A woman (27F) recently celebrated her twin cousins' (14M&F) 14th birthday by gifting them gaming computers and drawing tablets. While her cousins were thrilled, her mother and ADHD brother (14) were furious. The brother has been struggling during quarantine with no gadgets to keep him occupied, and the mother had repeatedly asked the sister for help. However, the sister dismissed their requests, claiming she didn't have money to waste on her brother. 😒💔

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The sister's decision to shower her cousins with expensive gifts while leaving her own ADHD brother empty-handed has sparked a family conflict. Her mother and brother are understandably upset, as the brother has been struggling during quarantine without any gadgets to occupy his time. Despite her mother's pleas, the sister insists that spending money on her brother would be a waste. 😔💸 What do you think? Let's dive into some of the internet's top responses...
ADHD and anger issues aren't an excuse for destroying electronics 😑

CelikBas | CelikBas

stasharena16 | stasharena16
NTA with ADHD agrees, hold him to higher standards 👍

SunflowerOccultist | SunflowerOccultist
ADHD is not an excuse for bad behavior 😱. Stick to your guns.

peculiarkoala | peculiarkoala
Sibling struggles with ADHD brother's destructive behavior. NTA.

MissTrish1984 | MissTrish1984
Enabling brother's tantrums? NTA stands her ground 😎

JackNotName | JackNotName
Sibling jealousy and ADHD management. NTA for setting boundaries.

peachandpeony | peachandpeony
Support for not being the a**hole in gift-giving debacle 👍

Icequeen101 | Icequeen101
Commenter agrees with OP's actions, shocked by timeline 🤩

talinomedina | talinomedina
Sibling with ADHD left empty-handed, commenter suggests coping strategies.

hockeypup | hockeypup
Brother off meds, destroys gifts, mother enables. NTA, hold fast.

sassafraskeurig | sassafraskeurig
Teaching brother actions have consequences, not financial responsibility. 👍

Thejmax | Thejmax
Siblings' gift dilemma solved with savage yet practical advice 😂

wind-river7 | wind-river7
Commenter defends not giving ADHD brother a gift, sparks debate 🤔

lineleja | lineleja
Standing up for oneself and family. 💪

Polkadoctor | Polkadoctor
NTA for not giving ADHD brother gifts, enabling behavior.

Oceaninmyshades | Oceaninmyshades
Managing ADHD during pandemic: Exercise, sports and diet considerations 💪

Janeaustenisgreat | Janeaustenisgreat
ADHD doesn't justify destroying gifts. NTA's tech still works after years 👍

TiredTreeTroubles | TiredTreeTroubles
Commenter justifies not buying ADHD brother expensive electronics. 😱

TheLittleGiggles | TheLittleGiggles
A questionable suggestion for a neglected brother's gift 🤔

bookwormmo | bookwormmo
Suggests teaching brother to be functional human, not entitled. 😊

Kristaraexoxo | Kristaraexoxo
Setting boundaries for ADHD brother, NTA according to commenter.

Rose249 | Rose249
NTA for not wanting to waste money on brother's rage issues 😡

mahoushojo-chan | mahoushojo-chan
Brother not obligated to buy gifts for ADHD sibling. Clay therapy?

Liildank | Liildank
Don't blame OP for brother's entitlement and destructive behavior. 🙄

OrionHunts | OrionHunts
NTA for not buying ADHD brother a gift. Other kids deserved it 👍

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Sibling conflict over gifts for cousins, excluding ADHD brother. 🎁

gil-loki | gil-loki
Commenter with ADHD sympathizes but never broke anything in anger

adotfree | adotfree
Curious about the link between ADHD and anger issues 🤔

idiosyncrassy | idiosyncrassy
Cutting off toxic family? 🤔 NTA takes a stand.

Doommaker117 | Doommaker117
Stick to your guns 👊, you're not the a**hole 👏

SlickerThanWhiskey | SlickerThanWhiskey
A 14-year-old shares how he learned to control his rage.

ItalianPossum | ItalianPossum
Setting boundaries with family gifts, but is it fair? 🤔

maggienetism | maggienetism
NTA! Your money, your choice. ADHD doesn't excuse bad behavior.

artemistheatre | artemistheatre
ADHD commenter calls out bratty behavior, advises mother to stop enabling.

SoukingaRoun4 | SoukingaRoun4
Encouraging reading for an ADHD sibling, NTA wins support

Nemamiah17 | Nemamiah17
Understanding ADHD and how it affects individuals differently 🤔

KaRom66 | KaRom66
Parenting ADHD and Autistic children with discipline and accountability 💪

Maggie_Mayz | Maggie_Mayz
Commenter suggests ADHD evaluation, brother refuses medication 🤔

dca_user | dca_user
Enabling ADHD behavior? NTA commenter sparks debate 🤔

ActofEncouragement | ActofEncouragement
ADHD is no excuse for destructive behavior. NTA 👍

koch_like_duck | koch_like_duck
Supportive comment defends brother, criticizes bad parenting 👏

alphygaytor | alphygaytor
Setting healthy boundaries is tough, but necessary. 💪

taldo888 | taldo888
ADHD is not an excuse to act like a brat 😑

barleyqueen | barleyqueen
ADHD not an excuse for bad behavior, NTA for gifting fairly 👍

iseeisayibe | iseeisayibe
Commenter defends mother's decision to not give gift to brother.

DefinitelyNotDracula | DefinitelyNotDracula
Suggests alternative gifts for ADHD brother, advises to distance from family 👍

Nakedstar | Nakedstar
NTA suggests getting a book for ADHD brother 📚

RedditDK2 | RedditDK2
Controlling rage is key. NTA for not giving in.

tcsweetgurl | tcsweetgurl
Creative solution for including brother in gift giving. 🎨

Calm_Initial | Calm_Initial
Advice on supporting ADHD brother's frustration with gift disparity 💪

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Offer to attend family therapy with your brother to address dynamics 👍

YourTornAlive | YourTornAlive
NTA. Brother needs to learn actions have consequences, despite ADHD. 🙏

wiltinslowly | wiltinslowly
ADHD brother left empty-handed, NTA defends against mom's anger 😱

ImAlreadyTracerBoii | ImAlreadyTracerBoii
Generous gift-giver faces consequences for reckless spending 😱

Scrabulon | Scrabulon
Commenter defends not giving gifts to brother with history of breaking things.

MissThirteen | MissThirteen
Dealing with difficult family members 😔

Adverbage | Adverbage
Encouraging therapy for brother with ADHD to manage anger 🙏

BigCabinet9 | BigCabinet9
NTA defends not buying gifts for brother with ADHD 😒

Chaos-Goddess | Chaos-Goddess
Generous gifts, but brother's destructive behavior leaves him empty-handed. NTA.

TheDoNothings | TheDoNothings
Concerned commenter suggests CPS involvement for brother's well-being.

lineleja | lineleja
Buyer's choice, NTA. But maybe get brother a stress ball?

Hiragirin | Hiragirin
ADHD comment sparks discussion

nicky1088 | nicky1088
Enabling a brother with ADHD? NTA but no paddle ball.

elizabooks | elizabooks
Setting boundaries for brother's unacceptable behavior is important. 💪

Norfolk16 | Norfolk16
Suggests giving ADHD brother old system with conditions for upgrade 👍

FireSafety101 | FireSafety101
Suggesting therapy for anger management 🙏

RoxyMcfly | RoxyMcfly
Commenter defends OP, throws shade at ADHD brother 🤫

Notokay741 | Notokay741
ADHD commenter defends not destroying things, NTA judgement supported.

nothanks42069 | nothanks42069