Wedding Woes: When the Bridezilla Doesn’t Want You as a Bridesmaid, But Still Wants You to Work!

Weddings are supposed to be a time of joy, love, and unity. But what happens when the bride’s demands turn the occasion into a battlefield? Our storyteller, a close family member of the groom, finds herself in a tricky situation. She’s not been chosen as a bridesmaid due to the bride’s ‘traditional’ views and her obsession with even numbers, yet she’s still expected to perform bridesmaid duties. Let’s dive into this rollercoaster of emotions, expectations, and wedding etiquette.

The Unexpected Exclusion

Bridezilla’s Excuses

Tradition Trumps Fairness

The Silent Spectator

The Replacement

A Missed Opportunity?

The Emotional Rollercoaster

The Disappointment

Family Concerns

The Groom’s Restrictions

The Mother of the Groom’s Role

The Unwanted Duties

The Unprompted Conversation

The Future

The Delicate Situation

The Big Question

Bridesmaid or Not: A Wedding Drama Unfolds

Caught in the crossfire of a wedding drama, our storyteller finds herself in a predicament. She’s not a bridesmaid, yet she’s expected to perform bridesmaid duties. The bride’s ‘traditional’ views and obsession with even numbers have led to this exclusion. The groom, her close friend and brother-in-law, remains silent throughout, adding to the tension. With the family uneasy about the impending marriage and the bride’s controlling nature, the situation is delicate, to say the least. The question remains: Is she wrong for refusing to take on bridesmaid jobs without the title? Or for considering declining the role if offered later, knowing the bride’s true feelings? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…

“NTA. And the nerve of her to ask you to do jobs at her wedding, honestly… Just tell her ‘no, I’d rather just be a guest, thanks.’ Go to the wedding, eat, drink, dance and enjoy, and don’t feel any obligation towards her at all. Oh and wear whatever you want.”

NTA: Be a guest and don’t wear same color dress!

NTA: Don’t let them play mind-games, decline and have fun!

NTA: Bridezilla wants a guest book babysitter? That’s insane!

NTA for not wanting to be a bridesmaid, but ESH for the drama and bad manners ‍♀️

NTA. Politely decline and suggest she ask her bridesmaids instead. ‍♀️

NAH. Bride not obligated to include you, but hurtful situation.

Bridezilla drama: OP upset about not being a bridesmaid. YTA.

ESH but you more due to you sounding entitled to be a bridesmaid when you’ve only known her six months – you don’t need to do things you don’t want to do. She also doesn’t need to have you as a bridesmaid. I’m curious why she had to even have that discussion with you? You’ve known her for 6 months of course she is going to have her friends and not her future husband’s brother’s wife.

Bridezilla can’t dictate your role and outfit. Stand your ground! ✋

Setting boundaries with a demanding bridezilla

Stand up for yourself and your husband on their wedding day!

Poor guy! NTA.

Don’t be a bridesmaid, be a peacekeeper! ️

ESH: Entitlement and rejection lead to wedding drama and disappointment

Traditional bridesmaid duties causing a hot mess

NTA. Not your monkey, not your circus.

NAH but close. You’re salty and entitled. Clean it up.

INFO: Close with bride? Maybe not anymore. Bridezilla asks too much.

Wedding planning mode: NTA, but hurt by exclusion. Process emotions.

NTA. Don’t do the work, just relax and enjoy!

Comparing roles: Is it really different from being an usher?

Stand your ground and don’t let her control your role! ✋

NTA: You’re not owed the position, but it still sucks.

Stand your ground and set your boundaries!

Bridesmaid drama: NAH, but you need to chill about traditions

Engaging comment and concerns about bride’s contradictory behavior.

Bridezilla hides behind ‘uneven numbers/traditional’ excuse, but still wants help

“Abusive relationship, controlling bridezilla. We need to intervene delicately.”

NTA. FSIL is a drama queen, controlling and potentially abusive.

Avoid the drama and enjoy the show from the sidelines!

NTA: Dodged a bullet! No bridesmaid drama for you!

Concerned about abusive partner, need to talk to brother-in-law.

Stand up for yourself! ‍♀️ Don’t let her take advantage.

NTA & doing the right thing. Bridezilla took advantage of you

NTA for setting boundaries. Good luck to your BIL.

Be a supportive guest and avoid unnecessary stress.

No entitlement, no obligations! Just go and enjoy yourself! ✨

️ Speak up! NTA, skip the work, enjoy the party!

Groom moving out? NTA! Skip work, go as guest!

NTA – Concerns for BIL’s relationship, intervention in progress

NTA for not being a bridesmaid, but why does it matter?

Set boundaries and assert your worth with a sassy response!

Clash in style and socks to show your petty side!

Guests should be guests, bridesmaids can handle their own duties

Bridezilla’s OCD excuse for excluding us feels like a lie

Bridezilla snubs commenter as bridesmaid, but still expects her help

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