Woman Faces Dilemma: Adopt Niece & Nephews or Let Foster Family Keep Them? 😢

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A 27-year-old woman finds herself in a difficult situation when her estranged cousin reaches out, asking her to adopt her three children. The cousin, who had a history of drug abuse and partying, had her children taken away by Child Protective Services (CPS) three years ago. The woman, who had been close to her cousin in the past, is torn between adopting the children and letting them stay with their loving foster family. As she weighs her options, she must consider the emotional impact on the children and the potential drama with her troubled cousin.

Cousin's Troubled Past 🚩

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First Nephew and CPS Involvement 🚼

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Cousin Cuts Off Family 😞

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Years Later, A Sudden Reconnection 📧

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Cousin's Plea for Adoption 🙏

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Meeting the Foster Family 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦

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Surprise: A Fourth Child 🤯

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The Kids Love Their Foster Family ❤️

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A Difficult Decision 🤔

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Reasons for Not Adopting 🏠

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Cousin's Furious Reaction 😡

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Foster Family's Adoption Plans 📝

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Another Baby on the Way 🤰

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Choosing the Best Future for the Children 🌟

Faced with the difficult decision of adopting her niece and nephews or letting them stay with their foster family, the woman ultimately chooses not to adopt. She believes the children are better off with the foster family, who they have formed strong bonds with. Despite her cousin's anger, the woman remains involved in the children's lives as an aunt figure. As the foster family plans to adopt all the children, including the cousin's unborn child, the woman hopes she has made the best choice for their future. Share your thoughts and reactions below. 👇

NTA - Foster family is a good place for the kids 😊

No-Policy-4095 | No-Policy-4095

Loving foster home is best for kids' stability and happiness 😊

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NTA. A loving family keeping siblings together is a dream scenario 😍

yourlittlebirdie | yourlittlebirdie

Commenter defends OP's decision to not adopt drug-addicted cousin's kids.

1962Michael | 1962Michael

Supportive aunt navigates complex family dynamics to protect her niece and nephews 🙏

ourladyofsnails | ourladyofsnails

NTA. Cousin has no say. Adopting kids is her workaround 😢

Unit-Healthy | Unit-Healthy

Putting the children first. NTA made the right decision 👏

HappiestApple | HappiestApple

Choosing to stay involved as an aunt figure was the best decision 👍

TheGingerCynic | TheGingerCynic

NTA, cousin tried to get around CPS and rip kids from stable home. You made the right choice.

ForwardPlenty | ForwardPlenty

Support for keeping the kids with their chosen family. 👏

BellaDonnaBoudreaux | BellaDonnaBoudreaux

Commenter believes addict shouldn't adopt kids, foster family better 😍

Stardust_Hoopa | Stardust_Hoopa

Choosing between family and foster parents, NTA prioritizes children 🙌

del901 | del901

Supportive comment encourages aunt to prioritize stability for niblings. 👍

ToilandTrouble123 | ToilandTrouble123

Family ties vs past mistakes. Engaging debate on family values.

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Commenter defends decision not to adopt niece and nephews.

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Don't let guilt dictate your choices. Prioritize the kids' happiness 🙌

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Commenter suggests forced sterilization, others propose Norplant as solution. 😬

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Drug-addicted cousin wants kids back, but foster family is better. 😱

Snoo_68114 | Snoo_68114

Adopting family's kids? Watch out for manipulative relatives. 😡

glittersparklythings | glittersparklythings

Adopting three children at once is a huge responsibility 😢

Bostonya | Bostonya

Aunt's dilemma: adopt or let foster family keep them? NTA.

BRAUforce | BRAUforce

Choosing not to adopt for the children's well-being. NTA 😊

Cevanne46 | Cevanne46

Being a supportive birth family member is crucial 👍

capmanor1755 | capmanor1755

Putting kids first, not ego. Cousin needs birth control. 🚫

Smudgikins | Smudgikins

Foster family provides stability and resources, NTA for not adopting.

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Supportive comment encourages treatment and boundaries for family member.

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Putting the kids first. 👏

OutlandishnessNew259 | OutlandishnessNew259

Former CPS worker advises to prioritize stability over DNA. 👍

quirkyhermit | quirkyhermit

Adopting 5 kids at 27 is a huge lifestyle change 😢


Stand your ground and protect those kids! 💪

mafathew | mafathew

Foster mom wants you to adopt for her convenience. NTA.

Diligent_Brick_5023 | Diligent_Brick_5023

Being an awesome aunt is doing right by these kids 👍

RazzmatazzCharming60 | RazzmatazzCharming60

Aunt chooses to keep sibling group together, NTA 👏

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Commenter suggests sterilization, deems OP not the a-hole. 🤯

baeyayrea | baeyayrea

Curious if foster family wants to adopt the kids? 🤔

0biterdicta | 0biterdicta

Choosing to adopt or not? NTA advises to prioritize kids' stability 🙌

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Don't let guilt force you into adopting 3(4?) kids. #NTA 😊

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Choosing family over foster care - heartwarming decision 😢

ChewyRib | ChewyRib

NTA who hit the jackpot with 5 kids in a loving home! 😍

daisyymae | daisyymae

Not the a**hole, but what's the backstory? 🤔

Comfortable_Stop_717 | Comfortable_Stop_717

Loving foster family + caring aunt = happy kids 😊

Missicat | Missicat

Choosing the best for the kids 👏

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Commenter supports decision, no a**holes here 👍

Job_Moist | Job_Moist

Let the children decide, NTA. Foster family is their home 💜

Lurkingentropy | Lurkingentropy

Foster family wants to adopt, kids are happy. NTA. 👍

Murderbunny13 | Murderbunny13

Putting the kids' welfare first 👏, not their birth mother's mistakes.

anm313 | anm313

Choosing family vs stable home for niblings, NTA wins

DaniCapsFan | DaniCapsFan

Former foster worker advises aunt to stay involved, but let family keep kids 🙏

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Adopting family members' children is tough but worth it 🙌

KoalaKnows123 | KoalaKnows123

Adoption isn't always the best option. NTA for considering alternatives. 🙏

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Heartbreaking reality of children in foster care system 😢

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Heartwarming: Foster family praised for adopting 3 siblings already ❤️

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Aunt faces tough decision, but NTA for considering foster family. 😔

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Commenter's shock at cousin's pregnancy sparks concern and confusion.

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Aunt's noble dilemma: Adopt or let foster family keep them? 🙌

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Heartwarming NTA comment brings hope to a difficult situation ❤

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Choosing the kids' well-being over family drama 👏

Zel_lost_it | Zel_lost_it

Choosing between family and foster care. NTA made the right call 👍

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Commenter suggests extreme solution to family dilemma. 🤯

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Choosing to let the foster family keep the children. NTA 👏

Cruitire | Cruitire

Choosing family over blood, NTA receives love for fostering children 😍

Metasequioa | Metasequioa

Drug-addicted cousin's actions make children suffer. NTA for decision.

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Commenter sympathizes with woman's dilemma and criticizes cousin's parenting.

RiverSong_777 | RiverSong_777

NTA. Cousin wants control, not what's best for kids. You're right.

IrateShepherd | IrateShepherd

Adopting niece and nephews? NTA prioritizes children's well-being 👍

pcnauta | pcnauta

Addiction takes a toll on families. Heartbreaking situation. 😢

erintainment | erintainment

Choosing the foster family may be best for the kids 🙏

claireisabell | claireisabell

Choosing love over blood ties. NTA for giving them a chance 💜

freedomfromthepast | freedomfromthepast

Aunt chooses foster family over addict cousin. NTA 👍

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