A 27-year-old woman finds herself in a difficult situation when her estranged cousin reaches out, asking her to adopt her three children. The cousin, who had a history of drug abuse and partying, had her children taken away by Child Protective Services (CPS) three years ago. The woman, who had been close to her cousin in the past, is torn between adopting the children and letting them stay with their loving foster family. As she weighs her options, she must consider the emotional impact on the children and the potential drama with her troubled cousin.
Woman Faces Dilemma: Adopt Niece & Nephews or Let Foster Family Keep Them? 😢
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Faced with the difficult decision of adopting her niece and nephews or letting them stay with their foster family, the woman ultimately chooses not to adopt. She believes the children are better off with the foster family, who they have formed strong bonds with. Despite her cousin's anger, the woman remains involved in the children's lives as an aunt figure. As the foster family plans to adopt all the children, including the cousin's unborn child, the woman hopes she has made the best choice for their future. Share your thoughts and reactions below. 👇
NTA - Foster family is a good place for the kids 😊
No-Policy-4095 | No-Policy-4095
Loving foster home is best for kids' stability and happiness 😊
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NTA. A loving family keeping siblings together is a dream scenario 😍
yourlittlebirdie | yourlittlebirdie
Commenter defends OP's decision to not adopt drug-addicted cousin's kids.
1962Michael | 1962Michael
Supportive aunt navigates complex family dynamics to protect her niece and nephews 🙏
ourladyofsnails | ourladyofsnails
NTA. Cousin has no say. Adopting kids is her workaround 😢
Unit-Healthy | Unit-Healthy
Putting the children first. NTA made the right decision 👏
HappiestApple | HappiestApple
Choosing to stay involved as an aunt figure was the best decision 👍
TheGingerCynic | TheGingerCynic
NTA, cousin tried to get around CPS and rip kids from stable home. You made the right choice.
ForwardPlenty | ForwardPlenty
Support for keeping the kids with their chosen family. 👏
BellaDonnaBoudreaux | BellaDonnaBoudreaux
Commenter believes addict shouldn't adopt kids, foster family better 😍
Stardust_Hoopa | Stardust_Hoopa
Choosing between family and foster parents, NTA prioritizes children 🙌
del901 | del901
Supportive comment encourages aunt to prioritize stability for niblings. 👍
ToilandTrouble123 | ToilandTrouble123
Family ties vs past mistakes. Engaging debate on family values.
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Commenter defends decision not to adopt niece and nephews.
dwells2301 | dwells2301
Don't let guilt dictate your choices. Prioritize the kids' happiness 🙌
bass9045 | bass9045
Commenter suggests forced sterilization, others propose Norplant as solution. 😬
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Drug-addicted cousin wants kids back, but foster family is better. 😱
Snoo_68114 | Snoo_68114
Adopting family's kids? Watch out for manipulative relatives. 😡
glittersparklythings | glittersparklythings
Adopting three children at once is a huge responsibility 😢
Bostonya | Bostonya
Aunt's dilemma: adopt or let foster family keep them? NTA.
BRAUforce | BRAUforce
Choosing not to adopt for the children's well-being. NTA 😊
Cevanne46 | Cevanne46
Being a supportive birth family member is crucial 👍
capmanor1755 | capmanor1755
Putting kids first, not ego. Cousin needs birth control. 🚫
Smudgikins | Smudgikins
Foster family provides stability and resources, NTA for not adopting.
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Supportive comment encourages treatment and boundaries for family member.
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Putting the kids first. 👏
OutlandishnessNew259 | OutlandishnessNew259
Former CPS worker advises to prioritize stability over DNA. 👍
quirkyhermit | quirkyhermit
Adopting 5 kids at 27 is a huge lifestyle change 😢
NHFNCFRE | NHFNCFRE
Stand your ground and protect those kids! 💪
mafathew | mafathew
Foster mom wants you to adopt for her convenience. NTA.
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Being an awesome aunt is doing right by these kids 👍
RazzmatazzCharming60 | RazzmatazzCharming60
Aunt chooses to keep sibling group together, NTA 👏
ResoluteMuse | ResoluteMuse
Commenter suggests sterilization, deems OP not the a-hole. 🤯
baeyayrea | baeyayrea
Curious if foster family wants to adopt the kids? 🤔
0biterdicta | 0biterdicta
Choosing to adopt or not? NTA advises to prioritize kids' stability 🙌
Flat_Contribution707 | Flat_Contribution707
Don't let guilt force you into adopting 3(4?) kids. #NTA 😊
ForkShirtUp | ForkShirtUp
Choosing family over foster care - heartwarming decision 😢
ChewyRib | ChewyRib
NTA who hit the jackpot with 5 kids in a loving home! 😍
daisyymae | daisyymae
Not the a**hole, but what's the backstory? 🤔
Comfortable_Stop_717 | Comfortable_Stop_717
Loving foster family + caring aunt = happy kids 😊
Missicat | Missicat
Choosing the best for the kids 👏
spaceyjaycey | spaceyjaycey
Commenter supports decision, no a**holes here 👍
Job_Moist | Job_Moist
Let the children decide, NTA. Foster family is their home 💜
Lurkingentropy | Lurkingentropy
Foster family wants to adopt, kids are happy. NTA. 👍
Murderbunny13 | Murderbunny13
Putting the kids' welfare first 👏, not their birth mother's mistakes.
anm313 | anm313
Choosing family vs stable home for niblings, NTA wins
DaniCapsFan | DaniCapsFan
Former foster worker advises aunt to stay involved, but let family keep kids 🙏
naurmohd | naurmohd
Adopting family members' children is tough but worth it 🙌
KoalaKnows123 | KoalaKnows123
Adoption isn't always the best option. NTA for considering alternatives. 🙏
Bronze-Aesthetic | Bronze-Aesthetic
Heartbreaking reality of children in foster care system 😢
Ok-Bit-9529 | Ok-Bit-9529
Heartwarming: Foster family praised for adopting 3 siblings already ❤️
Jimothybishboi | Jimothybishboi
Aunt faces tough decision, but NTA for considering foster family. 😔
Budfudder | Budfudder
Commenter's shock at cousin's pregnancy sparks concern and confusion.
silentcomfortable7 | silentcomfortable7
Aunt's noble dilemma: Adopt or let foster family keep them? 🙌
countrybumpkin1969 | countrybumpkin1969
Heartwarming NTA comment brings hope to a difficult situation ❤
Top-Bit85 | Top-Bit85
Choosing the kids' well-being over family drama 👏
Zel_lost_it | Zel_lost_it
Choosing between family and foster care. NTA made the right call 👍
rjinchico | rjinchico
Commenter suggests extreme solution to family dilemma. 🤯
becauselifeis | becauselifeis
Choosing to let the foster family keep the children. NTA 👏
Cruitire | Cruitire
Choosing family over blood, NTA receives love for fostering children 😍
Metasequioa | Metasequioa
Drug-addicted cousin's actions make children suffer. NTA for decision.
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Commenter sympathizes with woman's dilemma and criticizes cousin's parenting.
RiverSong_777 | RiverSong_777
NTA. Cousin wants control, not what's best for kids. You're right.
IrateShepherd | IrateShepherd
Adopting niece and nephews? NTA prioritizes children's well-being 👍
pcnauta | pcnauta
Addiction takes a toll on families. Heartbreaking situation. 😢
erintainment | erintainment
Choosing the foster family may be best for the kids 🙏
claireisabell | claireisabell
Choosing love over blood ties. NTA for giving them a chance 💜
freedomfromthepast | freedomfromthepast
Aunt chooses foster family over addict cousin. NTA 👍
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