Women and men going on dates is a tale as old as time. There are many “unspoken rules” that people follow when it comes to dating and the opposite sex.
Some of those rules, to some people, are a bit outdated and arbitrary in a day and age where people are looking for true equality and fairness amongst genders and sexes . However, there are still many people who abide by those rules and see them as an absolute truth that we should all follow.
Many believe that when women and men go out, it’s the man’s responsibility to pay.
There are many people who believe that it’s the guy’s responsibility to pick up the check when going out with a woman.
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No matter who asks who out, how much the bill is, or who eats what, some do believe that it is the way things are “supposed to be” for the guy to pick up the check. However, not everyone agrees with that rule anymore.
Nowadays, people don’t always agree with the whole “guys pay.”
Today, as many women are looking for more equality and fairness, some believe that there are times when women should pick up the check.
Or, if not picking it up entirely, at least splitting the bill with a guy. Now, when we get into relationships and more dates, that’s where people think that women should step up more. Guys shouldn’t always pick up the bill.
Recently, a TikTok user went viral for digging deeper into the whole “who should pay on a date,” conversation.
Kiera Breaugh , who is a teacher and a yoga instructor, recently went into a conversation in a TikTok video shared on the app. In the video, she argues that women “shouldn’t be expected” to ever go 50/50 on a bill when they are taken out on a date by a guy. In fact, she argues that thinking women have to split the bill is “one of the most insidious and ridiculous effects of the patriarchy.”
Essentially, she said it’s backward to say women are “equal” when they really are not equal yet.
Kiera claims that saying women are equal and should pay 50% is backward when women are still not making the same amount of money.
“The fact that men expect women to pay 50/50 when women don’t get 50% of anything? [Not] 50% of the money, 50% of the privilege, 50% of the safety, 50% of the space they’re allowed to take up, none of that. But, pay. Pay equal amounts even though you don’t have equal rights. Do you understand how ridiculous that is,” she asks TikTok viewers.
Kiera says men use this “feminist” act to save themselves time and money.
Essentially, while Kiera thinks being a feminist is a great thing for everyone to be, she thinks men use it for convenience. It’s “easy” for men to say that they are a feminist and believe in equality and that everything should be 50/50 when they are on a dinner date and have to pay. When they claim to do this, they’re saving themselves money, and essentially, they are trolling us all.
All in all, until women are actually equal and making the same amount of money and also earning the same amount of respect, they shouldn’t have to pay.
Essentially, Kiera told everyone on the video that unless women are making the same amount of money as men, they shouldn’t have to pay for anything—especially a dinner date that all men can afford. Kiera ended the video saying “make his pockets hurt,” and, she ain’t wrong about that one.
The video racked up a lot of comments and opinions from people all over the internet.
Many people online agreed with Kiera that men oftentimes use feminism for their convenience. However, others argued that Kiera was “wrong” and that women want to be equal “only when they want to be.” Some people commented that they “think there’s nothing wrong with offering and splitting the bill.”
Another person commented that they’ve changed their perspective on dating.
Another TikTok user commented that originally when they had begun dating, they used to think that offering to split the bill was a “flex.” They felt like they were looking pretty good for saying they wanted to pay for 1/2 of the bill on the date, thinking it showcases they are independent, successful, and almost “woke.” Now, they know better.
Many said it’s a “red flag.”
Others claim that if men are “refusing” to pay for dinner, in the beginning, it’s a red flag and showcases that things will only get worse. Some say that it’s a red flag showcasing that in marriage, things will only be harder, and definitely more complicated.
And, one person added that it doesn’t stop at dinner dates.
One TikTok user reminded everyone that it doesn’t stop at just dinner dates. Men don’t only want it to be 50/50 with dinner checks, but also with all household expenses and bills. However, when it comes down to the labor that goes into the household, they want women to take care of 100% of everything.
Yikes.
