A 20-year-old girl is torn between taking care of her four young siblings and pursuing her own life. She often feels like a single mother, and now she wants to move in with a friend and get her own place. But her mom insists she stays, calling her selfish and entitled. Who’s in the right here – should she put her own life on hold to take care of her family, or is it time for her to prioritize herself? Read on to find out more.
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A 20-year-old girl wants to move out and stop raising her siblings
Being the oldest of five siblings by eleven years, a 20-year-old girl feels like a single mother as she does the lion’s share of child-rearing for her little siblings. She plans to move in with a friend and get a small flat together. However, her mother calls her selfish and says she can’t move out as she “Needs” her, and she won’t be able to cope alone. The girl feels worried sick about her siblings and how they will fare without her. She admits she lost it when her mother called her entitled and spoiled and told her little siblings how she’s going to be leaving them all behind. She feels like sh*t and wonders if she is being selfish. Who’s the a**hole here? Read on for the comments and reactions.
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Live your life Not the a**hole for wanting freedom.
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Taking responsibility for siblings shouldn’t come at the cost of your dreams.
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Leaving home to stop raising siblings, NTA.
You’re NTA for wanting to move out and live your life
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Encouragement to prioritize self-care and pursue personal goals
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Putting yourself first is not selfish. NTA.
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Encouraging words! Don’t let guilt hold you back.
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Standing up to an abusive parent and modeling healthy behavior.
Independence is not selfish. NTA for wanting to move out.
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Protecting younger siblings from parentification.
A powerful story of sacrifice and survival, NTA, save yourself
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Go pursue your happiness, but still offer help for balance
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Escape the toxicity and start living for yourself
Escape the toxicity , leave and grow!
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