A woman was left shocked and angry after a friend made a hurtful comment about her missing father. In retaliation, the woman made a devastating comment about her friend’s deceased child. However, the friend claims she had no idea about the woman’s situation. The incident caused a rift among their mutual friends. Some sided with the woman, saying her friend had no right to make such a comment. Others believed the friend didn’t mean any harm and that the woman’s retaliation was uncalled for. What do you think? Was the woman justified in her response, or did she go too far? Share your thoughts in the comments below.
Why this commenter chose to stay anonymous

Opening up about family leads to unexpected conversation

Insults and grief collide in a heartbreaking argument

Navigating grief and boundaries in conversation.

Woman’s harsh response to grieving mother causes public outrage.

Confronting a friend who made insensitive comments. AITA?

Explaining the true meaning behind her choice of words.

When a grieving mother crosses the line, how far is too far?
A woman grieving the loss of her child made a hurtful comment to a woman who lost her father to cancer. In retaliation, the woman made an equally hurtful comment back. Now, the woman who made the initial comment is painting the other woman as a horrible person. While some friends have taken sides, others believe that neither woman should have retaliated. Was the response justified or did the woman go too far? The situation is complicated by cultural and language differences, making the phrase ‘I don’t have a dad’ more ambiguous than it may seem. Nonetheless, the question remains: should the woman have retaliated in the way she did? This situation raises important questions about how we deal with grief and how we interact with others who are grieving. In the next section, we’ll take a look at some of the reactions and opinions of people who have heard both sides of the story.
Commenters discuss who’s the bigger AH and offer advice.

OP’s tone-deaf comment escalates the situation. ESH

Woman suggests cancer victims run away from loved ones. Grieving mother responds.

Both sides engage in verbal assault, but OP’s response is justified
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Commenter believes everyone sucks as the friend said something equally hurtful.

Both parties were cruel, but OP’s comment was particularly heartless

Don’t talk sh*t if you can’t take it

Uncovering the missing context behind a heated argument.

Commenter calls out both parties in insensitive exchange.

Both sides are at fault, justified or not.

Both comment and reply express disdain towards the person mentioned.

Both sides hit below the belt. Critical context missing. ESH
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Woman retaliates against insensitive comment, but both have personal struggles

Satisfyingly sweet revenge

Using a dead child as a weapon in an argument? ESH
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Both wrong: ESH comment section gets real about accountability

Balancing justice and tolerance in a divisive society.

NTA calls out malice in a thought-provoking way

Engaging with assholes only enables their behavior. Good on OP
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Both parties used loss to hurt each other.

Commenter calls out both parties for crossing the line

Don’t use your words as weapons. Choose kindness ❤

NTA comment sparks debate on context and narcissism.

Both sides in the wrong here

Responding in kind

Be the better person. Don’t stoop to her level

Commenter acknowledges the hurtful words but calls for empathy and understanding.

NTA commenter defends mother’s response to cruel woman’s comment.
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Standing up for oneself against rude comments.

Defending oneself against hurtful comments is understandable

Commenter calls out bad behavior in heated family feud

Commenter defends retaliation in heated argument.

Escalating the situation won’t solve the problem.

OP gets called out for going too far in argument

Using a grieving mother’s trauma to be petty? YTA.

Straightforward response with a touch of sass ♀️

Standing up against verbal abuse, NTA fights back
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Don’t dish it if you can’t take it ♀️

Commenter defends calling out insensitivity, says ‘gamble’ backfired.

Commenter found the situation amusing, claims not the a**hole.

Cancer is not a punishment. ESH for insensitive behavior.

Fair game but still rude. No love lost between them.

Keeping quiet is golden, but revenge is sweeter

Commenter calls out bad behavior in a delicate situation

Calling out bad behavior: or ?

Empathetic commenter supports grieving mother’s clap back against insensitive woman

Choosing kindness is always the better path

Assertive response earns NTA judgment

Commenter supports retaliation in face of insensitive remarks.

When telling the truth makes you NTA
