Imagine being a 13-year-old and suddenly becoming your sibling’s primary caregiver. That’s the life of a 22-year-old man who’s been taking care of his younger brother since he was born. Now, with a baby on the way, he’s finally putting his foot down and telling his parents it’s time for them to step up and be the parents they should be. But instead of understanding, they’re furious and accusing him of turning his back on his family! Let’s dive into this family drama.
Unexpected Little Brother

Full-Time Babysitter

Moved Out but Still Helping

Baby on the Way!

Parents Still Want Help

Time for Parents to Step Up

Parents’ Unreasonable Expectations

Standing Up for Himself

Parents Lose Their Cool

Guilt Trip Tactics

New Family, New Priorities

Feeling Guilty

Important Edit: Moving Away

Adoption Not an Option

Family Drama Unfolds
This 22-year-old has been taking care of his younger brother since he was 13, while his parents took a backseat. Now, with a baby on the way, he’s finally standing up to his parents and telling them it’s time for them to step up and be the parents they should be. But instead of understanding, they’re furious and accusing him of turning his back on his family! Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
NTA for refusing to babysit, but may need to intervene for neglected brother

Do the parents have a valid reason for not attending games?

Sibling care dilemma: NTA, parentification is a form of abuse. Set a sibling day once a month and remind him he’s important. Slowly transition him to less care.

Don’t let your family guilt you into sacrificing your life

Protecting oneself from parentification is not being an a-hole

Don’t parent your brother, seek guidance from a counselor

Curious commenter asks about parents’ age, gets surprising answer

NTA, but parents are irresponsible
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NTA. It’s wrong to burden a child with parenting responsibilities

Standing up for yourself and your boundaries.

Brother struggles with babysitting, seeks advice on talking to nephew.

Sibling babysitting drama , relieved commenter says NTA

Taking care of your much younger brother isn’t your responsibility . It’s time for your parents to step up .

Former child caregiver sets boundaries with entitled parents.

Don’t let your parents guilt you into babysitting your brother. #NTA

Encouraging advice to seek therapy and break the cycle

User empathizes with OP, calls out parents for being lazy AHs

Sibling struggles with parentification, sets boundaries. NTA

Parents expect too much from OP, NTA for refusing babysitting

Taking care of your own kids is your responsibility. NTA

Setting boundaries with family is tough, but necessary.

Advice for OP to maintain relationship with brother while setting boundaries

Sibling offers advice for bonding with nephew amidst family tension

NTA. Parentification is not okay. They need a babysitter.

Redditor calls out lazy parents, refuses to babysit. NTA

Brother won’t babysit, but still cares. NTA.

Suggesting adoption to avoid babysitting sparks honest conversation.

Age shouldn’t prevent being a good parent. Not OP’s responsibility.

NTA- Refusing to babysit younger sibling after 9 years of parentification

Supportive comment calls out bad parenting, praises OP’s actions

Don’t let parents guilt you into parenting your siblings.

Don’t feel guilty for stepping up, move on with life

NTA: Commenter believes parents should take responsibility for their child.

Parenting age-gap debate: commenter supports OP, calls parents crazy

Single dad not obligated to babysit brother, NTA

Prioritizing family and setting boundaries, NTA comment section

NTA for refusing to babysit brother, but parents need to step up

Prioritizing your own family is not selfish. NTA

Set boundaries with family.

Establish boundaries with parents, still make time for brother

Sibling boundaries questioned in hilarious comment.
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NTA congratulated on baby, advised to move on from babysitting.

Commenter is not the a**hole for refusing to babysit.

Setting boundaries with loved ones can be tough

Brother refuses to babysit, parents angry. NTA, sad situation.
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NTA but don’t neglect Tyler, surprise lunch means a lot

Stand your ground! Your parents are still young enough.

Parentification trauma causes long-term harm. NTA for setting boundaries.

Settling family boundaries: NTA for refusing to babysit
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Supportive comment from someone with similar experience. NTA

Elderly parents can handle babysitting, NTA for refusing.
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Sibling love wins! NTA but communication is key


Taking in younger brother may be a better solution , NTA for refusing.




Short and sweet, this commenter is not the a**hole

Congrats on the new priorities! NTA for setting boundaries
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Prioritizing family responsibilities. NTA for refusing to babysit.

Age isn’t an excuse for not parenting

Parenting responsibilities should not fall on older siblings . Agree?

Sibling refuses to babysit, comment defends decision.

Assertive NTA response to unfair babysitting request

Set boundaries and communicate clearly with family.

Putting family first doesn’t mean sacrificing your mental health NTA

Assertive response to unfair babysitting expectations

Commenter points out parentification and abuse, supports OP’s decision.

NTA. Don’t back down. They are the parents
