, offers solutions. NTA 👏
HunterDangerous1366 | HunterDangerous1366
Woman defends stepson from commenters suggesting he pay rent. 😊
bopperbopper | bopperbopper
Attic conversion may not be ideal for a 7-year-old. 🤷♀️
Stefie25 | Stefie25
Remodeling the attic is a reasonable solution 🙌
iamstrangelittlebird | iamstrangelittlebird
Boyfriend vs OP's study for stepdaughter's room. NTA wins! 🙌
Difficult-Ad-4532 | Difficult-Ad-4532
Commenter supports woman's decision and insults stepdaughter's father 🤭
stonerwrld69 | stonerwrld69
Attic as an office? Practical solution or cramped workspace? 🤔
Jewish-Mom-123 | Jewish-Mom-123
NAH. Woman has right to remodel her house, but financial arrangements unclear 💁
YMMV-But | YMMV-But
Sensible attic conversion suggestion for stepdaughter's bedroom dilemma 👍
Srumlicious | Srumlicious
Commenter supports OP but warns against being taken advantage of.
felisverde | felisverde
NTA. You offered solutions and kindness. Protect your assets 💰
ManderBlues | ManderBlues
BF hypocritical about money in blended family situation 💵
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WFH, need space, he lives rent-free, reevaluate relationship. NTA 😎
WhiteWolfSBLover | WhiteWolfSBLover
Roommate mooching off NTA, refuses to move for stepdaughter's bedroom 🤔
miflordelicata | miflordelicata
Commenters' harshness contrasts with update about nice Matt 🤷♀️
Zestyclose-Pangolin6 | Zestyclose-Pangolin6
Legal advice warns unmarried couples about property rights. Be careful 🚨
pinguthegreek | pinguthegreek
Reasonable alternatives suggested, NTA wins this bedroom battle 💪
BlueRFR3100 | BlueRFR3100
Stepmom prioritizes stepdaughter's space, offers solutions. Partner causing issue. 👏
redheadedsweetie | redheadedsweetie
Unmarried couple living together, he's not paying rent, and controlling.
Frosty-Mall4727 | Frosty-Mall4727
Compromise and options offered, NTA wins stepfamily conflict 👏
Merunit | Merunit
No house, no demands! NTA stands up for herself 💪
sapphicdavinci | sapphicdavinci
Don't compromise your education or legal rights for a bedroom 🙌
sonicblue217 | sonicblue217
Keep your office, renovate the attic or divide a room! 😊
Sure-Tangerine5702 | Sure-Tangerine5702
Fair to expect him to pay for loft conversion. NTA 👍
stephaniec212 | stephaniec212
Defending her work space, a woman offers options for stepdaughter.
Knittingfairy09113 | Knittingfairy09113
Woman prioritizes job over stepdaughter's bedroom, boyfriend's debt phobia. NTA.
Kettlewise | Kettlewise
Encouraging response to stepfamily financial conflict. NTA 👏
Mommy-Q | Mommy-Q
Woman refuses to give up study for stepdaughter's room. NTA.
slendermanismydad | slendermanismydad
Commenter acknowledges missing context, glad for OP's progress ❤️
qpitass | qpitass
Attic > Office. NTA for prioritizing your education over stepdaughter's room. 💪
bizianka | bizianka
Stand your ground! It's your house, your rules. NTA 💪
KimmyStand | KimmyStand
Working from home requires a dedicated office space. NTA.
Coco_Dirichlet | Coco_Dirichlet
Stepdad living rent-free but calls stepmom selfish? NTA wins 🙌
jenesaispas-pourquoi | jenesaispas-pourquoi
Unfair financial burden on woman, stepdaughter's needs prioritized 😠
TheNorthern_exposure | TheNorthern_exposure
Protect your home and dreams, don't give in to pressure 🙌
MrsRoronoaZoro | MrsRoronoaZoro
Stepdad not paying rent, but wants stepdaughter's room? 🤔
pinkpuffballs | pinkpuffballs
NTA. Stand firm and don't let your boyfriend dictate your choices 💪
LWDK2 | LWDK2
Sharing study temporarily could prevent future legal battles 🤔
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Working from home and giving up home office for stepdaughter's room? NTA
KittKatt7179 | KittKatt7179
Compromises offered, converting attic into bedroom seems like best solution 😊
Why_r_people_ | Why_r_people_
Attic room for stepdaughter? NTA, says internet 😊
Salty-Dinos | Salty-Dinos
