Asking for what you want in the bedroom is never easy.
You can a) tread carefully so as not to offend your partner. Or b) shoot it to 'em straight by writing out a list of demands.
That's what one husband did with his wife. Now, his list of demands is turning the internet off and making people uncomfortable.
It's kind of like Reddit's, "Am I The Asshole?" forum, except it's for moms. There, people can help anonymous users decide if they were wrong or not in particular situations.
She's certainly not alone. A 2021 study found that over a third of Americans in a relationship are unsatisfied with their sex life. Out of 1,000 American relationships, 34 percent of people were unable to rate their sex life as either “satisfying” or “very satisfying.”
Another study by EdenFantasys.com found that the biggest obstacles to a better sex life was sex that ended too quickly, a lack of foreplay, and a lack of communication.
On the forum, she began by explaining that her husband has had some, er, performance issues. "DH recently has started to sometimes not get it up," she began her post.
She asked the users to share if their sex life has standards. Why, you ask? Because her husband decided to issue demands that he expects from her occasionally.
"Are these things reasonable to expect of you before sex?" the woman asked. "To be honest I just can't do these things in order to have sex."
"I am being lazy to not want to do these things." She added that they are trying to conceive so it's wearing her out and that she "just cannot be bothered."
She simply "genuinely wants to know if people make an effort for sex and if so is the above ask fair." Unfortunately, many didn't listen and were quick to slam him.
"Sounds like he is criticizing you because he’s projecting his own insecurities," another added.
"Who on earth thinks you should put makeup on to go to bed??" a third wrote.
"You can't be arsed to have a wash beforehand?! Seriously?" one frustrated user wrote. "It’s going to be really unpleasant, and potentially stomach-churning, for both of you if the other hasn’t washed and is a bit whiffy," another added.
One woman even suggested some counter offers to his demands, such as trimmed hair instead of shaven, a clean face, and a good wash.
