Woman refuses to share bed with BIL

This heartbreaking story is about a woman who lost her sister and is now taking care of her sister’s kids. One night, her BIL dropped off the kids and asked if they could spend the night. She agreed, but in the middle of the night, she woke up to find him climbing into the bed with her and the kids. She asked him to leave, but he refused. The next day, he accused her of being unnecessarily cruel and rude. With her family telling her to apologize, she asked Reddit if she was the a**hole for refusing to share her bed. Read on to find out what the community had to say.

Helping sister’s kids after her passing, struggling with boundaries

Woman stands her ground and refuses to share bed

Unwanted bedmate alert!

Boundaries crossed: Woman’s BIL tries to share bed with her.

Woman asks BIL to leave room, accused of being cruel.

Woman defends decision to not share bed with BIL.

Woman refuses to share bed with BIL

A woman is struggling with her brother-in-law after he climbed into bed with her while they were caring for her deceased sister’s children. The woman was reading to her niece and nephew when she woke up at 1 am to find her BIL slowly climbing into bed with them. When she asked what he was doing, he said he wanted to “join them”. The woman felt extremely uncomfortable and asked him to leave the room, but he objected. The next day, he called her behavior “unnecessarily cruel” and “rude”. The woman’s mother is pressuring her to apologize to her BIL, but she’s unsure if she’s in the wrong. Read on for some of the internet’s responses to the situation.

Woman refuses to share bed with deceased sister’s husband.

BIL’s creepy behavior and refusal to acknowledge it is alarming

BIL crosses a line by sneaking into bed with OP, grief not an excuse

Mom wants daughter to replace dead daughter, NTA for refusing.

BIL crossed a line, you’re NTA. Keep yourself safe

Commenter supports OP’s discomfort, condemns BIL’s behavior. NTA

Setting boundaries with family after loss.

BIL sneaks into bed with woman and children. Change locks?

BIL’s creepy behavior towards SIL raises eyebrows. ( )

Secure your privacy with new locks.

BIL sneaks into woman’s bed, commenters agree NTA for refusing.

BIL tries to replace deceased wife in sister-in-law’s bed NTA

Mother’s behavior towards BIL is creepy, NTA for refusing.

Setting boundaries with family during grief. NTA

Setting boundaries with family can be uncomfortable, but necessary ️

Learn the golden rule: never get into someone else’s bed ❌ NTA

Boundaries are important! NTA stands her ground against unwanted advances

Setting boundaries is important, even with family members

Setting boundaries is important! ‍♀️ NTA

Standing up to creepy behavior. NTA wins this round

Don’t apologize! Rake the creep over the coals

Setting boundaries is important, especially when it comes to consent. ‍♀️

Setting boundaries is important. No justification for inappropriate behavior

Setting boundaries with in-laws over co-sleeping arrangements.

Setting boundaries on who you sleep with is common sense

Family’s disturbing behavior flagged by commenter. Trust your instincts.

Agree!

Setting boundaries and calling out creepy behavior – NTA

BIL crosses a line by trying to climb into bed

Setting boundaries with creepy BIL. NTA

BIL crosses a line: NTA for refusing to share bed

Woman refuses to share bed with BIL after wife’s death

Agree, sharing a bed with family is always uncomfortable

Creepy BIL tries to use kids as an excuse. NTA

Prioritize your safety. Change locks. Condolences for your loss. ❤️

Protect your space! NTA for setting boundaries.

Setting boundaries and seeking therapy after BIL’s intrusion.

Setting boundaries with family after a loss

Setting boundaries and standing up for yourself.

Setting boundaries is important. NTA for saying no. ❤️

Setting boundaries with grieving BIL. NTA.

Setting boundaries with family members, especially in bed

Setting boundaries with family is important. NTA

Setting boundaries without apology.

Setting boundaries is hard, but necessary for your well-being

Setting boundaries with family can be tough

Consent is key! NTA for refusing unwanted bed-sharing

Woman uncomfortable with BIL sharing bed. NTA, therapy advised.

Woman’s BIL sneaks into bed with her: Commenter validates her discomfort.

BIL violated boundaries by climbing into bed while OP slept

Stand your ground! You’re not the a**hole.

Setting boundaries and being NTA – clap clap

Setting boundaries is important

Setting boundaries with family can be tough. ‍♀️

Setting boundaries with family members can be uncomfortable , but it’s important for your own comfort and safety. It’s not your responsibility to tolerate inappropriate behavior from anyone, even family. #NTA

Dealing with family pressure after sister’s death.

Setting boundaries is important. NTA for standing up for yourself.

Setting boundaries with family after a loss.

Setting boundaries with family

BIL and mother are TA for pressuring, NTA for not sharing.

Setting boundaries is important, even in times of grief. #NTA

Standing up to creepy behavior ️ ‍♀️

Setting boundaries with family members can be uncomfortable

Setting boundaries with empathy during a difficult time. ✨

Woman’s BIL behaves creepily after sister’s death. NTA.

When is it okay for an adult to share a bed with kids?

Setting boundaries with family.

Setting boundaries with BIL after uncomfortable bedroom encounter.

Sharing a bed with BIL? Nope, that’s creepy AF! #NotTheAsshole

Boundaries matter, even with family

Setting boundaries with family can be uncomfortable but necessary

Setting boundaries and standing firm against gaslighting and manipulation

Stand your ground and don’t back down

Setting boundaries with family during grief.

Setting boundaries with in-laws

Setting boundaries is important.

Unexpected BIL visit sparks debate on boundaries and expectations.

BIL’s behavior is potentially illegal and disgusting. Be careful.