Imagine being a 21-year-old white woman living in the southern US, fluent in Spanish and English. You’re excited to attend your brother’s housewarming party, where you meet his Hispanic fiancée, Luisa. But when you start speaking Spanish with your brother’s best friend, things take an unexpected turn. Let’s dive into this dramatic story!
Language Enthusiast

Spanish and Chinese Skills

Meet the Fiancée, Luisa

Hispanic Best Friend

Spanish Conversation Begins ️

Including Luisa in the Chat

Luisa’s Furious Reaction

Apology Attempt

The Big Question ❓

A Language Misunderstanding Leads to Drama
Our language-loving protagonist found herself in a sticky situation when she assumed her brother’s Hispanic fiancée, Luisa, spoke Spanish. After engaging in a Spanish conversation with her brother’s best friend, she included Luisa, only to be met with a furious reaction. Despite attempts to apologize, Luisa continued to lash out and badmouth her. Was it wrong to assume Luisa spoke Spanish, or was her reaction over the top? Let’s see what the internet has to say about this dramatic encounter…
Defending a white girl who spoke Spanish at a party

Defending the right to speak any language, regardless of race
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Speaking a different language doesn’t make you an a**hole

Gatekeeping language? Not cool. NTA for speaking Spanish.

NTA, assumption is human nature Her reaction doesn’t fit.

Speaking Spanish is a skill. Anyone can learn it. #NTA

Breaking stereotypes: White girl speaks Spanish, gets judged. NTA.

Empathize with fiancée’s cultural experiences, apologize and move on

White girl’s Spanish at party upset Hispanic fiancée, commenter explains why.

Navigating cultural differences: advice on speaking Spanish at parties

Learning Spanish has its benefits, but don’t assume others speak it. ESH.

The complexities of language and cultural identity in the US
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Mexican commenter defends NTA’s Spanish fluency, shuts down stereotypes.

Expand your language horizons , don’t let others bring you down

Assuming language ability = AH behavior, but NTA overall

Politeness is key when speaking a different language

Cultural assumptions can be hurtful. ESH for rude behavior.

Speaking Spanish is commendable according to NTA commenter

Assuming someone’s language based on ethnicity is not polite. YTA.
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Defending language skills: NTA, not a mind reader

Assuming Spanish-speaking = YTA, but her reasoning is flawed

Defending an assumption, suggesting a humorous response. ♀️

NTA made an honest mistake, but the fiancée needs to chill

Empathetic response to cultural sensitivity in social interactions

Speaking Spanish to a Hispanic person implies they don’t speak English

Accent doesn’t always mean fluency, NTA for speaking Spanish

White girl defends speaking Spanish, suggests education on Spain. NTA.

Defending language skills? NTA, despite being called an a**hole

Language barriers and cultural differences can cause misunderstandings.

Controversial take on Spanish language and cultural appropriation.

Mexican American defends white people speaking Spanish.

Learning a language isn’t racist

Learning other languages is great, but don’t assume everyone speaks Spanish

Multiracial commenter sympathizes but condemns fiancee’s behavior.

Immature fiancée throws tantrum over harmless interaction

Brother should have warned about fiancée’s Spanish skills

Curious about the white girl’s accent and background

Learning Spanish is valuable and should be encouraged.

Misunderstanding leads to rude comment from Hispanic fiancée. NTA.

Encouraging bilingualism and cultural understanding

White girl gets NTA for wanting to learn Spanish

Embrace your cultural heritage, don’t let anyone make you feel ashamed

Clarifying misconceptions about Hispanic/Latino identity

Speaking multiple languages is normal in Europe, NTA.

Language and race are not mutually exclusive.

White girl speaking Spanish: NTA, but Hispanic fiancée flips out

Red flags for a virtue signaling party-goer
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Embrace diversity and don’t be a ‘no sabo’ bully

Defending white girl’s Spanish faux pas. NTA. No harm intended.

Gatekeeper of Spanish language? NTA, give her a chance

Learning a foreign language isn’t cultural appropriation. NTA

Defending language rights and shutting down racism in one comment.

Gatekeeping language learning? NTA, fiancée’s insecurities caused overreaction

Embrace cultural differences, NTA comment shuts down ignorance

Fair assumption, surprising reaction. NTA for speaking Spanish.

Defending against racism and insecurity in language use. NTA.

NTA. Insecurities projected. Speaking Spanish in group is assholish but understandable. Fiancée overreacted.

Speaking another language isn’t cultural appropriation, NTA wins

White girl’s innocent mistake leads to racially charged argument. NTA.

Fluent white Spanish speaker called out for ‘posing’ in US

Debunking the myth that ‘white people can’t speak Spanish’

Embracing diversity: Comment defends speaking Spanish regardless of race.

Learning Spanish: NTA comment encourages language acquisition

Blonde hair doesn’t disqualify speaking Greek. NTA wins!
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Native Spanish speaker defends white girl speaking Spanish at party

Speaking Spanish is not limited to race. NTA.

Embracing language diversity and calling out insecurities.

Defending speaking a foreign language, commenter is NTA
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Speaking Spanish isn’t racist, NTA for not knowing fiancée’s insecurities

White girl criticized for speaking Spanish at party, NTA.

Assuming language spoken, tried to apologize, still called TA.

Fluent in Spanish, but not in sister-in-law’s good graces ♂️
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Gatekeeping a language she doesn’t speak? NTA wins.

Gatekeeping language is wrong. No need to apologize, NTA

Defending the right to speak Spanish, politely calling out ignorance.
NTA
