In this emotionally charged post, a mother is torn between helping her daughter's husband with medical expenses and not feeling obligated to do so. The daughter has been spending more time with her biological family, leaving the mother feeling pushed aside. When the daughter asks to sell a piece of land to help with medical expenses, the mother refuses, causing a rift in their relationship. Read on to find out what happens and who, if anyone, is in the wrong.
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A mother is at odds with her adopted daughter who has been pushing her and her family to the side in order to spend more time with her biological family. However, when the daughter's husband falls seriously ill and requires a costly LVAD implant, she turns to her mother for help. The mother refuses to sell the family's land to pay for the procedure, leading to a huge argument and a rift in their relationship. While the daughter accuses her mother of being unsupportive and only caring about the money, the mother feels hurt and unappreciated by her daughter's actions. Despite her husband's suggestion to help out now and settle the conflict later, the mother is hesitant, feeling that she is not obligated to give such a large sum of money. The situation is complicated by the daughter's previous behavior and the mother's resentment towards her daughter's biological family. Read on for the comments and reactions to this family drama.
Daughter only wants money, not relationship. NTA for not selling land.
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Love may be unconditional, but support is conditional. NTA.
CatOutrageous9135 | CatOutrageous9135
Daughter's demands make judgement difficult, but NTA seems fair 😕
Smudgikins | Smudgikins
Complicated situation with no clear 'a**hole', but American health system sucks 🤷♀️
NeedleworkerSuch9895 | NeedleworkerSuch9895
NTA. Commenters discuss the complicated family dynamics and responsibilities.
AmazingDoomslug | AmazingDoomslug
Daughter asks for land, mother refuses. Commenters advise support with boundaries.
AustralopithecusDO | AustralopithecusDO
Mother denies land sale for daughter's husband's medical treatment expenses.
PotentialityKnocks | PotentialityKnocks
Daughter is TA for expecting mother to pay for husband's expenses 💰
evelbug | evelbug
Commenters suggest seeking alternative funding and not giving in to ultimatums 💰
dioor | dioor
ESH - Daughter's request for money reveals deeper family issues.
pm-me-kittens-n-cats | pm-me-kittens-n-cats
No obligation to help: commenter stands up for herself 💪
Tear_2bad4U | Tear_2bad4U
Bio parents vs. adoptive parents - ESH comment section drama 🤦♀️
littlefiddle05 | littlefiddle05
A man's life hangs in the balance of a family argument. ESH.
susste | susste
Family tensions rise as mother prioritizes bio family over daughter-in-law.
MinsAino | MinsAino
A family torn apart by money and desperation 🤷♂️
RubyDiscus | RubyDiscus
Daughter is TA for trying to sell son's college fund 💰
SwordfishGood4619 | SwordfishGood4619
Daughter wants brother-in-law's land for medical expenses, commenters support NTA
Greedy-Text1251 | Greedy-Text1251
Commenter supports man's decision to not help ex-wife with medical expenses 👍
BootyBrownBoy | BootyBrownBoy
Daughter's pleas for help met with cruelty and rejection 😔
oceansofmyancestors | oceansofmyancestors
Compassion wins. 🙌 YTA called out on lack of empathy.
theconfusedbat | theconfusedbat
Daughter can't treat you like an ATM. NTA.
Tannim44 | Tannim44
Mother debates selling land for son-in-law's medical expenses 💰
TheOtter91 | TheOtter91
Adopted daughter seeks bio family, emotional tensions arise, soft ESH.
callmea_ghost | callmea_ghost
Adoption fears and family rejection in medical emergency. NTA.
Effective_Increase54 | Effective_Increase54
Conditional love goes both ways. NTA. 💔
SleepDeprivedSailor | SleepDeprivedSailor
Commenter calls out both parties for mixing separate issues. ESH.
PettyHonestThrowaway | PettyHonestThrowaway
Commenter thinks NAH, but one reply calls mother out for guilt-tripping ❤️
amjay8 | amjay8
Daughter navigating complex family dynamics, mother being petty and demanding 🤷♀️
LurkingOakleaf | LurkingOakleaf
Resentment on both sides. 🤨
wordsinmouth | wordsinmouth
Mother's cruel comment sparks debate over selling land.
Comprehensive-Hand60 | Comprehensive-Hand60
Unconditional love seems to be a rare commodity here 😕
SirAccomplished4576 | SirAccomplished4576
ESH but priorities matter! Don't risk someone's life over revenge
HereForTheButtStuff | HereForTheButtStuff
Commenter defends daughter's request for medical expenses, calls for empathy. 😔
Alpha_ji | Alpha_ji
Mother gets called out for being jealous and unsupportive 🙄
twocatsnoheart | twocatsnoheart
Set boundaries with in-laws during tough times 💰🙅
Worried_Economist_38 | Worried_Economist_38
Mother criticized for refusing to sell land for son-in-law's treatment 💔
duckanroll | duckanroll
Adoptive mother prioritizes daughter over bio family, NTA
neptunecaity | neptunecaity
Don't let yourself be manipulated 👀 Stand your ground 💪
Low-Aerie1917 | Low-Aerie1917
Adopted kids have it tough. ESH for poor timing and words 💔
Alpha_ji | Alpha_ji
Family drama and financial strain 🤑
kt99_ | kt99_
Daughter uses mother for money, mother refuses to help son-in-law. ESH.
giantbrownguy | giantbrownguy
Adopted child defends mother's decision to not give money 💰
SwimmingCoyote | SwimmingCoyote
The heartbreak of adoption rejection and the hope for reconciliation.
santine-love85 | santine-love85
Urgent situation! Let's put aside differences and save a life! 💪
Wonderwoman2707 | Wonderwoman2707
Daughter's husband needs medical money, family drama ensues 🤦
RamsLams | RamsLams
Daughter only asks for money, husband not family. NTA 👍
MariaInconnu | MariaInconnu
Unconditional love has limits. NTA for setting boundaries.
amalie_anomaly | amalie_anomaly
Adopted OP shares her experience and advises against abandoning those who raised you. Daughter's behavior is selfish and she owes apologies. Possible joint effort to assist. NTA but daughter sure is! 😠
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