Holidays are always a stressful time.
You have to worry about what to wear (loose-fitting clothes, obviously, to accommodate All. The. Food.) and how you’re going to dodge invasive questions about your personal life.
For one Redditor , it also means dealing with parents who don’t see your adopted children as their grandchildren. Yikes!
Let the family drama commence.
Here’s the original post:

It continues:

Redditors were more than happy to gobble this story up when u/throwawayz_12345 posted it to the “AITA” community on Reddit.
The original poster, OP for short, began by explaining that she’s been with her wife, Ava, for eight years. Ava came into the relationship as a single mom of three kids. This meant that the OP has practically raised these children and sees them as her own.
“I’ve read the bedtime stories, done bath time, the first days of school, pta meetings, all of it. I very much consider them to be my kids, and they’ve been calling me mom for almost 6 years now,” she wrote.
Meanwhile, her brother, Ivan, and his fiancée, Sara, recently had a baby girl

Up until now, everyone — including the kids — all got along. She explained that there’s never been a moment where the kids were treated like they didn’t belong. “My brother is their uncle, my mom and dad are their nana and pop— the kids see my family as their family and I always thought that my family felt the same way about them.”
Or so the OP thought. Everything changed when the family was hanging out at the brother’s house and the parents decided to drop by with gifts for their new grandchild.
When Ivan made a comment that they were going to spoil her rotten, the OP’s mother made a comment about how she’s their first grandchild.

This left the OP’s adopted children feeling really uncomfortable. When Sara spoke up and said, “Oh you mean first grandbaby, not first grandchild,” the dad shook his head and replied that the OP’s niece was their first grandchild. Feeling upset, the OP took her kids and left.
Now, she’s refusing to come to Thanksgiving, telling her parents that they should just have dinner with their “real” family. This has caused major strife in the family. The OP’s brother is mad that his sister is overreacting, but she doesn’t feel like she is.
As a result, she turned to Reddit for their opinion. Here are some replies:

H/T: Reddit
Even those who have been in the children’s shoes commented:

Many were fans of the sister-in-law, Sara:

Last Updated on November 14, 2022 by Sarah Kester