Woman Refuses to Be Part of Friend's 'Village' 🏘️😮

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A woman in her early thirties finds herself in a group of friends who have known each other for varying amounts of time. They usually meet up for drinks or dinner every month. However, one friend, Kelly, who recently had a baby, seems to be struggling with her new responsibilities. As a result, the woman and a few others have started to pull back from their friendship with Kelly. But when Kelly asks for help one too many times, the woman finally speaks up, leading to a dramatic confrontation.

The Group of Friends 🥂

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Kelly's Struggles 👶

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Pulling Back from Kelly 🚶‍♀️

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Unpaid Labor? 🧺

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The Mopping Request 🧹

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Needing Her 'Village' 🏘️

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The Confrontation 😠

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Harsh Words? 🤔

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The 'Village' Dilemma: A Summary 🏘️🤔

A woman finds herself increasingly frustrated with her friend Kelly, who seems to treat their group of friends as unpaid labor to help with her baby and household chores. When Kelly asks her to mop the kitchen, she finally snaps and tells Kelly she doesn't want to be part of her 'village.' This leads to a confrontation and leaves the woman questioning if she was too harsh. What do you think? Share your thoughts and reactions below. 👇

Being part of a 'village' doesn't mean being an unpaid employee 😂

keesouth | keesouth

Small circle is okay. You're NTA for not wanting to help.

Defiant_Ingenuity_55 | Defiant_Ingenuity_55

NTA. Commenter questions friend's contribution to 'the village' 🤔

Responsible_Lawyer78 | Responsible_Lawyer78

Commenter warns about lack of internet privacy, others joke about it.

brief_kc | brief_kc

Sarcastic request to be added to friend's 'village' list.

Flat_Shame_2377 | Flat_Shame_2377

Boundaries are important. NTA for setting them 👍

judgy_mcjudgypants | judgy_mcjudgypants

Friendship is not about treating each other as unpaid labor 🙏

ColdstreamCapple | ColdstreamCapple

NTA, the 'village' is not a free cleaning service 👍

penguin_squeak | penguin_squeak

Fellow mothers agree: Mop the floor show is looney 😱

ServelanDarrow | ServelanDarrow

Visitors shouldn't be asked to mop floors, NTA for refusing. 😕

DwightsJello | DwightsJello

You're not obligated to join anyone's 'village'. NTA 👍

ChocolateCoveredRage | ChocolateCoveredRage

Friend expects too much, NTA for setting boundaries 🙌

Lotex_Style | Lotex_Style

Politely declining to be part of a friend's 'village' 🙅‍♀️

MystifiedByPeople | MystifiedByPeople

Borrower won't return the loan but has poor timing 😑

AilingHen69 | AilingHen69

Misunderstanding of 'village' concept leads to awkward request 😕

JaneEyrewasHere | JaneEyrewasHere

No chores in a friend's house. NTA sets boundaries.

Scarlettohara1605 | Scarlettohara1605

Not your kid, not your responsibility 👍

Select_Remote5138 | Select_Remote5138

Misunderstanding the concept of 'village' and mutual aid 🤔

squirlysquirel | squirlysquirel

NTA stands firm on friend's parenting choices 🙌

Jckun31 | Jckun31

No kids, no chores. Friend was wrong to assume. NTA 👍

WealthEconomy | WealthEconomy

A sarcastic reply to someone's lack of permission 🙄

beardoggoose | beardoggoose

Boundaries are important. NTA for not being her village 🙏

givemethc27 | givemethc27

Step parent shares opinion on parenting responsibilities. 👍

holisarcasm | holisarcasm

Cleaning someone's house is not a friend's job 🚫

jen7850 | jen7850

Commenter questions effectiveness of permission request. 🤔

finewhateverbot | finewhateverbot

Friend expects too much, NTA for refusing to mop kitchen 😮

VictorianPlatypus | VictorianPlatypus

First-time mom struggling with no help, NTA for refusing 'village'.

AlwaysAboutMe | AlwaysAboutMe

Fair to expect occasional help, not constant unpaid labor. 👍

survival-nut | survival-nut

Commenter questions the woman's contribution to the 'village' 🤔

No-Personality5421 | No-Personality5421

Respect boundaries: Don't assume others want to be involved 🙌

Grimace4Eyes | Grimace4Eyes

Setting boundaries is important. 🙌🏼

Professional_Grab513 | Professional_Grab513

Kelly's 'village' seems more like a collection of suckers 😒

spiffsome | spiffsome

Don't be a free labor for friends with kids 😮

Turkeysocks | Turkeysocks

Friend tries to conscript woman into 'village' without reciprocating help 😒

Myrindyl | Myrindyl

Rebel instincts triggered by usage restrictions? 🤔

Hellodarkness1998 | Hellodarkness1998

Fair share or uninvited? NTA stands up for herself 🤔

himmelkatten | himmelkatten

Choosing not to be part of a friend's 'village' 😮

MrsWifi | MrsWifi

Honesty is the best policy for maintaining relationships 👍

Anxious-Engineer2116 | Anxious-Engineer2116

Commenter advises cutting off friend, uses profanity. 🤬

A5madal | A5madal

Kelly's 'village' plan gets shut down by commenter


Don't let anyone guilt you into free labor. 💪🏻

ContentedRecluse | ContentedRecluse

Modern parents exploiting 'the village' for free labor? NTA stands up

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No housework for someone else's kids? NTA wins.

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Don't let anyone guilt you into being their 'village' 🙅‍♀️

reaper88911 | reaper88911

Cutting off entitled friends 🚫 is okay, NTA

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Setting boundaries like a boss! NTA 👏

PrairieGrrl5263 | PrairieGrrl5263

Setting boundaries in friendships is important 🙌

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Setting boundaries with unreasonable friend who expects free labor 👍

Expensive-Issue-3188 | Expensive-Issue-3188

Selfless service is key. Asking for help is obnoxious.

fastyellowtuesday | fastyellowtuesday

Friend asks for too much, NTA for refusing to mop 🧹

PiperAnne55 | PiperAnne55

Setting boundaries with friends is important 🙌

dodger37 | dodger37

Helping with babies, but not with mopping floors. NTA 👍

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Defending OP's decision to refuse friend's unreasonable request 🙅‍♀️

GaryDickersfield | GaryDickersfield

Creating a village is a two-way street 👭👭

mangogetter | mangogetter

You're not the a**hole for refusing to be a nanny 🚫

Left-Pumpkin-4815 | Left-Pumpkin-4815

User expresses shock at not knowing about 'village' concept.

Anteater3100 | Anteater3100

Friendship is a two-way street 🙋🏻️. NTA for setting boundaries.

SkippySkep | SkippySkep

When friendship expectations don't align 🤷‍♀️ NTA wins.

slendermanismydad | slendermanismydad

Not the a**hole for not wanting to be part of 'village' 🙌

Calm_Initial | Calm_Initial

Friend crosses the line by asking for floor mopping help 🧹

dogmatx61 | dogmatx61

Not the a**hole, but what's the backstory? 🤔

Admirable_Oil_5504 | Admirable_Oil_5504

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