We all love a good conversation with our significant others, but what happens when every chat turns into a lecture? One woman (27F) is at her wit’s end with her boyfriend Rick (28M) who can’t seem to stop teaching her lessons in every conversation they have. While she appreciates his intelligence and passion, she’s longing for simpler, more relaxed talks. But when she finally opens up about her feelings, it doesn’t go as planned…
The Smart Boyfriend
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Intelligent Conversations
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Rick’s Passion for Teaching
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Sometimes It’s Too Much
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Long Hours and Complex Topics
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Opening Up About Her Feelings
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Hurt Feelings
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Feeling Horrible
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Honesty Backfires, Feelings Hurt
After finally opening up about her feelings, our tired girlfriend ends up hurting her boyfriend’s feelings. He claims she’s one of the only people who listens to him talk. Now she’s feeling absolutely horrible and questioning if she’s in the wrong for wanting simpler conversations. What do you think? Let’s dive into the top responses from the internet…
NAH comment section suggests using a safe word to communicate exhaustion.
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Finding a balance between complex and simple talks

NTA. Rick needs to learn how to have a real conversation.

Partner constantly lectures, NTA for wanting a break from it.

Intelligent but emotionally stunted boyfriend? You’re NTA!
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Setting boundaries with a partner who lectures

Equal chores make better relationships.

Boyfriend’s constant lectures are self-absorbed

Partner’s lectures can be overwhelming, but understanding his perspective helps.

Boyfriend’s constant lectures are a turn off for everyone. NTA.

Is he mansplaining or just passionate? NTA seeks advice

Navigating communication in relationships can be tough ♀️. One commenter suggests focusing on the positive , while another urges to toughen up .

Being with someone who constantly lectures can be exhausting

Don’t be a captive audience. Encourage active listening

Boyfriend’s constant lectures may be hurting his credibility

Setting boundaries with talkative partner, NTA.

Empathetic commenter offers advice to frustrated girlfriend.

Savage response shuts down boyfriend’s lectures. NTA

Men who constantly lecture to show off intelligence are bullies

Partner’s lectures leave OP exhausted. NTA for wanting equality.

Is the boyfriend manipulating her? Red flags to watch out for.

Engagingly educational comment with empathetic understanding

Don’t let your boyfriend bore you to death

Setting boundaries is key for healthy communication

NAH: Couple disagrees on lectures vs. relaxation, possible resentment issues.

Boyfriend’s lectures causing frustration but handled maturely. NAH

Partner’s lectures exhausting? Consider if he misses social cues. NTA.

Partner’s condescending behavior is unhealthy. Demand equal respect.
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Being honest with a constant lecturer, NTA wins the day

Partner not considering mental energy for deep conversations.

Boyfriend’s constant lectures exhausting, NTA for speaking up

When your boyfriend won’t stop lecturing about his hobbies ♀️

Commenter advises against marrying controlling partner, receives backlash. ♀️
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Don’t lecture, converse. NTA for wanting mutual benefit.

Finance guy won’t stop lecturing girlfriend. She’s NTA

Honesty shut down by emotions? Not the a-hole, girlfriend!

Healthy communication in relationships is key

Controlling boyfriend wants teacher/student dynamic.

NTA. Partner lectures = boring af. You’re a saint for listening.

Selective listening causing relationship issues?

Encouraging comment suggests boyfriend needs better communication skills

When your partner won’t stop talking
