Mother refuses to sell land for daughter's husband's medical expenses

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In this emotionally charged post, a mother is torn between helping her daughter's husband with medical expenses and not feeling obligated to do so. The daughter has been spending more time with her biological family, leaving the mother feeling pushed aside. When the daughter asks to sell a piece of land to help with medical expenses, the mother refuses, causing a rift in their relationship. Read on to find out what happens and who, if anyone, is in the wrong.

Adopted daughter reconnects with bio family, mother supports reunion ❤️

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Family dynamics change after daughter's husband's medical needs arise

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Grandma chooses bio family over in-laws, causing tension 👵👨‍👩‍👧

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Daughter prioritizes bio family over in-laws, causes rift 💔

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Struggling with medical bills, daughter turns to mother for help ❤️

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Mother denies daughter's request for medical device funding 💰

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Grandson's future at stake: Mother denied medical aid from mother-in-law.

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Family feud over medical expenses leaves a bitter aftertaste 😔

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Grandson's medical expenses cause tension between in-laws 💰

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Financial strain on relationship with daughter, feeling used. 💸

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Mother refuses to sell land for son-in-law's medical expenses 💰❌

A mother is at odds with her adopted daughter who has been pushing her and her family to the side in order to spend more time with her biological family. However, when the daughter's husband falls seriously ill and requires a costly LVAD implant, she turns to her mother for help. The mother refuses to sell the family's land to pay for the procedure, leading to a huge argument and a rift in their relationship. While the daughter accuses her mother of being unsupportive and only caring about the money, the mother feels hurt and unappreciated by her daughter's actions. Despite her husband's suggestion to help out now and settle the conflict later, the mother is hesitant, feeling that she is not obligated to give such a large sum of money. The situation is complicated by the daughter's previous behavior and the mother's resentment towards her daughter's biological family. Read on for the comments and reactions to this family drama.

Daughter only wants money, not relationship. NTA for not selling land.

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Love may be unconditional, but support is conditional. NTA.

CatOutrageous9135 | CatOutrageous9135

Daughter's demands make judgement difficult, but NTA seems fair 😕

Smudgikins | Smudgikins

Complicated situation with no clear 'a**hole', but American health system sucks 🤷‍♀️

NeedleworkerSuch9895 | NeedleworkerSuch9895

NTA. Commenters discuss the complicated family dynamics and responsibilities.

AmazingDoomslug | AmazingDoomslug

Daughter asks for land, mother refuses. Commenters advise support with boundaries.

AustralopithecusDO | AustralopithecusDO

Mother denies land sale for daughter's husband's medical treatment expenses.

PotentialityKnocks | PotentialityKnocks

Daughter is TA for expecting mother to pay for husband's expenses 💰

evelbug | evelbug

Commenters suggest seeking alternative funding and not giving in to ultimatums 💰

dioor | dioor

ESH - Daughter's request for money reveals deeper family issues.

pm-me-kittens-n-cats | pm-me-kittens-n-cats

No obligation to help: commenter stands up for herself 💪

Tear_2bad4U | Tear_2bad4U

Bio parents vs. adoptive parents - ESH comment section drama 🤦‍♀️

littlefiddle05 | littlefiddle05

A man's life hangs in the balance of a family argument. ESH.

susste | susste

Family tensions rise as mother prioritizes bio family over daughter-in-law.

MinsAino | MinsAino

A family torn apart by money and desperation 🤷‍♂️

RubyDiscus | RubyDiscus

Daughter is TA for trying to sell son's college fund 💰

SwordfishGood4619 | SwordfishGood4619

Daughter wants brother-in-law's land for medical expenses, commenters support NTA

Greedy-Text1251 | Greedy-Text1251

Commenter supports man's decision to not help ex-wife with medical expenses 👍

BootyBrownBoy | BootyBrownBoy

Daughter's pleas for help met with cruelty and rejection 😔

oceansofmyancestors | oceansofmyancestors

Compassion wins. 🙌 YTA called out on lack of empathy.

theconfusedbat | theconfusedbat

Daughter can't treat you like an ATM. NTA.

Tannim44 | Tannim44

Mother debates selling land for son-in-law's medical expenses 💰

TheOtter91 | TheOtter91

Adopted daughter seeks bio family, emotional tensions arise, soft ESH.

callmea_ghost | callmea_ghost

Adoption fears and family rejection in medical emergency. NTA.

Effective_Increase54 | Effective_Increase54

Conditional love goes both ways. NTA. 💔

SleepDeprivedSailor | SleepDeprivedSailor

Commenter calls out both parties for mixing separate issues. ESH.

PettyHonestThrowaway | PettyHonestThrowaway

Commenter thinks NAH, but one reply calls mother out for guilt-tripping ❤️

amjay8 | amjay8

Daughter navigating complex family dynamics, mother being petty and demanding 🤷‍♀️

LurkingOakleaf | LurkingOakleaf

Resentment on both sides. 🤨

wordsinmouth | wordsinmouth

Mother's cruel comment sparks debate over selling land.

Comprehensive-Hand60 | Comprehensive-Hand60

Unconditional love seems to be a rare commodity here 😕

SirAccomplished4576 | SirAccomplished4576

ESH but priorities matter! Don't risk someone's life over revenge

HereForTheButtStuff | HereForTheButtStuff

Commenter defends daughter's request for medical expenses, calls for empathy. 😔

Alpha_ji | Alpha_ji

Mother gets called out for being jealous and unsupportive 🙄

twocatsnoheart | twocatsnoheart

Set boundaries with in-laws during tough times 💰🙅

Worried_Economist_38 | Worried_Economist_38

Mother criticized for refusing to sell land for son-in-law's treatment 💔

duckanroll | duckanroll

Adoptive mother prioritizes daughter over bio family, NTA

neptunecaity | neptunecaity

Don't let yourself be manipulated 👀 Stand your ground 💪

Low-Aerie1917 | Low-Aerie1917

Adopted kids have it tough. ESH for poor timing and words 💔

Alpha_ji | Alpha_ji

Family drama and financial strain 🤑

kt99_ | kt99_

Daughter uses mother for money, mother refuses to help son-in-law. ESH.

giantbrownguy | giantbrownguy

Adopted child defends mother's decision to not give money 💰

SwimmingCoyote | SwimmingCoyote

The heartbreak of adoption rejection and the hope for reconciliation.

santine-love85 | santine-love85

Urgent situation! Let's put aside differences and save a life! 💪

Wonderwoman2707 | Wonderwoman2707

Daughter's husband needs medical money, family drama ensues 🤦

RamsLams | RamsLams

Daughter only asks for money, husband not family. NTA 👍

MariaInconnu | MariaInconnu

Unconditional love has limits. NTA for setting boundaries.

amalie_anomaly | amalie_anomaly

Adopted OP shares her experience and advises against abandoning those who raised you. Daughter's behavior is selfish and she owes apologies. Possible joint effort to assist. NTA but daughter sure is! 😠

Embarrassed_Board_15 | Embarrassed_Board_15

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