Imagine being in a relationship for six months, and your partner’s ex-fiancé absolutely despises you. Now, imagine receiving a request from the ex to pick up their daughter, after being explicitly told you’re not allowed to be alone with her. What would you do? That’s the dilemma one woman faced when her boyfriend’s ex asked her to pick up their daughter for a day and overnight stay. The woman, who was threatened with police involvement if she ever spent time alone with the child, decided to say no. Little did she know, her decision would lead to a storm of backlash and tears.
The Ex’s Hatred
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Not Allowed to Be Alone with the Daughter
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Threatening Police Involvement
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A Sudden Request for Help
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Super Bowl Party Plans
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A Firm ‘No’ ✋
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Backlash Begins
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Heartbreaking Voicemail
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Working to Escape the Pain
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A Twist in the Story
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The Truth Comes Out ️♀️
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A Fake Heart Attack?
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Feeling Like an Idiot
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The Aftermath of Saying No ️
After refusing to pick up her boyfriend’s daughter, the woman faced a whirlwind of backlash from her boyfriend, his ex, and their mutual friends. She spent an hour crying over a voicemail from her boyfriend and even went to work to escape the pain. But there’s a twist – the ex had claimed her father had a heart attack, which turned out to be false. The father himself apologized for his daughter’s behavior and admitted she’s always been a handful. Now, the woman is left feeling like an idiot for the entire ordeal. Let’s see what people have to say about this emotional rollercoaster.
NTA comment raises valid concerns about potential false accusations.

NTA stands up for herself, faces backlash for prioritizing safety

NTA. Commenter suggests moving on from drama-filled relationship
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NTA commenter advises OP to build trust with boyfriend’s baby mama.

NTA defends woman’s decision to not pick up BF’s daughter

Dating for only 6 months and already seeing red flags

NTA. Commenter advises to dump boyfriend and find better partner.

Supportive comment for OP’s decision to not pick up BF’s daughter.

Setting boundaries with a crazy boyfriend.

NTA. Advice to reconsider relationship with BF and his ex.

NTA warns girl to run from toxic relationship with unsupportive boyfriend.
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Ex threatens, expects GF to pick up daughter for party. NTA.

User warns about potential nightmare ex and unsupportive boyfriend
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NTA gets advice to run from toxic BF and his ex

Not her responsibility to watch BF’s kid. NTA

Consider calling the cops? NTA worries about BF’s mentality
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Trust your gut, OP. He showed he doesn’t have your back

Protecting oneself from threats, NTA in this situation

Choosing boundaries in relationships is important for your safety.

NTA, but why stay in this messy family situation? ♀️

Stepmom refuses to pick up BF’s daughter, threatens to call cops

NTA. Ex is crazy and it will only get worse

Questioning the relationship dynamics and loyalty, tough situation

NTA, standing up to a harassing bio mom. Boyfriend’s loyalty questioned.

NTA: Woman refuses to pick up BF’s daughter for Superbowl.

NTA! Commenter empathizes with the situation and questions the relationship.

Red flags everywhere! Communication is key, not jumping to conclusions.

Empowering response to emotional abuse in relationships

NTA, but is this really the kind of person you want to be with?

End the relationship, he sucks and you deserve better.

Don’t ignore the red flags . Trust your gut instincts.

Woman defends herself for not picking up BF’s daughter.

NTA but needs to have a serious talk with her BF

User advises OP to reconsider relationship and run away ♀️

Time to move on to a healthier relationship

User advises OP to leave toxic relationship for better life

Woman not at fault, deserves apology from friends and boyfriend.

Woman receives support after refusing to pick up BF’s daughter
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Setting boundaries with ex’s kid, and bf needs to step up.

Red flags and advice for OP to document everything or run

NTA recommends setting boundaries with BF’s ex-wife for a healthy relationship.

BF’s ex sets up girlfriend to fail, NTA for refusing.

NTA refuses to pick up BF’s daughter, ex and friends attack

NTA commenter supports OP, calls out manipulative behavior

Supportive comment for woman dating a loser

Heartbreaking comment about OP being a punching bag.

User advises to move on from drama-filled relationship

A cautionary tale of a stepmom’s experience with a difficult ex.

Run away from the asshat circus

Refusing to pick up BF’s daughter leads to legal troubles. NTA

BF leaves angry voicemail, no trust in NTA commenter

Re-evaluate your relationship, she’ll be a problem forever.

Co-parenting is hard, trust takes time. NTA but communication is key

Stepmom shares relatable experience, advises OP to reconsider relationship

Dealing with a high conflict birth mom? Keep her at arms length

NTA, BF takes daughter’s side. Reevaluate relationship.
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Boyfriend’s ex uses child as a tool, you’re NTA

User sympathizes with OP and hopes for a positive outcome

NTA, but BF needs to have your back

Dump the boyfriend for siding against you

BF takes daughter’s side, commenter advises leaving toxic situation.

Supportive comment offers advice and empathy to OP.

User advises to let go of toxic relationship with baby mama.

BF’s overreaction and lack of apology make him TA

Screenshots prove NTA, don’t play games with crazy ex

Run for the hills! ♀️ That woman sounds insane.

Survival strategy for dealing with manipulative ex and documenting communication.

BF’s behavior alarming after woman refuses to pick up daughter

NTA comment advises OP to stand firm with baby mama drama.
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NTA for not watching bf’s daughter, post screenshots to prove it.

Protecting yourself from drama, time to get out ASAP
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Choosing between being the bigger person and NTA, commenter says ‘F**k her’
