Picture this: you and your spouse have been together for 9 years, married for 5, and you’re both successful in your respective fields. You’ve got a great life together, living in an upscale city apartment, and you’re childfree with a combined income of around 200K. But one day, your wife suddenly announces that she wants to quit her high-paying, stressful job and adopt a ‘softer, feminine lifestyle’ influenced by TikTok videos. She’s got plans to become a freelancer, take on fewer assignments, and indulge in luxurious hobbies. What would you do? Well, our dear husband here is not having any of it! He’s not okay with being the sole financial provider and doesn’t want their lifestyle to change. Let’s dive into this rollercoaster of a story and see how it unfolds!
Account Trouble and Throwaway Time
The Couple’s Background
Finances and Childfree Life
Wife’s Stressful Job
⏰ Long Hours and Coding Struggles ⏰
Wife’s ‘Softer, Feminine Lifestyle’ Plan
Freelancer Plan and Income Cut
Burnt Out and Anti-Hustle Culture
TikTok Influences
Luxurious Tastes and Lifestyle
Delusional Wife and ‘Masculine’ Role
Downgrading and Chores
City Apartment vs. Suburban Home
WFH and Moving
❌ Husband’s Disapproval ❌
No Changes Wanted
️ Therapy and Betrayal ️
Husband’s Firm Stance
Figuring Things Out and TikTok Reality Check
Husband vs. Wife’s ‘Soft Life’ Dream
Our couple seemed to have it all: a great income, a beautiful apartment, and a strong partnership. But when the wife suddenly decides she wants to quit her job and live a ‘softer, feminine lifestyle’ influenced by TikTok, things take a dramatic turn. She dreams of freelancing, indulging in luxurious hobbies, and being taken care of by her husband. But hubby isn’t on board with this plan at all! ♂️ He doesn’t want to be the sole financial provider, and he’s not willing to change their lifestyle. Plus, he feels betrayed that his wife secretly attended therapy sessions without involving him. So, what’s next for this couple? Can they find a way to work through this unexpected twist? Let’s check out what the internet has to say about this situation…
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User suggests wife start cleaning business, NTA judgement.
User empathizes with husband, advises to protect finances. NTA.
User suggests shared goals and work ethic are important in marriage.
Reducing stress is important, but wife’s demands seem unrealistic. NTA.
Husband’s NTA response to wife’s job quitting plan
Protect your assets: consider divorce before she quits
Taking life advice from Andrew Tate’s girlfriend? ♂️ NTA, double up on birth control and get that prenup.
User warns of potential alimony if wife quits job
NTA commenter advocates for divorce to avoid spousal support
Suggesting a sabbatical for stressed wife to avoid unemployment
NTA. Wife wants a ‘tradwife’ lifestyle, but not a job. Husband disagrees.
CS jobs can be low-stress with decent pay
Marriage counseling may help find middle ground for burnt-out wife
Husband stands his ground and gets support. NTA
Spouse quits job for ‘soft life’, but who’s funding it?
Balancing work and leisure is key to a happy life ✌️
User questions wife’s plan, calls her delusional for quitting job.
TikTok women’s ‘men do everything’ attitude is delusional. NTA.
Offering compassion and advice to a struggling spouse.
Sensible advice for a couple with irreconcilable differences.
Burnout can lead to extreme life swings. NTA, but address it.
Sensible advice for the wife’s job search
Husband’s response to wife quitting job is intense
Encourage your wife’s hobbies and budget accordingly. Don’t shoot her down.
Choosing to quit job for hobbies is fine, but not financially wise.
Encouraging suggestion for job switch, NTA judgement, positive tone.
TikTok obsession with ‘princess lifestyle’ compared to Andrew Tate content.
Worried about wife’s entitlement and secrecy, protect yourself legally. NTA.
NTA: Wife’s desire for a less stressful job requires a discussion
Advice for a burnt-out wife: take time to decompress and job-search.
Husband’s dilemma: support wife’s decision or resent her later?
Agreeing on big lifestyle changes is crucial for both partners .
Woman wants soft life on husband’s expense, commenter disapproves.
Preparing financial and contingency plans for a softer lifestyle
Husband criticized for belittling wife’s job burnout. YTA
Empathetic comment suggests therapy to work on relationship and burnout.
No easy solution, professional help needed for NTA couple.
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Take a break for a fresh perspective . Don’t make unilateral decisions. NTA
Supportive comment on burnt-out wife’s decision to prioritize self-care ❤️
Empathy and self-care are important, YTA for not supporting.
Suggests compromise for wife’s job, highlights challenges of entrepreneurship.
Spouse quits job without consulting partner – NTA for standing ground
Self-care is important, maybe a vacation and spa day?
NAH. It’s time to re-evaluate your values and goals
Divorce seems like the only option in this situation
Partner’s right to leave if spouse downgrades lifestyle
When a spouse’s impulse threatens financial stability
Delusional wife wants ‘soft life’ without financial responsibility. NTA.
Partner wants to change dynamic without your consent.
Soft retirement is relatable, but expecting spouse to provide is entitled.
Divorce before she quits so you don’t owe alimony
Sarcastic suggestion to join wife in quitting job and freelancing.
Suggests TikTok as a way for wife to fund lifestyle
Engaging in hobbies doesn’t make you lazy. Suburbs though…
Work-life balance is a tradeoff. Less stress or more money?
Husband refuses to support wife’s ‘soft life’ request
User expresses concern for stored resentment in marriage, wishes well. ❤️
Divorce now for more $$ or try to make it work?
Wanting a ‘soft life’ in your 30s is unrealistic. NTA.
OP’s wife quitting job for ‘soft life’, needs a reality check ⚠️
Husband sets financial boundary with wife quitting job.
NTA husband stands his ground on wife’s unilateral decision
Choosing mental health over money
Compromise with your wife or risk losing her
Supportive comment suggests a sabbatical for burnt-out wife
The hidden cost of a wife’s ‘soft life’
Advice to save a struggling marriage and promote understanding
Joint decision vs. ‘Lady that lunches’
OP rejected counseling, not being a sugar daddy.
Confused commenter questions concept of ‘soft life’ and entitlement.
TikTok’s ‘soft life’ trend has underlying white supremacy agenda
Working at Microsoft, commenter advises against OP’s wife’s plan.
Marriage is a partnership, not a one-person show. NTA
Supportive comment about burnout and mental health in relationships
Empathize with your partner’s burnout before it’s too late
Supportive comment reminds husband to be understanding and helpful
